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BRENTWOOD – Kristin Ruggiero will spend 7 to 14 years in state prison for what police say was part of a years-long ploy to use the criminal justice system against her ex-husband, who was thrown in jail and nearly lost his career during a bitter divorce.

Judge Kenneth McHugh said Ruggiero’s attempt to set up her ex-husband and use the legal system as a weapon was unlike any other case he has seen.

“There’s a lot of people, usually women, who have been subjected to abuse by their significant others,” McHugh said, during Ruggiero’s sentencing yesterday. “As a result of her actions, their cases, their safety, their security has been damaged. The web for this is much greater than what has just happened to Mr. Ruggiero.”

A jury found that Kristin Ruggiero registered a disposable cell phone under her ex-husband’s name and sent herself a dozen threatening and suicidal text messages. She then reported to East Kingston police in May 2008 that her ex-husband had violated bail conditions tied to a criminal threatening case, which police learned was also fabricated by the 34-year-old mother.

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By portraying herself as a victim, she duped local police and portrayed her ex-husband, Jeffrey Ruggiero, as a violent monster while the couple was going through a contentious divorce in family court, according to prosecutors.

The couple battled over finances and their 7-year-old daughter.

While Jeffrey Ruggiero was being investigated, his ex-wife called him at all hours and taunted him over the phone, according to court testimony.

“She mocked him. She laughed at him. (She said) ‘I took all your money, I took your daughter and now I am going to take your career’,” Assistant County Attorney Jerome Blanchard said in court yesterday.

Video: Click below to view some of Judge Kenneth McHugh’s comments during sentencing.

He said Ruggiero’s folly came because claims in criminal court had to be backed up — unlike in family court where she made repeated claims about ex-husband’s behavior.

“Unfortunately for her, we’re not in family court anymore,” Blanchard said.

Blanchard argued that Ruggiero continued to try to manipulate the justice system, even after her conviction in May from her jail cell.

In a series of recorded phone calls from the jail played in court, Ruggiero asked her mother to get a letter from a doctor, which would claim that Ruggiero suffered a form of psychosis stemming from addiction to Adderall and alcohol.

“I’m going to pull the mental health card, you know what I mean?” Ruggiero says during the call, which was played in court. “It has to be outpatient in the United States and I can live at home.”

But yesterday, Ruggiero sobbed to McHugh. She apologized for comments she made about the judge and his heart bypass surgery during another phone call.

“Dad, guess what? Judge McHugh had a quadruple bypass!” Ruggiero said during the phone call, only a small portion of which was played in court.

McHugh told prosecutors to skip over that call, saying it wasn’t necessary for the sentencing hearing.

McHugh said it’s likely that Ruggiero cannot be rehabilitated. He told Ruggiero he found her apology yesterday disingenuous.

Defense lawyer Chuck Keefe argued that his client was a caring mother whose judgment may have been affected because she suffered from drug and alcohol dependency.

“I want to say here what the state offers is a sentence of extermination,” Keefe said, while proposing a 12-month jail sentence for Ruggiero.

Before her arrest in September 2008, Ruggiero nearly had the criminal justice and family court system fooled, according to prosecutors. A district court judge convicted Jeffrey Ruggiero of misdemeanor criminal threatening and related charges, but refused to jail him before sentencing.

That allowed Jeffrey Ruggiero to remain free on bail and return to his job as a petty officer in the U.S. Coast Guard.

It enraged Kristin Ruggiero so much that she came up with the scheme about receiving a series of threatening and suicidal text messages. Ruggiero was sentenced on 12 counts of falsifying physical evidence, which each carry a potential 3 1/2 to 7-year prison term.

The case that McHugh repeatedly described as “bizarre” yesterday may not be over.

Prosecutors revealed during Ruggiero’s sentencing hearing that a new criminal investigation related to her is under way.

Ruggiero was also ordered to pay $19,000 in restitution to the East Kingston police department, which conducted the investigation.

YOUR COMMENTS


This is so much more widespread than people realize. There needs to be far more persecution of those who get caught who abuse the system like this especially in child custody cases. I have no sympathy for this pathetic “mother” You?
Michael A. MAstracci, Esquire, Baltimore

Make people think twice about doing this again?

Raise your hand if you think the low life who do these things scour old newspapers to find out whether/how others have been punished for doing it.

You’re delusional. People who do this, act on emotion, not logic. They don’t consider the consequences. They all think they will get away with it.

Matter of fact, most of them do, thanks to a prejudicial family court system that determines quilt based on accusation alone.
Marc, Brentwood

The PRIMARY function of the fraud known as the NH Family Justice System is VENGEANCE. It is first and foremost an instrument of violence to that end. The sound of the child-exploiting, child-maltreating gavels of the farscical masquerade pretending to be a some resemblence of justice shows that the TRUE violence associated with marriage is the about 900% increase [after population growth] in the NH State Prisons inmate population since 1969 when the first U.S. no-fault divorce law was signed into law in CA.

Gov. Lynch claims that NH has been recognized as the best and safest place in the US to raise a child, but omits the fact that compared to 1960’s, it really STINKS for NH kids overall other than for medical advances, opportunities for girls, and government give-away programs.
Mike Smith, N. Hampton, NH

wow,left NH many years ago but my family still lives there. Very sad that only men(with a few exceptions) seem to understand how evil this woman is. Sorry guys that you have had similar experiences. All women are not the same and this nutcase has certainly made it difficult for true victims
beth, temecula ca

Happens Nationwide! Federal IV and ASFA funds LEARN of! One Nation Under FRAUD!
Jewell Flaherty, Bokoshe

It ISN’T just NH folks! Nation and Worldwide! The New allegation USED: Daddys’ RAPE the kids. Yes, go check. CPS for FEDERAL IV funds & ASFA $ too, help Promote Destroying Families, using ANY means, LIES needed, even Use SCHOOL Staff to gain results! Know All to be True-living it Now; Dad IN jail past 1O months, due to “HIS Moms Lies”, as he Didn’t Marry, who She wanted! Court, Cops, CPS know his Mom WELL-her Son, NOT only Man, she’s done this Ruieggero Vindictive Attack on -Long List of MEN, in Oklahoma!
Jewell Flaherty, Bokoshe Oklahoma

She sounds like a scorned nutcase.
Rebecca, Bethlehem

It ISN’T just NH folks! Nation and Worldwide! The New allegation USED: Daddys’ RAPE the kids. Yes, go check. CPS for FEDERAL IV funds & ASFA $ too, help Promote Destroying Families, using ANY means, LIES needed, even Use SCHOOL Staff to gain results! Know All to be True-living it Now; Dad IN jail past 1O months, due to “HIS Moms Lies”, as he Didn’t Marry, who She wanted! Court, Cops, CPS know his Mom WELL-her Son, NOT only Man, she’s done this Ruieggero Vindictive Attack on -Long List of MEN, in Oklahoma!
Jewell, Bokoshe

I too am a victim of a broken court system. More money for something that should have been resolved without needing court intervention.
I recently had to take my ex back to court in Cheshire County. Contempt of court/failure to follow a court order. This after being divorced for nearly 2 years. Instead of a quick resolution ,a plea is made to the court by my ex for an unfair divorce settlement. My lawyer tells me the decision will be made whether to rehear the divorce by either the marital master – he favors women or the judge –he favors men.
How do you get justice from a system that operates this way? You have to hope for the right judge instead of expecting a fair hearing? After a divorce nearly two years you have to go through it again because of allegations that are untrue?
Just another exploited victim, Cheshire County

Union Leader seems selective in posting opinions – this does not help those that have been abused by the system.

Agree with John in Warner, disagree with JC/Merrimack

Gal’s are just as manipulative in the system as the judges, the lawyers the sick, bitter, vindictive ex-wives.

Even with counseling records of my ex’s, in hand, the GAL Doug Thornton wouldn’t even take the time to look at this proof and take it into consideration.

Proves some only care about the women – not the kids.

Doug Thornton made a lame excuse that he didn’t have time to consider them. So to him it’s better to make a bad decision than to ask for a little more time from the court to do the best job?

In this system, the kids don’t count, the fathers don’t count.

The only thing that counts is a corrupt system that at least one judge admits to seeing.
John, Keene

This is life altering. But it’s just a small step to it being something it will never become. Stories like this explain why my neighbor doesn’t want to get to know me or won’t socialize outside the circle they have now. You can let you’re guard down and go on with life not knowing this could be you next. And it’s not the courts doing this, we’re doing it to ourselfs. Makes me wonder how it is familes can survive in this climate of deceit and bait and switch. I thought I knew someone to at one time. Now, I’m not sure of anything.
deter, derry

ACA Blanchard really hit the nail on the head: “He said Ruggiero’s folly came because claims in criminal court had to be backed up — unlike in family court…”

It’s time to end the anti-male sewer that is family court, to expose the lawyer-woman false allegation machine, and to put an end to the fatherless child creation machine in New Hampshire.

This woman got off easy.
gokart-mozart, Concord

As a man , What would I have gotten for a sentence?
Twisted. This man was very lucky people saw through this womans story. The outcome could have been quite the opposite. Everyone knows a woman has the edge in a courtroom.
deter, derry

If the passion poured out in these 73 comments is any indication, something is surely broken in the Family Court system.

I too was falsely accused of threatening and served with a restraining order. My ex never had to show any evidence and I never had a chance to defend myself.

I too was the victim of a marital master (Deborah Rein) who is predisposed to favor the female.

When in doubt, the man must be guilty.

I would hope–but don’t expect for a minute–that this incident would spark a review and correction of this foul system.
Annonymous, Concord

Agree with John in Warner, disagree with JC/Merrimack

Gal’s are just as manipulative in the system as the judges, the lawyers and the sick, bitter, vindictive ex-wives.

Even with counseling records of my ex’s, in hand, explaining her multiple personality disorders and inability to function in the best interest of the children, the GAL Doug Thornton wouldn’t even take the time to look at this proof and take it into consideration.

Proves some only care about the women – not the kids.

Doug Thornton made a lame excuse that he didn’t have time to consider them. So to him it’s better to make a bad decision than to ask for a little more time from the court to do the best job?

In this system, the kids don’t count, the fathers don’t count.

The only thing that counts is a corrupt system that at least one judge admits to seeing.
John, kEENE

Sounds like many making comments to this article have concerns with the NH Courts during divorce.

Please contact Mary Gile as she is the NH House of Reps Family Children and Family Law Committee Chair and would love to hear from you.

mary.gile@leg.state.nh.us

There are public Listening Sessions scheduled for this Fall to hear public issues in the Courts, DCYF and GAL’s.

This case will bring momentum to NH Court Reform if all that have concerns act.
Greg, Chesterfield

I share the pain and frustration of many of the GOOD folks that have commented on this subject.

All to often I heard the GAL (KBS of New London) coining the phrase “what is in the best interest of the child”. We all know that is BS.

Family court matters are dealt with as a business, pure and simple … ALL ABOUT MONEY. The attorneys, which in most cases may include a GAL, are aware of the parties net worth from the beginning through financial affidavits. The more you have, the more they want. Many lawyers may advise clients of unethical practices to drag out the process which in turns leads to added expenses. Undoubtedly the most popular and favorite would be allegations of abuse, which involve police, DCYF, Womens Crisis … etc. Anyone that has been wrongly accused knows that evidence is not required just an accusation.

BOTTOM LINE – Although it does not happen enough, it is refreshing to occasionally see a judge have the moxie to carry out his/her duty and see that justice is served and Mr. Ruggiero’s reputation restored.
Steve, Swanzey NH

Im so greatful for the awsome dective work and the judical system! These actions ruin it for people who are really going through abusive relationships!Kudos to the police and the judge for great work and make people think twice before they do something like this again !!
Roger Cloutier, Bedford NH

men do this to. for the last 8 years a bit more. you dont even know the mental breakdown of a battle like this in the family courts esp these days. esp with one judge i had who thankfully retired. because of the court my kids were abused by there dad and all of us suffered emotionally/ mentally. my kids are still in therapy after 1 year of it finally coming to a halt. weither it starts up again i dont know he get out of jail again in a few months minimum (hes and 8 time felon, known druggie/alcoholic). the courts need changing esp in family court. i wanted to sew the court n judge for all that they did to my family but i was told it would be difficult because the fact it is the court. why should they hurt families and get away with it.
Jay, nh

She should definitly face the full consequences of the law. I’m also going through similar situation with my current wife who has been fabricating all sorts of terrible accusations against me such as abuse that I never even dreamt of. The moment we have an arguement over family issues, she’ll pretend to collapse and call for medical help just to paint a negative picture about me just to make me look bad.
This is one sector of our judicaial system that I strongly think needs some reform. These ladies are really manupilating the system in their favors. I hope this case serves as a lesson.

I.B.
Ibrahim Turay, Manchester

One down thousands of others to go. I have a novel idea, lets treat everyone equally and get proactive. I would love to see these loser judges get the boot, completely clean house of all the sleepers in black robes and start over.
Jorma M., Merrimack

I’m very glad this monster is serving time. How the tide turns. Marital master Nancy Geiger is a disgusting rent a court master that hates men and will not allow any evidence that proves their case. You have a better chance at justice in Iran than her court. The ignorance of her court is like a clown posse gone wild.
David B, Auburn

@jc, merrimack and John, Warner
I was going to say that GALs are mostly corrupt and that is a big part of the problem. It is not about them investigating, they decide early on that they like one side or the other, usually the mother, totally based on prejudices, and not what is best for the child…the only true criterion.

Frustrated step mom in manchester, Manchester NH is right on about this. My GAL did not call my references, whom she had included in the report until AFTER her report was already done. My references reported that she was very indifferent and didn’t seem to care about what they were saying.

Just read Andy in Northwood’s story. It is all too common.

@CAREFREE, FREMONT
You really can’t tell when you get married if a woman is going to put you through hell during a divorce. I never would have guessed it, but my ex sure did.
Steve1, Nashua

This is a fair decision, why? because it happened in criminal court, where the rules of evidence and the Consitution is followed, not like in the “civil court family division” which is ruled by judges personal and political agendas.
Dave, Ashland

In 4 days, it will be 19 years, since my lying, psychotic, Satanic ex-wife said to me…If I knew how to load your rifle, I would kill you with it to keep you away from the children.

With the help of several gutless judges, malignant police and Femarxist advocates, I’ve been turned into fish food in 3 New England States, with the AG and Bar Association of NH ignoring me.

I’m in exile, yet again, from Grafton, with F Troop and another psychotic little girl, trying to bring about my demise.

You have several gutless editors who’ve ignored me, as well.

Restraining orders are today’s guillotines and crosses.

We have 2 generations of children, raised by man hating, nihilistic, sociopathic, psychopathic, narcissistic self loathing, suicidal, homicidal, Children Of The Damned.

I like to refer to most police I’ve met in the last 19 years as The Witch’s Flying Monkeys…
David Merchant, Manchester

I have been accused of child abuse 8 times, domestic violence 2 times, kidnapping 1 time. The GAL in my case sided with my ex the entire time, despite all of this I have custody of my Son. But the Judge also ruled I have to pay for all my sons expenses, medical care for my Son and my ex, and I have to pay child support for the 32 hours a month my ex has visitation. The entire New Hampshire Family Court needs to be destroyed and built up from scratch!
KJ, Nottingham NH

These GALS are nothing but frauds. They take your money and never look at any real evidence and always side with the woman. GAL Karen Griswold Peterson should be relieved of her duties as she is incompetent at best.
Frustrated step mom in manchester, Manchester NH

If the courts can tell people they can’t have animals after abusing them, then can the courts tell her NO MORE MEN?????
EAP, Manchester, NH

The ignorant judges are to blame for the lopsided application of justice in these case’s. These self proclaimed intellectuals must know that these women are playing them for the fools they are. They support the disfunctional court so much that the pendulum has swung so far the other way a man cannot win. These gullible judges don’t want proof it just complicates the inevitable, giving the woman her way.
Peter F., Francestown

Congratulations Jeff!!! Best wishes.. On another note, Thank the Jury for seeing all through her vengence, she deserves every minute of the 7-14 years.. Jeff made out pretty good, she is put away for a while, and his new wife is much more attractive>
Semper Paratus!
KN, chester,nh

Tattoos originated from Japanese criminal justice system, where they tattooed the symbol of whatever crime had been committed such as “thief” – so once they are released, everyone will be able to know what they had been previously convicted of. It would be nice if we did the same with “murderer”, “pedophile”, “attacker”, “manipulator”, etc. Once this woman is released, she is going to do it to the next guy she is with.
tattoo, NH

The union leader for some reason refuses to print my remarks, why? the domestic violence courts have made a mockery of the issue.My uncle, my mothers’ brother-in-law, filed domestic violence against me this March.I hadn’t ever lived with him(or anything else) . I hadn’t seen him in 17 years. We were arguing over my mothers care, she has Alzheimers. He told me to leave the picture,or he’d file d/v against me. He said it would cost him nothing, and no proof would be needed.Goodbye Mom,the state of NH can take care of you now.It’s too risky for me to have any contact with you(her).
Dan, Manchester

Justice in Brentwood is finally served! I’ve been a victim to this exact oppresion for over three years now. My ex wife pulled the mental health card as well and backed it up with false allegations of abuse. The Marital Master awarded her my kids, my house, my money, and ruined my career by topping it all off with a 5-year restraining order and the GAL recommending my ex be allowed to kidnap my two boys (ages 12 (& 14) against there will to Florida just so she can replace me (their biological father) with her new boyfriend.
Andy, Northwood

Paul from Goffstown, it seems you sound ignorant. You sound pretty tough behind a keyboard. You are all talk and no action. Just because someone has an opinion about women you need to bash someone. If that’s what this person’s opinion is, so be it. But thanks, for giving me a laugh though.
Bob, Manchester

Men, please make better choices. There are nice and caring women out there. Not just these manipulating, mean and self centered ones.
CAREFREE, FREMONT

POST #1
The tide may be turning on False Allegations of Domestic Violence or Sexual Abuse in a divorce custody battle in the NH Family Courts based on this one decision; yet there are many, many more that could have been used.

The change is that there will be “eyes and ears” on those that orchestrate these allegations “Eyes and Ears” is a term use by GAL’s to propitiate ongoing external supervision between a parent and child as the result of false allegations in a divorce case. I understand those involved in supporting VAWA and NH CADV do not want to see this tide change as it has the potential to impact millions of dollars in Federal Funding that fuels their existence.

Image those in the Judicial Branch that litigate, recommend Federally Funded Supervised Visitation, and are appointed by the Court to make recommendations for the children, now being more cautious of those that fabricate false allegations. Presently, GALS, CASA, DCYF are “shovel ready” to believe the allegations that surface in a divorce custody dispute. It take Law Enforcement to investigate and allow for Due process, something these agencies fail to observe to fulfill their agenda.
Greg, Chesterfield

I hope she has to serve the full 14. What a disgusting thing she has done to her ex and her child.
Maria, Manchester, NH

white trash is alive and well in nh.
i’m sure she’ll be planning a trip to canobie lake park with all the others of her sort.
mike b., manchester

women almost always lie to the authorities about things like these. i said almost always, not always. most of the time they start the arguements and assault the man and the man goes to jail! well done criminal justice system! now time to convict her new boyfriend who told her how to do these things… oh and he is 1 of those no good lying cops!
pablo, nh

I had the same thing happen to me. For the last three years My ex-wife made up all kinds of false accusations about me abusing her. She never once took accountability for her violent and abusive behaviors during our marriage, she pinned the blame all on me. She fraudulently applied for a 5-year restraining order and after two days of days of hearings with multiple credible witnesses for my side, Guardian Ad Litem Vicki Silver, Marital Master Thomas Cooper, and Judge David G. LeFrancois over at Brentwood Superior Court let her get away with it and gave her everything she wanted: my kids my life, my career, my money, and my kids! Only because she had a snake for a lawyer and I was Pro-se. The battle is still waging on now, going on 4 years. I’m now dedicated to ending these criminal judicial tyrants careers for good. It’s the only way to get any justice in this state. Redress Grievances for all!
Andy, Northwood, Northwood, NH

Nice roots, Kristin. I love the skunk look.
Steve B, Derry

It is good to see they don’t always get away with it. The numbers of angry women gaming the court system to make weapons of the courts and children is astonishing and the lack of investigation or interest paid by the state in most cases is even moreso.
Nick, Manchester

Unfortunately this knucklehead has made it a tad more difficult for legitemate abuse victims to be taken seriously. -John, New Boston

Your attitude/statement is part of the problem John. Finally the abuse victim WAS taken seriously. Inherent in your comment seems to be the idea that only women can be victims. That cannot be further from the truth.

This case is just one example of how women and lawyers manipulate the system, threaten and abuse families and drive men to and beyond the edge. It happens all the time.
This crazy creature pushed too far and often, but she is no isolated example of the future/former ex.

Fortunately this Knucklehead has made it easier for legitimate abuse victims to be taken seriously.

I hope as you do, that no woman who is a victim of abuse is harmed by this ruling.
Steve, Lee

WOW – I am so happy for the ex husband in this case – he must be so relieved!!! He FINALLY got her nailed in court – and vindicated himself in the process. Unfortunately, he had to go through a lot of crap to get here, but it’s great to see that the justice system works for some people (only wish it had worked for me!)
nhhorselady, weare, nh

I, like MANY other men I know of, have been victims of similar behavior (false allegations) from malicious women and their unscrupulous liers (lawyers).

I have been in court many times and seen men sent off to jail based solely on the “she said” so-called evidence. I find it remarkable that the general public doesn’t even blink when a father is separated from his children, but think it’s horrible even when a toxic poisonous d-bag like this is.

Hello, this judge did the right thing, and probably will feel the backlash from all of the VAWA grant-whores and “womens” groups who have fought so hard to establish the unfair system we have in place today. The judge did the daughter a potential favor by separating her from such a bad influence, a pathological lier who no doubt would have infected her innocent daughter with her multiple personality disorders and pathologies.
John, Manchester, NH

Don’t get too excited folks. This ruling is the exception, not the rule. In today’s world, anytime a woman makes a charge against a man, he is guilty before proven innocent and even if he is found to be innocent, he will STILL have a stigma attached to him in one form or another.

I doubt she will serve even 7 years.
– Jim D, Hillsboro

Jim – we are excited because we see this as a potential turning point to a place where the child’s wellbeing is put first. Not the non custodial parent who wants to avoid financial obligations; Not the custodial parent who tries to use custody as a weapon. These children are the best of our times together and last far beyond the end of our relationships. We need to put them first!
All allegations in family courts should be substantiated – punishments issued for blatantly false accusations!
Physical custody should go to the better parent – if it cannot be shared – regardless of your gender!

People – take a good hard look at potential spouses before you commit!!!
Traci, Manchester

How does sentenced to 12 counts each carrying 3.5 to 7 years in prison equal 7-14 years??
James, Concord

its about time that woman are being punished for what they did. If this was a man it would be open and shut case. Just like all the teachers having relationships with kids. Woman see no jail time while men see no light for at least 7 years. about time
stephen, manchester

This just made my day, good job court system……
Ben, Concord, NH

I agree this should be a wake-up call for local courts. Check out those apps for restraining orders with a fine tooth comb!
G. Paul, Concord

Post #1
The tide may be turning on False Allegations of Domestic Violence or Sexual Abuse in a divorce custody battle in the NH Family Courts based on this one decision; yet there are many, many more that could have been used.

The change is that there will be “eyes and ears” on those that orchestrate these allegations “Eyes and Ears” is a term use by GAL’s to propitiate ongoing external supervision between a parent and child as the result of false allegations in a divorce case. I understand those involved in supporting VAWA and NH CADV do not want to see this tide change as it has the potential to impact millions of dollars in Federal Funding that fuels their existence.

Image those in the Judicial Branch that litigate, recommend Federally Funded Supervised Visitation, and are appointed by the Court to make recommendations for the children, now being more cautious of those that fabricate false allegations. Presently, GALS, CASA, DCYF are “shovel ready” to believe the allegations that surface in a divorce custody dispute. It take Law Enforcement to investigate and allow for Due process, something these agencies fail to observe to fulfill their agenda.
Greg, Chesterfield

Yet more reasons to stay single to be happy. The US justice system is completely stacked against men. Luckily, in this case the woman was outed. Unfortunately, this doesn’t happen often….
Kevin, greenland, nh

John from Warner:
I see and know your point about GAL’s. They are so backlogged with case work, that they do not take the time to seriously investigate the children and parents they are assigned to. To all of you men taking aim at women, I know where you are coming from, and how you feel, but, do not think that it is all women doing this to their spouses. Men are and can be just as evil as women, in these cases. I know it first hand. The Gal, and the judge, goes with the side that has the lawyer, and the side that can make themselves look better.
Kathy, Manchester

It really sucks that a woman like that can ruin the system for women that are actually victims of Domestic Violence. Its sick.
Rose, Manchester

I have been following this case from the beginning, this woman is disturbed and she is getting exactley what she deserves, hopefully she wqill have to serve the full 14 years and not a day shorter. One check up on the board for us fathers!!!!!!
chris, Derry, NH

This woman got exactly what she deserves. Hope “Truth in Sentencing” applies.
Divorced and harassed ex, Manchester

PLEASE UL print these coments from these fathers in a front page story so the judges and marital masters can see how they ruin mens lives with the ridicules decisions they make in favor of women because they are women and only because they are women, To many women get married to wonderful men have children only to divorce for whatever reason ,then use the family court for revenge and these court officers cant or wont see that 90% of the time the women are lawyerd up and throw whatever out and hope one thing sticks to make the guy out to be some abuser or miser who wants only to hurt the child he brought into the world. Isnt it funny the court thinks just because a couple divorces instantly the man becomes this monster who wants his family to suffer. This is only one of many stories that PROVE DIFFERENT but nobody in family court will do anything about it SO SAD for the men and children out there that are missing out on a great life together instead a vengeful mother wallows in her victory and the courts are the corrupt referees who look up proud to be part of a system that punishes those evil doers MEN!
Disgusted, Manchester

Judging by the new law, SB500, and reduced prison sentences for women felons; she will be out in less than three years. By “reduced prison sentences”, I refer to the practice of NH corrections-courts releasing women early, when the women appeal for sentence reduction. Keep in mind, the numerous embezzlement felons (lunch ladies, city administrators, an administrator at the Concord Monitor) that have gotten their sentences reduced or changed to ‘home confinement’, so the state can save a few bucks. Yeah, she’ll request, and get a reduction. Guaranteed.
Frank, Concord

It’s nice to see the judicial system issue due justice in this case. Never a good idea to bad mouth the presiding justice. Unfortunately this knucklehead has made it a tad more difficult for legitemate abuse victims to be taken seriously. That’s what “mean spirited” will get you.
John, New Boston

To Amy, Deerfield:

This father has NOT gotten his rights back. He has been cleared but he is still fighting for custody in court. His daughter is living with the family that enabled this felon. The laws in this country are not protecting this precious child or her dad. These victims have been punished enough. Give Jeff his daughter back!!!
Yeah Right, Portsmouth

@ West Coast Nancy;

Yes I am serious. I do absolutely agree with your point that the girls mother probably would not have been a positive influence in her life, however I find all motherless children sad. This woman probably already had won her case in Family Court, but that was not enough for her she became greedy, and good for her she is getting what exactly she deserves.
Mike, Wolfeboro

John from Warner- don’t see your point at all. GAL’s no matter what profession they come from are competent and able to investigate for the child’s best interest. Fortunately, this woman is going away which is where she belongs. Sadly and I mean very sadly, she has set a negative stage for those that really are abused. She deserves that sentence.
jc, merrimack

Do you know how many women actually do this? My husband ex did it for years. Filed restraining orders and lied on them. Took away the kids because she felt like it. We felt like the court systems didn’t care because she was a women. Glad they are actually doing something. But wondering how many other lives have been ruined by the state of nh court system?
Sara, hooksett

This woman should rot in prison, there are lots of woman like this, I’m sure we all know someone that’s like this… IT’S Time we take a 2nd look before we imprison inoccent people, she played the system & in the end the SYSTEM put her right where she belongs
Jim, Danvers, MA

I don’t think the time fits the crime, she should have gotten a lot more time.I bet this happens all the time in family court, and there should be guidelines put in place so it doesn’t happen. And finally I hope the child, and ex can move pass what this horrible person did to them, I wish them all the best!!
Mike, Sanbornton

What an absolute freak.
George, Keene

“The best way to avoid all of this is stay single and don’t date. Save you a boatload of cash.”
-Outsider, NH

Yes, if anything can possibly end badly it’s better to not even try. That’s the winning attitude this country was built on. I get the feeling that the ladies aren’t exactly banging down Outsider’s door anyway. Keep telling yourself that it’s because you’re not trying friend.
Paul, Goffstown

I am a private investigator. I see thnis a lot in family court. Accusations with no substance.

That court handles it by appointing a GAL
to investigate.

All well and good except a GAL is a lawyer, paralegal, social worker, psychologist.

Who in that group is trained to INVESTIGATE?

Anyone see the problem?
John, Warner

I feel she got a fair trial.

End of story.

See ya honey
Harry, Atkinson

Don’t get too excited folks. This ruling is the exception, not the rule. In today’s world, anytime a woman makes a charge against a man, he is guilty before proven innocent and even if he is found to be innocent, he will STILL have a stigma attached to him in one form or another.

I doubt she will serve even 7 years.
Jim D, Hillsboro

I really feel for the victims of this woman. Can you imagine what hell it must have been to have some wacko like this trying to destroy your life? It is scary that she got as far as she did. This judge and the police deserve a pat on the back for this case. Thankfully they saw through her lies. She deserves a long jail sentence, and her daughter may be motherless but in this case I think it is better for her. What a freak this woman is!
Stacey, Manchester

Family courts a joke. I’m amazed how any woman can’t walk into a court and say those 2 magical word “I’m scared or I’m afraid” an in a heartbeat they can get a restraining order but be a man and got told it could takes up to 3 days before issuing one. Told the marital master show me were it say’s a woman a better parent then a man. Took over 8 month and jumping through hoops to prove to the court that my ex was an unfit parent. Told the judge my only crime was being a divorced white male living in the United States and here’s another example to back up that claim. Hope she rot
s in prison.
don, manchester

I can’t see why anyone would want to marry this deranged broad. (sarcasm noted for the reading comprehension impaired) Rot in prison wench.
Will, Pittsfield

To Mr. Jeffrey Ruggiero, Peace, Love and Happiness to you and your daughter.

To Kristin Ruggiero, Seven to fourteen years and restitution are not enough!
You are despicable!
You should have been executed!
art, Hampstead,NH

This is great news! Finally a father gets the rights he deserves too bad it was such a long and tedious battle. The family court system needs a HUGE wake up call here in NH. Just because they are men doesn’t automatically make them the bad parent, sometimes the woman is worse and a munipulator who just knows how to work the system or gets a pro bono lawyer who works it for them. When are they going to take a serious look at overhauling the family court system here in NH?
Amy, Deerfield

Mike from Wolfeboro.. Are you serious? The child will be away from her mother?! That is good news! Girls grow into their mothers. You would want two of these women in society, who will breed more mini-mamas?! (Reminder to self~ that is why you left NH years ago, Nance!~ 1950’s view of the world living in the 21st century!)
Nancy, West Coast, now…

“Defense lawyer Chuck Keefe argued that his client was a caring mother whose judgment may have been affected because she suffered from drug and alcohol dependency.”

No Mr. Lawyer, your client is just a horrible shrew. She didn’t get enough time in prison.

It is too bad that all women, who pull this crap (any lying) in divorce court don’t get sentenced, but the judges and marital masters NEVER punish them for OBVIOUS lies.

I totally agree with Mike in Auburn and Collin in Manchester. I love that recommendation Jim in Loudon. I have always said the same thing.
Steve1, Nashua

Unfortunately, Judge McHugh is right: this woman’s lies will most likely affect the ability of hundreds of women who truly ARE abused & stalked to get justice.

There’s no question that many women play the abuse card as a preemptive strike in the family courts. Judges should be more in tune now with trying to verify the accuracy of those claims.
PK, Manchester

Maybe some of her websites should come down now. This website shows her ex-husband’s picture under her name. How creepy is that!

http://www.plaxo.com/directory/profile/167505972436/9f41d462/Kristin/Ruggiero
Yeah Right, Portsmouth

Family court in NH needs an adjustment. When the truth in directly in front of them they chhose to ignore it everytime.
I am happy that Mr. Ruggiero is able to move on and be the parent to raise his daughter.
Angela, Derry

This happens a lot more than the general public knows. A spouse makes up totally false statements about abuse and the courts are terrified not to respond on the spot with warrants. In cases where the reports are proven to be false there is little done to the fabricator. Glad to see are starting to change.

If a person makes a statement (man or woman) accusing someone of a crime and the report is proven to be false then they should then be charged with a crime with a penalty equal to twice what the person was falsely charged with.
Jim, Loudon

If the UL had a like button this story would would be off the charts!
I love this one “Keefe argued that his client was a caring mother whose judgment may have been affected because she suffered from drug and alcohol dependency” Really? Did you think the judge just fell of the turnip truck?? Seems to me that this was all planned with vengence and greed as motivation.
7 to 12 is not long enough, however she’ll have a great story to tell up in Goffstown.
Sydney, Londonderry

@ Mike in Auburn

I agree, (from experience) that we SHOULD look at burden of proof in family court. Using unsubstantiated claims to make decisions on the welfare of children or the division of property is ludicrous.
collin, manchester

This case will send a message to to others who think they can pull off this type of crap.

Justice should be for all not for some. That district court judge that convicted Jeffrey Ruggiero should be impeached. You don’t send innocent people to jail.
Chris, Merrimack

Looks like the days of women winning everything in court is coming to an end. Now the judges will now question everything both sides have to say in court. The best way to avoid all of this is stay single and don’t date. Save you a boatload of cash.
Outsider, NH

Maybe we should look at burden of proof in family court.
Mike, Auburn

Judge Mchugh
dhc, davecoltin

Perhaps now District Court Judges will be a bit more skeptical when listening to someone’s constant tale of threats, harassment and woe.

I bet the District Court Judge that convicted Jeffrey Ruggiero must feel like a schmuck.
FearlessLdr, Hillsboro

7-14 years is a long jail sentice, but it is certainly necessary to send a message to any person considering this kind of tactic in the future. Unfortunately I found out from personal experience that an ex can get away with wild unsubstantiated allegations in Family Court. This woman will not get to be a mother to her child until she is a teenager. This is truly is sad for her daughter. Then to say she was going to pull the “mental health card” like the courts has never heard that one before. A classic case of being too clever for her own good.
Mike, Wolfeboro

Thank you Judge McHugh and East Kingston PD for letting the Ruggiero’s be able to finally put this behind them.
Firework guru, goffstown

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Md. woman sentenced for severe child abuse

By: SARAH KARUSH
Associated Press
01/08/10 5:49 PM EST

PRINCE FREDERICK, MD. — An 8-year-old girl with scars on most of her body from regular beatings by the woman she used to call “Mommy” confronted her abuser in court Friday, telling her: “I do not think you will be going to heaven.”

The woman, Renee Bowman, is accused of killing the girl’s two older sisters and keeping their bodies in a freezer for months. She was sentenced Friday in Calvert County Circuit Court to 25 years in prison for the abuse of the surviving girl. Bowman, 44, pleaded guilty in September to first-degree child abuse.

She faces a separate trial on murder charges in Montgomery County, where the family lived previously and where her other daughters are believed to have been killed.

All three girls were former foster children adopted from the District of Columbia, and Bowman continued to collect subsidies for all of them from the D.C. government even after the older children were killed.

The surviving girl, who was 8 months old when Bowman became her foster mother, was found wandering around her Lusby neighborhood in a bloodstained nightshirt after escaping through a window in September 2008.

Police searched the home and found the bodies in the freezer, as well as a high-heeled shoe used to beat the youngest. Feces and urine were found in the girl’s bedroom and in a closet because she had been locked in both places, Calvert County State’s Attorney Laura L. Martin said. The child had human bite marks and shoe marks on her body, a piece of her lip was missing, and she had broken bones that improperly healed, Martin said. The girl could not read and authorities found no evidence that she had ever been to school.

The girl, who was dressed neatly in a black and white dress and came to the hearing with the therapist and her foster parents, appeared to shudder and put her head on her foster mother’s shoulder when Bowman was first led into the courtroom. But moments later she laughed loudly after her foster mother whispered something in her ear.

The girl was led out of the courtroom while Martin described the abuse. After she was brought back in, Martin asked her if she wanted to make a statement. Clutching a piece of paper, she walked to the front of the courtroom with her therapist by her side.

“You should never do things to little girls or little boys because God sees you and will put you on the liars list. I do not think you will be going to heaven,” she told Bowman in a barely audible voice. Martin later provided a copy of the statement.

“I’m happy now. I know my math. I read. I am in the first grade. It’s amazing I got that far,” she added. “I have a lot of people who love me.”

Martin said the girl made a point of reading the statement to prove she could read to Bowman, who claimed the girl couldn’t learn.

Before Judge Marjorie L. Clagett handed down the sentence, Bowman apologized to the judge and to the victim.

“I’m very remorseful. I don’t know what happened. I’m very sorry for my actions. … I wish her the best with her family and I’m proud of her,” she said. “Despite what Ms. Martin says, I do have love in my heart for her.”

Bowman claimed she tried to return the girl to the adoption agency after she realized she couldn’t handle her.

Public defender Dorothy Gardner-Hodge, in arguing for a lower sentence, said Bowman was abused as a child and in foster care from an early age. She said her mother and sister both suffer from mental illness and that Bowman suffers from chronic pain and has been treated for breast cancer.

Clagett sentenced Bowman to the maximum sentence allowed because of the horrific nature of the crime. She said she wouldn’t rule out sending her to serve her sentence at the Patuxent Institution, a psychiatric treatment facility that is part of Maryland’s corrections system. However, she said she would need more information before she did so.

Clagett said the system failed the girl, but told Bowman: “You were her mother. You were meant to protect her and nurture her, and all that happened was just the opposite.”

03:56 11/6/2009

November 6th 2009

An Anna, Texas woman has been convicted of sexual assault involving her daughter even though she was never accused of molesting the child.

A Collin County jury found Michelle Lynn Smith, 42, (pictured left) guilty of three counts of aggravated sexual assault because she allowed her husband to repeatedly abuse the preschool child, said Crystal Levonius, lead prosecutor in the case.

“She knew what he was and what he liked,” Levonius said. “She continually gave him access to her.”

Each count carries 70 years in prison and will run consecutively. Smith will have to serve 90 years of the 210-year sentence before she will be eligible for parole.

“I don’t believe Ms. Smith ever wanted the little girl to be abused,” said Thomas D’Amore, Smith’s defense attorney. “There was never any evidence presented that she intended or aided it.”

Levonius disagreed, saying that Smith knew Glen Bracy was a registered sex offender when she met him and was warned by a therapist not to marry him.

Smith ignored the warning and married Bracy on Jan, 26, 2002.

At the time, Bracy already had two prior convictions for child molestation. In California, he was found guilty of molesting a deaf and mute child, Levonius said.

In 1995, he was convicted in Collin County of indecency with a child by sexual contact and sentenced to five years in prison. He was on parole for that conviction when he met Smith. Their daughter was born in 2002, the same year they married.

Levonius said the family would sleep together naked, and that Bracy began molesting his daughter before her second birthday.

The child reported the abuse in 2007, when she was 4 years old. She told officials that “Michelle” would watch as the sexual abuse took place, court documents show.

When he was arrested, Bracy confessed to sexually abusing his daughter “up to 50 times.” Bracy, now 42, is serving five life sentences for aggravated sexual assault.

Levonius thinks Smith’s conviction on the same charges sets a precedent for Collin County and sends a message to other mothers who allow their children to be sexually abused.

“You’re going to be held accountable if you help sex offenders get access to your child,” she said.

Levonius said the girl is now in a much happier place.

Five weeks after being placed in foster care, the child “initially denied having a family other than her foster family,” court records show.

The child, who is now 7, has been adopted.

“Although she grew in Michelle Smith’s womb, she’s grown in the heart of her new mother,” Levonius said. “She’s with a family that loves her and protects her.”

She also calls the child a hero for reporting the abuse. At the time, Michelle Smith had given birth to a second daughter, who was 4 months old when both children were removed from the home.

“By speaking out, she was able to protect her younger sister,” Levonius said. “She’s a hero because I have no doubt that the 4-month-old would have been in store for the same life.”

http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/news/localnews/stories/DN-momgetslife_06met.ART0.State.Edition1.4b87aab.html

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Female Predators..They live among us!

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They are real, they live among us and they will emotionally scar your little boy for life.. The movie industry has always picture the relationships woman-teenager as something to brag about, the idea of a young boy having sex with an experimented woman appears to turn some audiences on. However in a recent study Dr. Eric Hickey, PH.D. (Director of the Center for Forensic Studies – Alliant International University) describes this experience as follows: “Boys seduced by female teachers predators will usually experience long term trauma that affects their self-esteem, sense of security, and trust levels with others. A 13 year old boy will seldom grow up thinking how cool that was to have sex with his teacher, especially as they begin to understand terms such as sexual assault and child rape. Sexual violation of a child is traumatic regardless of who commits the act”. The truth is that female predators are not limited to the famous story of Mary Kay LeTourneau, the teacher that seduced her student and gave birth to his kids. Female predators could be a close friend of the family, one of his Little friend’s mothers, could be just anyone! These women are usually emotionally immature and seeking for a relationship. Some of them might have been sexually abused on their early years and are not capable to develop a normal relationship with a man their age. According to studies, 95% of predators are males and female predators are more likely to cease on his predatorial seek after being released from prison. 25 years ago, women who would had sexual relations with a minor were considered mentally sick and were sent for physiquiatric treatment only. Today, a female predator will go to prison and spend as much as a male predator depending on her crime. And how does a female predator looks like? Unfortunately, they look just like anyone of us! They are young and old, any race, and the majority or them are good looking which is a plus for them attracting young boys who, at first feel flattered because “a woman like that” is flirting with them. They will bragg with their friends and go on secret dates which will become more and more demanding by the female predator. These women want to be sexually satisfied and will treat their victims as a mature man seeking for protection and love. They will be jealous of their friends and even other teenage girls that could approach their prey. These females will do anything to keep their victims! From threatening with suicide if they leave them, to bribe them with all kind of gifts and even money. They are like a spider guarding their prey. Of course the parents of the victim are their worse enemy and the female predator will do anything on her power to turn the young boy against them to the point to make him run away from home and go to live with her. FIRST SIGNS – Look for unexplained mood changes whenever he comes back from school, don’t be afraid to ask your child even if he gets even moodier. – Establish an honest and rulesless channel of communication with your kids, predators hate that! – Meet his teachers and make sure you know all his friends and parents, don’t hesitate to ask for references. – Be aware of long periods of time chating on the Internet, your are the parent and you have the right to check on his conversations. – Place the computer in the living room or any other place where he, she won’t have much privacy. The video conversations today are full of predators chating with their victims inviting them to expose themselves in front of the camera. – If you have a gut feeling about someone approaching your son with too much interest, whatch out! Just remember this that it is not normal for an adult to want to spend all her or his free time with someone else’s child. – Check on his cellular phone conversations, you pay the bill right? Well you check it regularly and find out what numbers appear on that statment and who these numbers belong to. You will be amazed! – Check the predator’s list in your area! Although most of female predators have not yet been discovered, some of them already appear at the FDLE web sight http://www.fdle.state.fl.us/static.index.html. Another useful web sight is the http://www.familywatchdog.us/ where you can log in and even request to be warned via e-mail when a sexual predator or sex offender moves too close to your neighborhood. Awarness and prevention are usually the most effective weapons against these criminals: use them! It is always better than deal with a traumatized child for the rest of your life.

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Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Mothers commit vast majority of parental murders of children

Although the data is U.S. sourced there are similarities in English speaking western democracies. Click on the link below for the source data. Federal Data: Mothers commit vast majority of parental murders of children These data are not blips. The trend is clear over many years that the mother (female) is responsible for the greatest amount of child abuse and child murder in family relationships. How then can it be there is no tax supported DV or emergency shelters for men in Canada; how can it be there are few, if any, (I haven’t found any yet) tax supported counseling services for men in marital breakdown in Canada; how can it be woman’s groups can tap into such large amounts of tax support to send out propaganda about how vulnerable they are; how can these DV groups spout the invective they do against men when their own clients are the worst perpetrators of abuse to children. How many women are actually in these shelters because of DV; how many are in them for addictions; how many are planning a false ex parte order to nail hubby while he sleeps; how many are in there because they are hiding from legal pursuits of them; how many are “passing through” while traveling. I think an accounting and operational audit of these facilities should be part and parcel of their ability to obtain tax funds. There is no doubt some women are there because they have no recourse and are subject to abuse but it casts a pall over them if many are there for other reasons. They are emergency shelters – so called – for Domestic Violence – at least in terms of the marketing of them to get tax funding. Is there something wrong with our values? Is there something wrong with government largess and what is wrong with us men for laying down and taking this misinformation from groups like the Tennessee DV coalition as described here amongst many others.

Figure 3-3 Victimization Rates by Age and Sex, 2007 Child Maltreatment 2007

Victimization Rates by Age and Sex, 2007 This bar graph breaks the victim population into age groups as follows: Less than 1, 1, 2, 3, 4–7, 8–11, 12–15, and 16–17 and either boy or girl sex. According to this graph, the youngest age group is the most victimized, with a rate of 22.2 boys and 21.5 girls per 1,000 children of the same age and sex group. The oldest children were victimized the least frequently.

Victims by Perpetrator Relationship, 2007 This pie chart presents victims by relationship to their perpetrators. More than 80 percent (80.1%) of victims were maltreated by at least one parent. Nearly 40 percent (38.7%) of victims were maltreated by their mother acting on her own. Note the rate by mom and other is 44.4% while dad and other is 18.8%. The rate by the mother is 2.36 times higher than dad. That is 236% greater. Now how to explain that away to those who believe only men are abusive.MJM Table 4-5 Perpetrator Relationships to Child Fatalities, 2007 Child Maltreatment 2007

Relationship to Child Child Fatalities
Number Percent
PARENT Blank Cell
Mother 347 27.1
Mother and Other 96 7.5
Father 208 16.3
Father and Other 11 0.9
Mother and Father 232 18.1
NONPARENT Blank Cell
Daycare Staff 24 1.9
Foster Parent (Female Relative) 0 0.0
Foster Parent (Male Relative) 0 0.0
Foster Parent (Nonrelative) 3 0.2
Foster Parent (Unknown Relationship) 3 0.2
Friend or Neighbor 2 0.2
Legal Guardian (Female) 0 0.0
Legal Guardian (Male) 0 0.0
More than One Nonparental Perpetrator 52 4.1
Other Professional 2 0.2
Partner of Parent (Female) 4 0.3
Partner of Parent (Male) 35 2.7
Relative (Female) 29 2.3
Relative (Male) 20 1.6
Staff Group Home 2 0.2
Unknown or Missing 210 16.4
Total 1,280 Blank Cell
Percent Blank Cell 100.0

Perpetrator Relationships to Child Fatalities, 2007 This table first lists perpetrator relationships including mother, mother and father, father, mother and other, father and other, female daycare staff, more than one nonparental perpetrator, unknown, etc. In the next column is listed the number of child fatalities from the specified perpetrator. The third column lists the percentage. More than 27 percent (27.1%) of child fatalities were perpetrated by a mother acting alone. Moms and another are more than twice as likely to kill a child as a dad and another.MJM

Figure 4-2 Fatality Rates by Age and Sex, 2007 Child Maltreatment 2007

Fatality Rates by Age and Sex, 2007

Fatality Rates by Age and Sex, 2007 This bar graph shows two groupings of victims, one for boys and one for girls. Each grouping displays the fatality rates for each sex by age group. The graph indicates that the youngest children have the highest fatality rates for both sexes. Note boys have the higher death rates.MJM Some data on child abuse from Child Maltreatment 2006, a report by the Federal Administration for Children & Families…

Figure 4-2 Perpetrator Relationships of Child Fatalities, 2006

Child Maltreatment 2006

Perpetrator Relationships of Child Fatalities, 2006

Perpetrator Relationships of Child Fatalities, 2006 This pie chart indicates that 27.4 percent of child fatalities were perpetrated by the mother acting alone. Such non-parental perpetrators as daycare providers, foster parents, or residential facility staff were responsible for 14.6 percent of fatalities. Leaving aside killings by non-parents or by mothers and fathers acting together, mothers committed a significantly greater number of the parental murders of children.

Figure 3-5 Victims by Perpetrator Relationship, 2006

Victims by Perpetrator Relationship, 2006

Victims by Perpetrator Relationship, 2006 This pie chart shows that 39.9 percent of child victims were maltreated by their mothers acting alone; another 17.6 percent were maltreated by their fathers acting alone; 17.8 percent were abused by both their mother and father. Victims abused by a nonparental perpetrator accounted for 10.0 percent.

Table 4-5 Perpetrator Relationships to Child Fatalities, 2006 Child Maltreatment 2006

Relationship to Child Child Fatalities
Number Percent
Mother 288 27.4
Mother and Other 121 11.5
Father 138 13.1
Father and Other 16 1.5
Mother and Father 235 22.4
Female Relative 31 3.0
Male Relative 17 1.6
Female Foster Parent (Relative) 0 0.0
Male Foster Parent (Relative) 0 0.0
Female Partner of Parent 0 0.0
Male Partner of Parent 30 2.9
Female Legal Guardian 1 0.1
Male Legal Guardian 0 0.0
Foster Parent (Nonrelative) 5 0.5
Foster Parent Unknown Relationship 4 0.4
Staff Group Home 4 0.4
Daycare Staff 32 3.0
Other Professional 0 0.0
Friend or Neighbor 2 0.2
More than One Nonparental Perpetrator 26 2.5
Unknown or Missing 100 9.5
Total 1,050 Blank Cell
Blank Cell Blank Cell 100.0
Based on data from 36 States.

Perpetrator Relationships to Child Fatalities, 2006 This table first lists perpetrator relationships including mother, mother and father, father, mother and other, father and other, female daycare staff, more than one nonparental perpetrator, unknown, etc. In the next column is listed the number of child fatalities from the specified perpetrator. The third column lists the percentage. More than 27 percent (27.4%) of child fatalities were perpetrated by a mother acting alone. The following are data from 2005.

Figure 4-2 Perpetrator Relationships of Child Fatalities, 2005 Child Maltreatment 2005

Figure 4-2

Note the mother (female) again is responsible for the vast majority of deaths of children.

Table 4-5 Perpetrator Relationships of Fatalities, 2005 Child Maltreatment 2005

Blank Cell Child Fatalities
Perpetrator Number Percent
Mother 287 28.5
Mother and Other 104 10.3
Father 159 15.8
Father and Other 16 1.6
Mother and Father 205 20.4
Famale Relative 24 2.4
Male Relative 7 0.7
Female Foster Parent (Relative) 0 0.0
Male Foster Parent (Relative) 0 0.0
Female Partner of Parent 6 0.6
Male Partner of Parent 33 3.3
Female Legal Guardian 1 0.1
Male Legal Guardian 0 0.0
Female Foster Parent (Nonrelative) 5 0.5
Male Foster Parent (Nonrelative) 1 0.1
Female Foster Parent Unknown Relationship 1 0.1
Male Foster Parent Unknown Relationship 0 0.0
Female Staff Group Home 0 0.0
Male Staff Group Home 0 0.0
Female Daycare Staff 20 2.0
Male Daycare Staff 2 0.2
Female Other Professional 0 0.0
Male Other Professional 1 0.1
Female Friend or Neighbor 2 0.2
Male Friend or Neighbor 4 0.4
More than One Nonparental Perpetrator 23 2.3
Unknown or Missing 105 10.4
Total 1,006 blank cell
Percent blank cell 100.0

Based on data from 34 States. Perpetrator Relationships of Child Fatalities, 2005 This table first lists perpetrator relationships including mother only, mother and father, father only, mother and other, father and other, female daycare staff, more than one nonparental perpetrator, unknown, etc. In the next column is listed the number of child fatalities from the specified perpetrator. The third column lists the percentage. 28.5 percent of child fatalities were perpetrated by a mother acting alone. “According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ new report Child Maltreatment 2004, when one parent is acting without the involvement of the other parent, mothers are almost three times as likely to kill their children as fathers are, and are more than twice as likely to abuse them.” Source: Child Maltreatment 2004, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. According to Figure 4-2 “Perpetrator Relationships of Fatalities, 2004 Child Maltreatment 2004” here, child fatalities perpetrated by mothers or by “mother and other [not father]” comprise 40.6% of all child fatalities. Figure 4-2 also shows that fatalities perpetrated by fathers or by “father and other [not mother]” comprise 15.6% of all child fatalities. According to Figure 3-6 “Victims by Perpetrator Relationship, 2004 Child Maltreatment 2004,” here child abuse perpetrated by mothers or by “mother and other [not father]” comprise 45.6% of all child abuse. Figure 3-6 also shows that abuse perpetrated by fathers or by “father and other [not mother]” comprise 19.5% of all child abuse.

The Victim Feminists Rogues Gallery: Mothers commit vast majority of parental murders of children.

Female Perpetration of Child Sexual Abuse: An Overview of the Problem – Moving Forward – Lisa Lipshires – July 1994

Female Perpetration of Child Sexual Abuse: An Overview of the Problem

Moving Forward Newsjournal, Vol.2, Number 6, July / August 1994, By Lisa Lipshires

Seven years ago, a client of Massachusetts psychologist Marcia Turner said something that shocked her. The woman, who had been sexually abused throughout her own childhood and was living in a house with other adults and their children, said, “The little three-year-old girl in my household is coming on to me, and wants me to have sex with her. I think I will, because I know that I will be gentle and kind to her, and it’s inevitable that she is going to be abused.”

Although Turner had previously counseled male sex offenders, she had never encountered a woman who wanted to sexually abuse a child. Alarmed, she consulted other therapists, but none had ever encountered — or even heard of — female sex offenders. Turner realized that “this is something we need to look at,” and decided to make female perpetrators of child sexual abuse the focus of her practice.

Betsy K., a survivor of sexual abuse by her father, realized five years ago that she had also been sexually abused by her mother. As she was confronting the abuse, other women in her area who had been sexually abused by their mothers were starting to deal openly with their experiences. “It was something that people were just barely beginning to talk about,” Betsy recalled. Nonetheless, she and the other women formed a weekly self-help group for women survivors of female-perpetrated sexual abuse.

Betsy K. and Marcia Turner are part of a small, growing number of people confronting the issue of female-perpetrated child sexual abuse. Many feel they are fighting an uphill battle against societal denial and cultural stereotypes of women and men.

Societal Denial

In her 1993 doctoral dissertation, “Female Sex Offenders: Societal Avoidance of Comprehending the Phenomenon of Women Who Sexually Abuse Children” (University Microfilms, Ann Arbor, MI), Boston psychologist Laurie Goldman analyzed the ways society minimizes the scope and impact of sexual abuse by women.

Goldman initially planned to conduct in-depth research of female perpetrators. To that end, she distributed 315 letters to therapists and clinics, took out an advertisement in a major newspaper, and contacted several clinicians who treated sex offenders. She also placed 10 poster advertisements in highly visible locations. Her eight-month search yielded only one woman who was willing to discuss what she had done. Goldman knew from reliable sources that female offenders were being treated, but clinic administrators insisted that no such women were under their care.

In addition, within 48 hours of having been hung, all of her posters had been removed. Unable to obtain subjects for her study, Goldman decided to focus on the societal denial that makes female perpetrators such an elusive population.

Goldman discovered that denial of female perpetration is woven into the very systems meant to protect children. She learned that one of her new female clients had previously disclosed that she had sexually abused a nephew, but the Massachusetts child protection agency had not referred the case to the Attorney General’s office. In fact, Goldman’s client subsequently admitted that she had abused two other children since her first disclosure.

This treatment of the problem by the State of Massachusetts is not unique.

In the State of Washington, for example, one human services professional reported that when an accused female offender was brought before a judge, the judge declared, “women don’t do things like this,” and dismissed the case. In another case, a New England prison warden told Goldman that she had only one woman in her system who had been convicted of child sexual abuse because “public sentiment did not allow for such charges to be brought to trial in her conservative state.”

This comes as no surprise to Gail Ryan, facilitator of the Kemp Center’s Perpetrator Prevention Project in Denver. She has found that female adolescent sex offenders “are much less likely than male adolescent offenders to be caught or charged.”

Iowa State University sociologist Craig Allen, who conducted a study Of 75 men and 65 women who had been convicted of sexually abusing a child, refers to this process as a form of societal “gate keeping.” By the time female offenders could be referred to a therapist for treatment, he writes in Women and Men Who Sexually Abuse Children: A Comparative Analysis (Brandon, VT: Safer Society Press, 1991), “only those women would be left whose behaviors were so deviant” that their abusiveness could not be denied “at any of the preceding ‘gates’in the system.” Allen’s gate keeping hypothesis could account for why female perpetrators appear so rarely in therapists’case studies and why, when they do, they are generally described as psychotic or otherwise severely disturbed.

Ruth Matthews, a St. Paul psychologist who has worked with 50 adolescent and 70 adult female sex offenders, says another major reason why adult female perpetrators are rarely seen in treatment is that many are mothers. In such cases, she says, dependent children are generally reluctant to turn in their mothers.

If children — whose disclosures still provide the primary means of reporting offenders — are being abused by mothers who are single parents or who carry out the abuse with male partners, disclosure would cause them to be removed from their homes and placed in foster care. By contrast, when there is an offending father and a non-offending mother, a child’s disclosure would not mean “as much of a loss,” says Matthews. “They still will have their home, they still will have a parent, and their family will stay intact.”

Prevalence of Abuse by Females

If children seldom disclose, and if female abusers are often winnowed out of investigations and court proceedings, how much female perpetration is actually going on? Because of the hidden nature of child sexual abuse and because of problems with the way in which child abuse data are collected, nobody can provide a definitive answer to this question.

There are two main sources of information on the extent of child sexual abuse: data gathered by state child protective agencies and retrospective studies that seek to determine the percentage of adults who were sexually abused as children.

Two retrospective studies of adult populations are frequently quoted by researchers and child advocates. The Los Angeles Times survey, conducted in 1985, found that seven percent of the abuse reported by male and female participants in the study was perpetrated by women. Sociologist Diana Russell’s 1978 San Francisco-based study revealed that four percent of the women who reported having been abused indicated that the perpetrators were female.

The Times survey and the Russell study were based on a random selection of participants. Other retrospective studies focusing on narrower populations have found much higher rates of female perpetration, although some of these findings have yet to be replicated. In a 1981 study, 60 percent of 412 male and 10 percent of 540 female undergraduate psychology students at the University of Washington who recalled childhood sexual contact with a post-pubescent person at least five years older than themselves said their abusers were female. (Fritz, G., Stoll, K., and Wagner, N. “A Comparison of Males and Females Who Were Sexually Molested as Children,” Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 1981, vol. 7,54-59.)

In another study, doctors at a New Jersey medical clinic found that 11 out of 25 teenage males who revealed that they had been sexually molested named females (ages 16 to 36) as their assailants. These perpetrators were “usually acquaintances of the victims — most often a neighbor, baby-sitter, or other trusted adolescent or young adult.” (Johnson, R., and Shrier, D. “Past Sexual Victimization by Females of Male Patients in an Adolescent Medicine Clinic Population,” American Journal Of Psychiatry, 1987, vol. 144,650-662.)

Finally, a study of 582 college men found that up to 78 percent of those abused as children had been abused by females. ( Fromuth, M., and Burkhart, B. “Childhood Sexual Victimization Among College Men: Definitions and Methodological Issues,” Violence and Victim, 1987, vol. 2, no. 4, 241-253.)

Researchers do not know why some studies uncover a higher rate of female perpetration than others, but The National Resource Center on Child Sexual Abuse ( NRCCSA ) asserts that because of a lack of standardization in reporting and inconsistencies in research methods and definitions of sexual abuse, “the firm statistics everyone desires” on the prevalence of abuse “simply are not available.” ( NRCCSA News, May-June 1992, vol. 1, no. 1.)

The inconsistencies noted by the NRCCSA can be found in the other main source of data on child sexual abuse: yearly reports from the 50 states’child protective agencies. The American Humane Association which was responsible for gathering these data from 1973 through 1987, found that approximately 20 percent of substantiated cases of child sexual abuse during that time period had been perpetrated by females. (Information on perpetrator gender is not available for 1988-1992; data eventually will be available for 1993 and subsequent years.) However, not all states require the gender of perpetrators to be included in their reports. Thus, says John Fluke, Director of Research and Program Analysis for the American Humane Association, there are inherent difficulties in getting good information, given the fact that we’re working with 50 different systems of information development.”

Another difficulty, as University of New Hampshire sociologist David Finkelhor notes in Child Sexual Abuse: New Theory and Research (New York: The Free Press, 1984), is that the “child abuse that is mandated for reporting in most states is only child abuse committed by parents and other caretakers.” As a result, abuse perpetrated by children, adolescents, and unrelated adults or strangers is unlikely to appear in yearly reports; a sizeable proportion of sexual abuse committed by males and females is therefore generally not recorded.

Improvements are being made in this regard. Last year the National Committee for the Prevention of Child Abuse, which has been collecting national data since 1988, began to ask states to include perpetrator gender in their reports.

Range of Abuse

The abuse that females perpetrate can range from subtle, non-contact forms such as exhibitionism and voyeurism to overt sexual touching and/or penetration. In his study of offenders, sociologist Craig Allen found that both genders engaged in a range of abusive behavior. Therapist Marcia Turner says that her clients have claimed to “digitally penetrate, orally stimulate, insert things into kids, and have kids do things to them like. .. stimulate their genitals.”

Other therapists, including those specializing in male survivors of sexual abuse, have noticed an apparent pattern in clients’ reports of female-perpetrated abuse. Minneapolis psychologist Peter Dimock has counseled 400 to 500 male survivors of sexual abuse since 1980. He found that, for the 25 percent who recall being abused by a female, most experienced the abuse as subtle or seductive. Very often, Dimock says, if the female abuser is in a parental or caretaking role, she will perpetrate the abuse “under the guise of caretaking, where it has involved putting medication on the child’s genitals, inserting suppositories or enemas,” or she will make an excuse to expose her body to the boy, “clearly with an intent to arouse, but, again, under the guise of normalized behavior.”

Nic Hunter, a psychologist from St. Paul, author of Abused Boys: The Neglected Victim of Sexual Abuse, and editor of The Sexually Abused Male, Volumes I and II (all from Lexington, MA: Lexington Books, 1990), has also found in his work with hundreds of male survivors that approximately 25
percent were sexually abused by females and that in general, the abuse was “very covert in that it was disguised as something other than a sexual contact.” Dimock adds that female abusers frequently treat their victims like romantic partners, taking them on “date-like outings.”

Not all survivors or victims report that sexual abuse by females was subtle or covert. Of the 93 women who perpetrated in Michigan therapist Bobbie Rosencrans’recent four-year study of survivors of maternal incest, 65 percent reported that their abuse had been violent. Karen K., a survivor of maternal incest from Washington State who edits the newsletter S.O.F.I.E.(Survivors of Female Incest Emerge!), has read nearly 500 letters from survivors in the past 18 months. She feels that “women are more creative and more brutal in their abuse.”

Abuse After effects

Therapist Bobbie Rosencrans’ research on 93 female and nine male survivors of maternal incest ( Rosencrans had originally planned to study female survivors only, but nine men asked to be included as well.) is the most comprehensive study to date of survivors of female perpetrators. Rosencrans found among her study participants many of the reactions shared by survivors of male-perpetrated abuse: depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and high rates of eating disorders and substance abuse. She also found, when she asked her participants what they would want the public to know about maternal incest, a nearly universal wish to tell society that “this really happens.”

Gender Identity Issues

One of the most common reactions to female-perpetrated abuse is shame about gender identity. Phyllis E, who was sexually abused by both her mother and her father, remembers feeling a deep disgust for her mother’s body — a disgust that carried over into a hatred of her own female self. “I couldn’t stand my own body for years,” she says. “I couldn’t understand how men could stand women’s bodies.”

Tom, a therapist and survivor of abuse by three females, including his mother, has also felt a deep confusion about his gender identity. Along with subjecting Tom to unnecessary enemas, masturbating him in the bathtub, and making him sleep in her bed and watch her dress, his mother perpetrated against him a type of behavior that Indiana therapist Christine Lawson refers to as “perversive abuse.” Perversive abuse, Lawson writes in “Mother-Son Sexual Abuse: Rare or Underreported? A Critique of the Research” (Child Abuse & Neglect, vol. 17, no. 2) is abuse of a child’s sexuality and “may include behavior such as forcing the boy to wear female clothing … and generally discouraging the child’s identification with males.” Tom says that “until I was five, I hadn’t the foggiest notion that I wasn’t a girl.”

Psychologist Mic Hunter says that the societal belief that “when sexual contact takes place” between a male and female, “the male is responsible for it” can place an extra sense of shame and responsibility on boy victims of female perpetrators. There is also the cultural myth, exemplified by movies such as “Summer of ’42,” “Men Don’t Leave,” and “My Tutor,” that sexual contact between an adult female and a young boy is a desirable initiation into manhood. Hunter has witnessed this during training sessions at the offices of various district attorneys. Often, he says, “there will be a female attorney on staff who is trying to prosecute a female perpetrator [of a male victim], and the male attorneys will say, ‘Look, we’re not going to waste the taxpayers’ dollars on this. This is every man’s fantasy.'”

Rick S., a survivor of maternal incest as well as sexual abuse by a female nurse, confirms that he struggled to accept that what was done to him was inappropriate and wrong. “I adored my mother,” Rick says, “and she doted on me, especially in the early years.” When Rick got to high school, he says, “I felt like I was unfaithful to her if I thought of going out with a girl.”

He had “no idea that you were supposed to grow up and develop and learn.” He saw his peers growing up and finding age-appropriate dates, and wondered what they had that he didn’t.

Confronting Gender Stereotypes

A widespread societal belief that female-perpetrated sexual abuse is improbable — particularly if the abuser was one’s mother — has made it especially difficult for survivors of female abusers to disclose their experiences and has left them with perhaps an even deeper sense of isolation. Remarkably, though 81 percent of the women in Rosencrans’ study were currently in therapy, only three percent had revealed to their therapists that their mothers had abused them sexually.

Karen K. remembers believing for years that she was the only survivor of mother-daughter incest. “I felt completely isolated and alone with who my perpetrator was,” Karen says. In response to Rosencrans’ study (Safer Society Press, 1994), one woman wrote, “I’ve never met anyone who was sexually abused by their mother. I didn’t know that 93 other people existed.”

Betsy K. believes that the sexual abuse of daughters by mothers is even more taboo than the sexual abuse of sons. Between mothers and sons, Betsy says, “People would believe, probably, that there was some sort of sexual contact, though they might not look at it as abuse.” But in our homophobic culture, “females sexually abusing females — Oh God, nobody, nobody wants to believe that. I think it’s as hard to believe, or close to as hard to believe, as ritual abuse … It doesn’t get the attention it deserves.”

Moving Past Secrecy and Shame

It was liberating for Betsy, in a survivors’ march and rally several years ago, to carry a sign: “Mothers Can Be Abusers, Too.” She and other survivors of maternal incest glued photographs of their Mothers onto the sign, and Betsy held it up while she recounted the story of her mother’s abuse. Betsy spoke so loudly, one woman later told her, that she had heard her from nearly a quarter of a mile away and she had to stop and listen.

Months later, a stranger approached Betsy at a workshop and said she saw Betsy’s sign at the march and that it had really helped her to reveal, for the first time, that she had also been sexually abused by her mother. “It was very moving,” Betsy says. “I’ll never forget that. It speaks to survivors helping survivors … I think we can, as a community, really heal each other.”


Lisa Lipshires is a freelance writer and human services professional.

Suggested Reading

Allen, Craig (1991). Women and Men Who Sexually Abuse Children: A Comparative Analysis. Brandon, VT: The Safer Society Press.

Evert, Kathy (1987). When You’re Ready. A Woman’s Healing from Childhood Physical and Sexual Abuse by Her Mother. Walnut Creek, CA: Launch Press.

Kelley, Susan J., et al. (1993). Sexual Abuse of Children in Day Care. Child Abuse & Neglect vol. 17,71-89.

Lawson, Christine (1993). Mother-Son Sexual Abuse: Rare or Under-reported? A Critique of the Research. Child Abuse & Neglect, vol. 17, no. 2.

Middlebrook, Diane Wood (1991). Anne Sexton: A Biography. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company. (Note: Anne Sexton’s daughter, Linda Gray Sexton, disclosed in Middlebrook’s biography that her mother had sexually abused her.)

Female Perpetration of Child Sexual Abuse: An Overview of the Problem – Moving Forward – Lisa Lipshires – July 1994.


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