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BRENTWOOD – Kristin Ruggiero will spend 7 to 14 years in state prison for what police say was part of a years-long ploy to use the criminal justice system against her ex-husband, who was thrown in jail and nearly lost his career during a bitter divorce.

Judge Kenneth McHugh said Ruggiero’s attempt to set up her ex-husband and use the legal system as a weapon was unlike any other case he has seen.

“There’s a lot of people, usually women, who have been subjected to abuse by their significant others,” McHugh said, during Ruggiero’s sentencing yesterday. “As a result of her actions, their cases, their safety, their security has been damaged. The web for this is much greater than what has just happened to Mr. Ruggiero.”

A jury found that Kristin Ruggiero registered a disposable cell phone under her ex-husband’s name and sent herself a dozen threatening and suicidal text messages. She then reported to East Kingston police in May 2008 that her ex-husband had violated bail conditions tied to a criminal threatening case, which police learned was also fabricated by the 34-year-old mother.

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By portraying herself as a victim, she duped local police and portrayed her ex-husband, Jeffrey Ruggiero, as a violent monster while the couple was going through a contentious divorce in family court, according to prosecutors.

The couple battled over finances and their 7-year-old daughter.

While Jeffrey Ruggiero was being investigated, his ex-wife called him at all hours and taunted him over the phone, according to court testimony.

“She mocked him. She laughed at him. (She said) ‘I took all your money, I took your daughter and now I am going to take your career’,” Assistant County Attorney Jerome Blanchard said in court yesterday.

Video: Click below to view some of Judge Kenneth McHugh’s comments during sentencing.

He said Ruggiero’s folly came because claims in criminal court had to be backed up — unlike in family court where she made repeated claims about ex-husband’s behavior.

“Unfortunately for her, we’re not in family court anymore,” Blanchard said.

Blanchard argued that Ruggiero continued to try to manipulate the justice system, even after her conviction in May from her jail cell.

In a series of recorded phone calls from the jail played in court, Ruggiero asked her mother to get a letter from a doctor, which would claim that Ruggiero suffered a form of psychosis stemming from addiction to Adderall and alcohol.

“I’m going to pull the mental health card, you know what I mean?” Ruggiero says during the call, which was played in court. “It has to be outpatient in the United States and I can live at home.”

But yesterday, Ruggiero sobbed to McHugh. She apologized for comments she made about the judge and his heart bypass surgery during another phone call.

“Dad, guess what? Judge McHugh had a quadruple bypass!” Ruggiero said during the phone call, only a small portion of which was played in court.

McHugh told prosecutors to skip over that call, saying it wasn’t necessary for the sentencing hearing.

McHugh said it’s likely that Ruggiero cannot be rehabilitated. He told Ruggiero he found her apology yesterday disingenuous.

Defense lawyer Chuck Keefe argued that his client was a caring mother whose judgment may have been affected because she suffered from drug and alcohol dependency.

“I want to say here what the state offers is a sentence of extermination,” Keefe said, while proposing a 12-month jail sentence for Ruggiero.

Before her arrest in September 2008, Ruggiero nearly had the criminal justice and family court system fooled, according to prosecutors. A district court judge convicted Jeffrey Ruggiero of misdemeanor criminal threatening and related charges, but refused to jail him before sentencing.

That allowed Jeffrey Ruggiero to remain free on bail and return to his job as a petty officer in the U.S. Coast Guard.

It enraged Kristin Ruggiero so much that she came up with the scheme about receiving a series of threatening and suicidal text messages. Ruggiero was sentenced on 12 counts of falsifying physical evidence, which each carry a potential 3 1/2 to 7-year prison term.

The case that McHugh repeatedly described as “bizarre” yesterday may not be over.

Prosecutors revealed during Ruggiero’s sentencing hearing that a new criminal investigation related to her is under way.

Ruggiero was also ordered to pay $19,000 in restitution to the East Kingston police department, which conducted the investigation.

YOUR COMMENTS


This is so much more widespread than people realize. There needs to be far more persecution of those who get caught who abuse the system like this especially in child custody cases. I have no sympathy for this pathetic “mother” You?
Michael A. MAstracci, Esquire, Baltimore

Make people think twice about doing this again?

Raise your hand if you think the low life who do these things scour old newspapers to find out whether/how others have been punished for doing it.

You’re delusional. People who do this, act on emotion, not logic. They don’t consider the consequences. They all think they will get away with it.

Matter of fact, most of them do, thanks to a prejudicial family court system that determines quilt based on accusation alone.
Marc, Brentwood

The PRIMARY function of the fraud known as the NH Family Justice System is VENGEANCE. It is first and foremost an instrument of violence to that end. The sound of the child-exploiting, child-maltreating gavels of the farscical masquerade pretending to be a some resemblence of justice shows that the TRUE violence associated with marriage is the about 900% increase [after population growth] in the NH State Prisons inmate population since 1969 when the first U.S. no-fault divorce law was signed into law in CA.

Gov. Lynch claims that NH has been recognized as the best and safest place in the US to raise a child, but omits the fact that compared to 1960’s, it really STINKS for NH kids overall other than for medical advances, opportunities for girls, and government give-away programs.
Mike Smith, N. Hampton, NH

wow,left NH many years ago but my family still lives there. Very sad that only men(with a few exceptions) seem to understand how evil this woman is. Sorry guys that you have had similar experiences. All women are not the same and this nutcase has certainly made it difficult for true victims
beth, temecula ca

Happens Nationwide! Federal IV and ASFA funds LEARN of! One Nation Under FRAUD!
Jewell Flaherty, Bokoshe

It ISN’T just NH folks! Nation and Worldwide! The New allegation USED: Daddys’ RAPE the kids. Yes, go check. CPS for FEDERAL IV funds & ASFA $ too, help Promote Destroying Families, using ANY means, LIES needed, even Use SCHOOL Staff to gain results! Know All to be True-living it Now; Dad IN jail past 1O months, due to “HIS Moms Lies”, as he Didn’t Marry, who She wanted! Court, Cops, CPS know his Mom WELL-her Son, NOT only Man, she’s done this Ruieggero Vindictive Attack on -Long List of MEN, in Oklahoma!
Jewell Flaherty, Bokoshe Oklahoma

She sounds like a scorned nutcase.
Rebecca, Bethlehem

It ISN’T just NH folks! Nation and Worldwide! The New allegation USED: Daddys’ RAPE the kids. Yes, go check. CPS for FEDERAL IV funds & ASFA $ too, help Promote Destroying Families, using ANY means, LIES needed, even Use SCHOOL Staff to gain results! Know All to be True-living it Now; Dad IN jail past 1O months, due to “HIS Moms Lies”, as he Didn’t Marry, who She wanted! Court, Cops, CPS know his Mom WELL-her Son, NOT only Man, she’s done this Ruieggero Vindictive Attack on -Long List of MEN, in Oklahoma!
Jewell, Bokoshe

I too am a victim of a broken court system. More money for something that should have been resolved without needing court intervention.
I recently had to take my ex back to court in Cheshire County. Contempt of court/failure to follow a court order. This after being divorced for nearly 2 years. Instead of a quick resolution ,a plea is made to the court by my ex for an unfair divorce settlement. My lawyer tells me the decision will be made whether to rehear the divorce by either the marital master – he favors women or the judge –he favors men.
How do you get justice from a system that operates this way? You have to hope for the right judge instead of expecting a fair hearing? After a divorce nearly two years you have to go through it again because of allegations that are untrue?
Just another exploited victim, Cheshire County

Union Leader seems selective in posting opinions – this does not help those that have been abused by the system.

Agree with John in Warner, disagree with JC/Merrimack

Gal’s are just as manipulative in the system as the judges, the lawyers the sick, bitter, vindictive ex-wives.

Even with counseling records of my ex’s, in hand, the GAL Doug Thornton wouldn’t even take the time to look at this proof and take it into consideration.

Proves some only care about the women – not the kids.

Doug Thornton made a lame excuse that he didn’t have time to consider them. So to him it’s better to make a bad decision than to ask for a little more time from the court to do the best job?

In this system, the kids don’t count, the fathers don’t count.

The only thing that counts is a corrupt system that at least one judge admits to seeing.
John, Keene

This is life altering. But it’s just a small step to it being something it will never become. Stories like this explain why my neighbor doesn’t want to get to know me or won’t socialize outside the circle they have now. You can let you’re guard down and go on with life not knowing this could be you next. And it’s not the courts doing this, we’re doing it to ourselfs. Makes me wonder how it is familes can survive in this climate of deceit and bait and switch. I thought I knew someone to at one time. Now, I’m not sure of anything.
deter, derry

ACA Blanchard really hit the nail on the head: “He said Ruggiero’s folly came because claims in criminal court had to be backed up — unlike in family court…”

It’s time to end the anti-male sewer that is family court, to expose the lawyer-woman false allegation machine, and to put an end to the fatherless child creation machine in New Hampshire.

This woman got off easy.
gokart-mozart, Concord

As a man , What would I have gotten for a sentence?
Twisted. This man was very lucky people saw through this womans story. The outcome could have been quite the opposite. Everyone knows a woman has the edge in a courtroom.
deter, derry

If the passion poured out in these 73 comments is any indication, something is surely broken in the Family Court system.

I too was falsely accused of threatening and served with a restraining order. My ex never had to show any evidence and I never had a chance to defend myself.

I too was the victim of a marital master (Deborah Rein) who is predisposed to favor the female.

When in doubt, the man must be guilty.

I would hope–but don’t expect for a minute–that this incident would spark a review and correction of this foul system.
Annonymous, Concord

Agree with John in Warner, disagree with JC/Merrimack

Gal’s are just as manipulative in the system as the judges, the lawyers and the sick, bitter, vindictive ex-wives.

Even with counseling records of my ex’s, in hand, explaining her multiple personality disorders and inability to function in the best interest of the children, the GAL Doug Thornton wouldn’t even take the time to look at this proof and take it into consideration.

Proves some only care about the women – not the kids.

Doug Thornton made a lame excuse that he didn’t have time to consider them. So to him it’s better to make a bad decision than to ask for a little more time from the court to do the best job?

In this system, the kids don’t count, the fathers don’t count.

The only thing that counts is a corrupt system that at least one judge admits to seeing.
John, kEENE

Sounds like many making comments to this article have concerns with the NH Courts during divorce.

Please contact Mary Gile as she is the NH House of Reps Family Children and Family Law Committee Chair and would love to hear from you.

mary.gile@leg.state.nh.us

There are public Listening Sessions scheduled for this Fall to hear public issues in the Courts, DCYF and GAL’s.

This case will bring momentum to NH Court Reform if all that have concerns act.
Greg, Chesterfield

I share the pain and frustration of many of the GOOD folks that have commented on this subject.

All to often I heard the GAL (KBS of New London) coining the phrase “what is in the best interest of the child”. We all know that is BS.

Family court matters are dealt with as a business, pure and simple … ALL ABOUT MONEY. The attorneys, which in most cases may include a GAL, are aware of the parties net worth from the beginning through financial affidavits. The more you have, the more they want. Many lawyers may advise clients of unethical practices to drag out the process which in turns leads to added expenses. Undoubtedly the most popular and favorite would be allegations of abuse, which involve police, DCYF, Womens Crisis … etc. Anyone that has been wrongly accused knows that evidence is not required just an accusation.

BOTTOM LINE – Although it does not happen enough, it is refreshing to occasionally see a judge have the moxie to carry out his/her duty and see that justice is served and Mr. Ruggiero’s reputation restored.
Steve, Swanzey NH

Im so greatful for the awsome dective work and the judical system! These actions ruin it for people who are really going through abusive relationships!Kudos to the police and the judge for great work and make people think twice before they do something like this again !!
Roger Cloutier, Bedford NH

men do this to. for the last 8 years a bit more. you dont even know the mental breakdown of a battle like this in the family courts esp these days. esp with one judge i had who thankfully retired. because of the court my kids were abused by there dad and all of us suffered emotionally/ mentally. my kids are still in therapy after 1 year of it finally coming to a halt. weither it starts up again i dont know he get out of jail again in a few months minimum (hes and 8 time felon, known druggie/alcoholic). the courts need changing esp in family court. i wanted to sew the court n judge for all that they did to my family but i was told it would be difficult because the fact it is the court. why should they hurt families and get away with it.
Jay, nh

She should definitly face the full consequences of the law. I’m also going through similar situation with my current wife who has been fabricating all sorts of terrible accusations against me such as abuse that I never even dreamt of. The moment we have an arguement over family issues, she’ll pretend to collapse and call for medical help just to paint a negative picture about me just to make me look bad.
This is one sector of our judicaial system that I strongly think needs some reform. These ladies are really manupilating the system in their favors. I hope this case serves as a lesson.

I.B.
Ibrahim Turay, Manchester

One down thousands of others to go. I have a novel idea, lets treat everyone equally and get proactive. I would love to see these loser judges get the boot, completely clean house of all the sleepers in black robes and start over.
Jorma M., Merrimack

I’m very glad this monster is serving time. How the tide turns. Marital master Nancy Geiger is a disgusting rent a court master that hates men and will not allow any evidence that proves their case. You have a better chance at justice in Iran than her court. The ignorance of her court is like a clown posse gone wild.
David B, Auburn

@jc, merrimack and John, Warner
I was going to say that GALs are mostly corrupt and that is a big part of the problem. It is not about them investigating, they decide early on that they like one side or the other, usually the mother, totally based on prejudices, and not what is best for the child…the only true criterion.

Frustrated step mom in manchester, Manchester NH is right on about this. My GAL did not call my references, whom she had included in the report until AFTER her report was already done. My references reported that she was very indifferent and didn’t seem to care about what they were saying.

Just read Andy in Northwood’s story. It is all too common.

@CAREFREE, FREMONT
You really can’t tell when you get married if a woman is going to put you through hell during a divorce. I never would have guessed it, but my ex sure did.
Steve1, Nashua

This is a fair decision, why? because it happened in criminal court, where the rules of evidence and the Consitution is followed, not like in the “civil court family division” which is ruled by judges personal and political agendas.
Dave, Ashland

In 4 days, it will be 19 years, since my lying, psychotic, Satanic ex-wife said to me…If I knew how to load your rifle, I would kill you with it to keep you away from the children.

With the help of several gutless judges, malignant police and Femarxist advocates, I’ve been turned into fish food in 3 New England States, with the AG and Bar Association of NH ignoring me.

I’m in exile, yet again, from Grafton, with F Troop and another psychotic little girl, trying to bring about my demise.

You have several gutless editors who’ve ignored me, as well.

Restraining orders are today’s guillotines and crosses.

We have 2 generations of children, raised by man hating, nihilistic, sociopathic, psychopathic, narcissistic self loathing, suicidal, homicidal, Children Of The Damned.

I like to refer to most police I’ve met in the last 19 years as The Witch’s Flying Monkeys…
David Merchant, Manchester

I have been accused of child abuse 8 times, domestic violence 2 times, kidnapping 1 time. The GAL in my case sided with my ex the entire time, despite all of this I have custody of my Son. But the Judge also ruled I have to pay for all my sons expenses, medical care for my Son and my ex, and I have to pay child support for the 32 hours a month my ex has visitation. The entire New Hampshire Family Court needs to be destroyed and built up from scratch!
KJ, Nottingham NH

These GALS are nothing but frauds. They take your money and never look at any real evidence and always side with the woman. GAL Karen Griswold Peterson should be relieved of her duties as she is incompetent at best.
Frustrated step mom in manchester, Manchester NH

If the courts can tell people they can’t have animals after abusing them, then can the courts tell her NO MORE MEN?????
EAP, Manchester, NH

The ignorant judges are to blame for the lopsided application of justice in these case’s. These self proclaimed intellectuals must know that these women are playing them for the fools they are. They support the disfunctional court so much that the pendulum has swung so far the other way a man cannot win. These gullible judges don’t want proof it just complicates the inevitable, giving the woman her way.
Peter F., Francestown

Congratulations Jeff!!! Best wishes.. On another note, Thank the Jury for seeing all through her vengence, she deserves every minute of the 7-14 years.. Jeff made out pretty good, she is put away for a while, and his new wife is much more attractive>
Semper Paratus!
KN, chester,nh

Tattoos originated from Japanese criminal justice system, where they tattooed the symbol of whatever crime had been committed such as “thief” – so once they are released, everyone will be able to know what they had been previously convicted of. It would be nice if we did the same with “murderer”, “pedophile”, “attacker”, “manipulator”, etc. Once this woman is released, she is going to do it to the next guy she is with.
tattoo, NH

The union leader for some reason refuses to print my remarks, why? the domestic violence courts have made a mockery of the issue.My uncle, my mothers’ brother-in-law, filed domestic violence against me this March.I hadn’t ever lived with him(or anything else) . I hadn’t seen him in 17 years. We were arguing over my mothers care, she has Alzheimers. He told me to leave the picture,or he’d file d/v against me. He said it would cost him nothing, and no proof would be needed.Goodbye Mom,the state of NH can take care of you now.It’s too risky for me to have any contact with you(her).
Dan, Manchester

Justice in Brentwood is finally served! I’ve been a victim to this exact oppresion for over three years now. My ex wife pulled the mental health card as well and backed it up with false allegations of abuse. The Marital Master awarded her my kids, my house, my money, and ruined my career by topping it all off with a 5-year restraining order and the GAL recommending my ex be allowed to kidnap my two boys (ages 12 (& 14) against there will to Florida just so she can replace me (their biological father) with her new boyfriend.
Andy, Northwood

Paul from Goffstown, it seems you sound ignorant. You sound pretty tough behind a keyboard. You are all talk and no action. Just because someone has an opinion about women you need to bash someone. If that’s what this person’s opinion is, so be it. But thanks, for giving me a laugh though.
Bob, Manchester

Men, please make better choices. There are nice and caring women out there. Not just these manipulating, mean and self centered ones.
CAREFREE, FREMONT

POST #1
The tide may be turning on False Allegations of Domestic Violence or Sexual Abuse in a divorce custody battle in the NH Family Courts based on this one decision; yet there are many, many more that could have been used.

The change is that there will be “eyes and ears” on those that orchestrate these allegations “Eyes and Ears” is a term use by GAL’s to propitiate ongoing external supervision between a parent and child as the result of false allegations in a divorce case. I understand those involved in supporting VAWA and NH CADV do not want to see this tide change as it has the potential to impact millions of dollars in Federal Funding that fuels their existence.

Image those in the Judicial Branch that litigate, recommend Federally Funded Supervised Visitation, and are appointed by the Court to make recommendations for the children, now being more cautious of those that fabricate false allegations. Presently, GALS, CASA, DCYF are “shovel ready” to believe the allegations that surface in a divorce custody dispute. It take Law Enforcement to investigate and allow for Due process, something these agencies fail to observe to fulfill their agenda.
Greg, Chesterfield

I hope she has to serve the full 14. What a disgusting thing she has done to her ex and her child.
Maria, Manchester, NH

white trash is alive and well in nh.
i’m sure she’ll be planning a trip to canobie lake park with all the others of her sort.
mike b., manchester

women almost always lie to the authorities about things like these. i said almost always, not always. most of the time they start the arguements and assault the man and the man goes to jail! well done criminal justice system! now time to convict her new boyfriend who told her how to do these things… oh and he is 1 of those no good lying cops!
pablo, nh

I had the same thing happen to me. For the last three years My ex-wife made up all kinds of false accusations about me abusing her. She never once took accountability for her violent and abusive behaviors during our marriage, she pinned the blame all on me. She fraudulently applied for a 5-year restraining order and after two days of days of hearings with multiple credible witnesses for my side, Guardian Ad Litem Vicki Silver, Marital Master Thomas Cooper, and Judge David G. LeFrancois over at Brentwood Superior Court let her get away with it and gave her everything she wanted: my kids my life, my career, my money, and my kids! Only because she had a snake for a lawyer and I was Pro-se. The battle is still waging on now, going on 4 years. I’m now dedicated to ending these criminal judicial tyrants careers for good. It’s the only way to get any justice in this state. Redress Grievances for all!
Andy, Northwood, Northwood, NH

Nice roots, Kristin. I love the skunk look.
Steve B, Derry

It is good to see they don’t always get away with it. The numbers of angry women gaming the court system to make weapons of the courts and children is astonishing and the lack of investigation or interest paid by the state in most cases is even moreso.
Nick, Manchester

Unfortunately this knucklehead has made it a tad more difficult for legitemate abuse victims to be taken seriously. -John, New Boston

Your attitude/statement is part of the problem John. Finally the abuse victim WAS taken seriously. Inherent in your comment seems to be the idea that only women can be victims. That cannot be further from the truth.

This case is just one example of how women and lawyers manipulate the system, threaten and abuse families and drive men to and beyond the edge. It happens all the time.
This crazy creature pushed too far and often, but she is no isolated example of the future/former ex.

Fortunately this Knucklehead has made it easier for legitimate abuse victims to be taken seriously.

I hope as you do, that no woman who is a victim of abuse is harmed by this ruling.
Steve, Lee

WOW – I am so happy for the ex husband in this case – he must be so relieved!!! He FINALLY got her nailed in court – and vindicated himself in the process. Unfortunately, he had to go through a lot of crap to get here, but it’s great to see that the justice system works for some people (only wish it had worked for me!)
nhhorselady, weare, nh

I, like MANY other men I know of, have been victims of similar behavior (false allegations) from malicious women and their unscrupulous liers (lawyers).

I have been in court many times and seen men sent off to jail based solely on the “she said” so-called evidence. I find it remarkable that the general public doesn’t even blink when a father is separated from his children, but think it’s horrible even when a toxic poisonous d-bag like this is.

Hello, this judge did the right thing, and probably will feel the backlash from all of the VAWA grant-whores and “womens” groups who have fought so hard to establish the unfair system we have in place today. The judge did the daughter a potential favor by separating her from such a bad influence, a pathological lier who no doubt would have infected her innocent daughter with her multiple personality disorders and pathologies.
John, Manchester, NH

Don’t get too excited folks. This ruling is the exception, not the rule. In today’s world, anytime a woman makes a charge against a man, he is guilty before proven innocent and even if he is found to be innocent, he will STILL have a stigma attached to him in one form or another.

I doubt she will serve even 7 years.
– Jim D, Hillsboro

Jim – we are excited because we see this as a potential turning point to a place where the child’s wellbeing is put first. Not the non custodial parent who wants to avoid financial obligations; Not the custodial parent who tries to use custody as a weapon. These children are the best of our times together and last far beyond the end of our relationships. We need to put them first!
All allegations in family courts should be substantiated – punishments issued for blatantly false accusations!
Physical custody should go to the better parent – if it cannot be shared – regardless of your gender!

People – take a good hard look at potential spouses before you commit!!!
Traci, Manchester

How does sentenced to 12 counts each carrying 3.5 to 7 years in prison equal 7-14 years??
James, Concord

its about time that woman are being punished for what they did. If this was a man it would be open and shut case. Just like all the teachers having relationships with kids. Woman see no jail time while men see no light for at least 7 years. about time
stephen, manchester

This just made my day, good job court system……
Ben, Concord, NH

I agree this should be a wake-up call for local courts. Check out those apps for restraining orders with a fine tooth comb!
G. Paul, Concord

Post #1
The tide may be turning on False Allegations of Domestic Violence or Sexual Abuse in a divorce custody battle in the NH Family Courts based on this one decision; yet there are many, many more that could have been used.

The change is that there will be “eyes and ears” on those that orchestrate these allegations “Eyes and Ears” is a term use by GAL’s to propitiate ongoing external supervision between a parent and child as the result of false allegations in a divorce case. I understand those involved in supporting VAWA and NH CADV do not want to see this tide change as it has the potential to impact millions of dollars in Federal Funding that fuels their existence.

Image those in the Judicial Branch that litigate, recommend Federally Funded Supervised Visitation, and are appointed by the Court to make recommendations for the children, now being more cautious of those that fabricate false allegations. Presently, GALS, CASA, DCYF are “shovel ready” to believe the allegations that surface in a divorce custody dispute. It take Law Enforcement to investigate and allow for Due process, something these agencies fail to observe to fulfill their agenda.
Greg, Chesterfield

Yet more reasons to stay single to be happy. The US justice system is completely stacked against men. Luckily, in this case the woman was outed. Unfortunately, this doesn’t happen often….
Kevin, greenland, nh

John from Warner:
I see and know your point about GAL’s. They are so backlogged with case work, that they do not take the time to seriously investigate the children and parents they are assigned to. To all of you men taking aim at women, I know where you are coming from, and how you feel, but, do not think that it is all women doing this to their spouses. Men are and can be just as evil as women, in these cases. I know it first hand. The Gal, and the judge, goes with the side that has the lawyer, and the side that can make themselves look better.
Kathy, Manchester

It really sucks that a woman like that can ruin the system for women that are actually victims of Domestic Violence. Its sick.
Rose, Manchester

I have been following this case from the beginning, this woman is disturbed and she is getting exactley what she deserves, hopefully she wqill have to serve the full 14 years and not a day shorter. One check up on the board for us fathers!!!!!!
chris, Derry, NH

This woman got exactly what she deserves. Hope “Truth in Sentencing” applies.
Divorced and harassed ex, Manchester

PLEASE UL print these coments from these fathers in a front page story so the judges and marital masters can see how they ruin mens lives with the ridicules decisions they make in favor of women because they are women and only because they are women, To many women get married to wonderful men have children only to divorce for whatever reason ,then use the family court for revenge and these court officers cant or wont see that 90% of the time the women are lawyerd up and throw whatever out and hope one thing sticks to make the guy out to be some abuser or miser who wants only to hurt the child he brought into the world. Isnt it funny the court thinks just because a couple divorces instantly the man becomes this monster who wants his family to suffer. This is only one of many stories that PROVE DIFFERENT but nobody in family court will do anything about it SO SAD for the men and children out there that are missing out on a great life together instead a vengeful mother wallows in her victory and the courts are the corrupt referees who look up proud to be part of a system that punishes those evil doers MEN!
Disgusted, Manchester

Judging by the new law, SB500, and reduced prison sentences for women felons; she will be out in less than three years. By “reduced prison sentences”, I refer to the practice of NH corrections-courts releasing women early, when the women appeal for sentence reduction. Keep in mind, the numerous embezzlement felons (lunch ladies, city administrators, an administrator at the Concord Monitor) that have gotten their sentences reduced or changed to ‘home confinement’, so the state can save a few bucks. Yeah, she’ll request, and get a reduction. Guaranteed.
Frank, Concord

It’s nice to see the judicial system issue due justice in this case. Never a good idea to bad mouth the presiding justice. Unfortunately this knucklehead has made it a tad more difficult for legitemate abuse victims to be taken seriously. That’s what “mean spirited” will get you.
John, New Boston

To Amy, Deerfield:

This father has NOT gotten his rights back. He has been cleared but he is still fighting for custody in court. His daughter is living with the family that enabled this felon. The laws in this country are not protecting this precious child or her dad. These victims have been punished enough. Give Jeff his daughter back!!!
Yeah Right, Portsmouth

@ West Coast Nancy;

Yes I am serious. I do absolutely agree with your point that the girls mother probably would not have been a positive influence in her life, however I find all motherless children sad. This woman probably already had won her case in Family Court, but that was not enough for her she became greedy, and good for her she is getting what exactly she deserves.
Mike, Wolfeboro

John from Warner- don’t see your point at all. GAL’s no matter what profession they come from are competent and able to investigate for the child’s best interest. Fortunately, this woman is going away which is where she belongs. Sadly and I mean very sadly, she has set a negative stage for those that really are abused. She deserves that sentence.
jc, merrimack

Do you know how many women actually do this? My husband ex did it for years. Filed restraining orders and lied on them. Took away the kids because she felt like it. We felt like the court systems didn’t care because she was a women. Glad they are actually doing something. But wondering how many other lives have been ruined by the state of nh court system?
Sara, hooksett

This woman should rot in prison, there are lots of woman like this, I’m sure we all know someone that’s like this… IT’S Time we take a 2nd look before we imprison inoccent people, she played the system & in the end the SYSTEM put her right where she belongs
Jim, Danvers, MA

I don’t think the time fits the crime, she should have gotten a lot more time.I bet this happens all the time in family court, and there should be guidelines put in place so it doesn’t happen. And finally I hope the child, and ex can move pass what this horrible person did to them, I wish them all the best!!
Mike, Sanbornton

What an absolute freak.
George, Keene

“The best way to avoid all of this is stay single and don’t date. Save you a boatload of cash.”
-Outsider, NH

Yes, if anything can possibly end badly it’s better to not even try. That’s the winning attitude this country was built on. I get the feeling that the ladies aren’t exactly banging down Outsider’s door anyway. Keep telling yourself that it’s because you’re not trying friend.
Paul, Goffstown

I am a private investigator. I see thnis a lot in family court. Accusations with no substance.

That court handles it by appointing a GAL
to investigate.

All well and good except a GAL is a lawyer, paralegal, social worker, psychologist.

Who in that group is trained to INVESTIGATE?

Anyone see the problem?
John, Warner

I feel she got a fair trial.

End of story.

See ya honey
Harry, Atkinson

Don’t get too excited folks. This ruling is the exception, not the rule. In today’s world, anytime a woman makes a charge against a man, he is guilty before proven innocent and even if he is found to be innocent, he will STILL have a stigma attached to him in one form or another.

I doubt she will serve even 7 years.
Jim D, Hillsboro

I really feel for the victims of this woman. Can you imagine what hell it must have been to have some wacko like this trying to destroy your life? It is scary that she got as far as she did. This judge and the police deserve a pat on the back for this case. Thankfully they saw through her lies. She deserves a long jail sentence, and her daughter may be motherless but in this case I think it is better for her. What a freak this woman is!
Stacey, Manchester

Family courts a joke. I’m amazed how any woman can’t walk into a court and say those 2 magical word “I’m scared or I’m afraid” an in a heartbeat they can get a restraining order but be a man and got told it could takes up to 3 days before issuing one. Told the marital master show me were it say’s a woman a better parent then a man. Took over 8 month and jumping through hoops to prove to the court that my ex was an unfit parent. Told the judge my only crime was being a divorced white male living in the United States and here’s another example to back up that claim. Hope she rot
s in prison.
don, manchester

I can’t see why anyone would want to marry this deranged broad. (sarcasm noted for the reading comprehension impaired) Rot in prison wench.
Will, Pittsfield

To Mr. Jeffrey Ruggiero, Peace, Love and Happiness to you and your daughter.

To Kristin Ruggiero, Seven to fourteen years and restitution are not enough!
You are despicable!
You should have been executed!
art, Hampstead,NH

This is great news! Finally a father gets the rights he deserves too bad it was such a long and tedious battle. The family court system needs a HUGE wake up call here in NH. Just because they are men doesn’t automatically make them the bad parent, sometimes the woman is worse and a munipulator who just knows how to work the system or gets a pro bono lawyer who works it for them. When are they going to take a serious look at overhauling the family court system here in NH?
Amy, Deerfield

Mike from Wolfeboro.. Are you serious? The child will be away from her mother?! That is good news! Girls grow into their mothers. You would want two of these women in society, who will breed more mini-mamas?! (Reminder to self~ that is why you left NH years ago, Nance!~ 1950’s view of the world living in the 21st century!)
Nancy, West Coast, now…

“Defense lawyer Chuck Keefe argued that his client was a caring mother whose judgment may have been affected because she suffered from drug and alcohol dependency.”

No Mr. Lawyer, your client is just a horrible shrew. She didn’t get enough time in prison.

It is too bad that all women, who pull this crap (any lying) in divorce court don’t get sentenced, but the judges and marital masters NEVER punish them for OBVIOUS lies.

I totally agree with Mike in Auburn and Collin in Manchester. I love that recommendation Jim in Loudon. I have always said the same thing.
Steve1, Nashua

Unfortunately, Judge McHugh is right: this woman’s lies will most likely affect the ability of hundreds of women who truly ARE abused & stalked to get justice.

There’s no question that many women play the abuse card as a preemptive strike in the family courts. Judges should be more in tune now with trying to verify the accuracy of those claims.
PK, Manchester

Maybe some of her websites should come down now. This website shows her ex-husband’s picture under her name. How creepy is that!

http://www.plaxo.com/directory/profile/167505972436/9f41d462/Kristin/Ruggiero
Yeah Right, Portsmouth

Family court in NH needs an adjustment. When the truth in directly in front of them they chhose to ignore it everytime.
I am happy that Mr. Ruggiero is able to move on and be the parent to raise his daughter.
Angela, Derry

This happens a lot more than the general public knows. A spouse makes up totally false statements about abuse and the courts are terrified not to respond on the spot with warrants. In cases where the reports are proven to be false there is little done to the fabricator. Glad to see are starting to change.

If a person makes a statement (man or woman) accusing someone of a crime and the report is proven to be false then they should then be charged with a crime with a penalty equal to twice what the person was falsely charged with.
Jim, Loudon

If the UL had a like button this story would would be off the charts!
I love this one “Keefe argued that his client was a caring mother whose judgment may have been affected because she suffered from drug and alcohol dependency” Really? Did you think the judge just fell of the turnip truck?? Seems to me that this was all planned with vengence and greed as motivation.
7 to 12 is not long enough, however she’ll have a great story to tell up in Goffstown.
Sydney, Londonderry

@ Mike in Auburn

I agree, (from experience) that we SHOULD look at burden of proof in family court. Using unsubstantiated claims to make decisions on the welfare of children or the division of property is ludicrous.
collin, manchester

This case will send a message to to others who think they can pull off this type of crap.

Justice should be for all not for some. That district court judge that convicted Jeffrey Ruggiero should be impeached. You don’t send innocent people to jail.
Chris, Merrimack

Looks like the days of women winning everything in court is coming to an end. Now the judges will now question everything both sides have to say in court. The best way to avoid all of this is stay single and don’t date. Save you a boatload of cash.
Outsider, NH

Maybe we should look at burden of proof in family court.
Mike, Auburn

Judge Mchugh
dhc, davecoltin

Perhaps now District Court Judges will be a bit more skeptical when listening to someone’s constant tale of threats, harassment and woe.

I bet the District Court Judge that convicted Jeffrey Ruggiero must feel like a schmuck.
FearlessLdr, Hillsboro

7-14 years is a long jail sentice, but it is certainly necessary to send a message to any person considering this kind of tactic in the future. Unfortunately I found out from personal experience that an ex can get away with wild unsubstantiated allegations in Family Court. This woman will not get to be a mother to her child until she is a teenager. This is truly is sad for her daughter. Then to say she was going to pull the “mental health card” like the courts has never heard that one before. A classic case of being too clever for her own good.
Mike, Wolfeboro

Thank you Judge McHugh and East Kingston PD for letting the Ruggiero’s be able to finally put this behind them.
Firework guru, goffstown

Part III – Female Sexual Abusers: Who are They?

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By Roni Weisberg-Ross, L.M.F.T., Abuse Topic Expert Contributor

Part three of a three part series of articles.

There weren’t a lot of statistics, because no one thought it was a problem. But then in 1990, Ramsay–Klawsnick found that adult females were abusers of male adolescents 37% of the time and of female adolescents 19% of the time; and in six studies reviewed by Russell and FInkelhor, female perpetrators accounted for 25% or more of those abused. In 1996, The National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect conducted a widespread investigation on the maltreatment of children. Of the three million children investigated, more than one million were identified as victims of abuse and of the one million, 12% were sexually abused. The sexual abuse of children by women, primarily mothers, once thought to be so rare that it could be ignored, constituted 25% (approximately 36,000 children) of the sexually abused victims. Furthermore, all of these statistics are likely underestimated because victims of this type of abuse rarely disclose. Finally, there is an alarmingly high rate of sexual abuse by females in the backgrounds of rapists, sex offenders and sexually aggressive men – 59% (Petrovich and Templer, 1984), 66% (Groth, 1979) and 80% (Briere and Smiljanich, 1993).

Why haven’t we, as a society, been aware of this problem? Most probably because women have been idealized as mothers and nurturers. They haven’t been viewed as sexual aggressors. And because they are caretakers and are expected to be emotional, warm and physical with children, no one notices or suspects them. Sexual abuse by women is rarely reported because their victims usually are their own children – who are dependent on them. Furthermore, these children either do not understand what is happening to them or do not think anyone will believe them. And for male victims, there is additional embarrassment and denial – they must have wanted it – men (boys) can’t be raped!

But women can be sexual aggressors. And even though the abuse they are capable of doesn’t conjure up violent images of attack and penetration, surveys show that women are capable of a different type of violence toward their victims, sometimes physical and almost always psychological and verbal. This abuse can penetrate the psyches of their victims more deeply because they are the one person who was never supposed to betray them.

What type of woman would betray her own child or another person’s child in such a manner and why? A profile of a female sexual abuser looks something like this: She would probably be a person with low self-esteem who may have had a history of severe emotional and verbal abuse and/or been a victim of childhood sexual abuse herself. In fact, a study by Fowler et al in 1983 maintained that 80% of incest offenders had been sexually or physically abused as children. There would be feelings of alienation and isolation and possibly the loss of a spouse or other adult partner. She might have a history of drug or alcohol abuse and less often a history of indiscriminate or compulsive sexual activity. There might be arrested psychosexual development; there might be a need to have power and control in some aspect of her life. But the common perception that any woman who does this has to be mentally insane is false. Only a minority of female abusers do not pass reality-testing measures. How the abuse takes place and with who may differ, but the personality type can be constructed from the above profile.

David Finkelhor, who has written extensively on this subject, maintains that there is a Four Factor Model, or to put it another way, there are four components that contribute in different degrees to child molestation:

1. Emotional Congruence – a satisfaction of emotional needs through the abuse of a child that is due to either arrested psychosexual development, immaturity or low self-esteem.
2. Sexual Arousal – probably due to familial conditioning through their own childhood abuse or early fantasy reinforced by masturbation.
3. Blockage – Age appropriate sexual opportunities have been cut off by either a traumatic sexual experience with an adult, sexual dysfunction, limited social skills or a marital disturbance such as the loss of a spouse. The latter has been described as a “Theory of Loss” phenomenon precipitating abuse.
4. Disinhibition – due to poor impulse control either because of substance abuse, a chaotic family background or psychotic mental illness.

There are women who are pedophiles and simply pursue children for the sex, but the female abuser usually falls into one of three categories:

1. Predisposed Offender – the abuser was herself abused as a child and she continues the generational pattern by abusing her own children. It is thought that she becomes an offender in an effort to resolve her own childhood sexual trauma.
2. The Teacher/Lover – she generally becomes involved with an adolescent male with whom she relates to as a peer. She may be looking for non-threatening emotional intimacy.
3. The Male-Coerced Offender – she is being led by an abusive male who she is extremely dependent upon. But she may eventually initiate sexual abuse on her own.

While the public is periodically shocked into awareness by sensational revelations of the second and third type of female abuser (i.e. Hedda Nussbaum, Mary-Kay Latourneau), it is the first type that we have to finally give a face to – she is the one that is quietly victimizing thousands of young children who have nowhere to turn for safety. And the children ARE young. Studies have concluded that women abusers victimize younger children than male abusers – probably because of their role as caretakers. If current research is correct and more female than male children are sexually abused, then it is logical to conclude that more girls may grow up to be sexual offenders themselves and there may be a significantly larger number of female sexual abusers than we had previously imagined.

It is up to us to put aside deep-rooted myths about females, and more specifically mothers, in order to deal with the widespread problem of child abuse and more accurately expose all types of child sexual abusers.

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Mother of scalded boy pleads guilty in 2-year-old’s death

written by: Jeffrey Wolf 1 hr ago

DENVER – A woman pleaded guilty on Wednesday to the death of her 2-year-old son in 2008 who died after being scalded in a bathtub.

The Denver District Attorney’s office says 24-year-old Isela Reyes-Talamantes pleaded guilty to child abuse resulting in death.

Denver Police say she brought her 2-year-old son, Elijah Archuleta, to St. Anthony Central Hospital on Nov. 7, 2008 with severe burns. He was pronounced dead shortly after he got to the hospital.

In exchange for her guilty plea, the first-degree murder charge against Reyes-Talamantes was dropped.

She will be sentenced on March 19 and could get up to 32 years in prison.

A co-defendant, John Vigil, is charged with first-degree murder and child abuse resulting in death.

During a preliminary hearing it surfaced that Elijah’s then 4-year-old sister told investigators that Vigil had “got fire on Elijah in the bathtub.”

Pictures show that the burns to the boy were so severe that the skin on his forehead and chin had fallen off.

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via 9NEWS.com | Denver | Colorado’s Online News Leader | Mother of scalded boy pleads guilty in 2-year-old’s death.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Female Offenders online

This article below talks about an another area that is almost never talked about when the discussion comes around to the internet and sexual predators:

Women go online to share child sex-abuse fantasies
By Nina Lakhani

Days before three women are to be sentenced, an IoS investigation suggests thousands may share their interests

Thousands of women appear to be using the internet to share sexual fantasies of abuse involving children.

An investigation by The Independent on Sunday found a series of websites that depict female-perpetrated child abuse as “natural, educational and enjoyable” for children.

Users log into online forums to meet other “like-minded” web users and to share personal childhood experiences about sexual acts with adults that they say include mothers, teachers and babysitters. User profiles on one website monitored by the IoS claimed to be those of teachers, doctors and retired grandmothers with an interest in “young girls” and “lesbian incest”.

The postings on such sites – assuming they are not posted by men – run counter to the widely held belief that female abusers are either anomalies or feel forced into such depravity by abusive men. Many of the users appear to have easy access to children and describe deriving sexual gratification from sharing their fantasises.

This information agrees with other similar information from a few studies. Female abusers are often able to groom and obtain victims much easier than males because most people do not expect a woman would do such a thing.

The IoS findings are supported by research carried out in a study in Ireland, which found that women were using such websites to justify their feelings as “natural”. Many of the women used the forums, chatrooms and “frequently asked questions” to share tips on how not to get caught – for example, by exploiting situations such as bath time or breastfeeding.

They share many of the same beliefs as men who abuse children: that having sex with a child is educational and children are sexual beings.

An excerpt from one website reads: “If you are a female child lover we want you to know there is nothing wrong with you. The biggest problem is the teachers, therapists, cops, clerics and parents who force their stale morality on the young people in their custody. For children, experiencing sexual pleasure is not damaging at all, they enjoy it … just like we do.” A discussion forum on another website details myriad claims of abuse. “Julie”, 32, wrote: “My first real kiss was from my mom, I was about 6/7, she had been on her own a long time I guess … it was a bit scary, but she was so loving and I just loved the way she held me …” – Read the entire article here

I am trying to locate the study mentioned in the article but have not been successful in finding it yet.

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Female Predators..They live among us!

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They are real, they live among us and they will emotionally scar your little boy for life.. The movie industry has always picture the relationships woman-teenager as something to brag about, the idea of a young boy having sex with an experimented woman appears to turn some audiences on. However in a recent study Dr. Eric Hickey, PH.D. (Director of the Center for Forensic Studies – Alliant International University) describes this experience as follows: “Boys seduced by female teachers predators will usually experience long term trauma that affects their self-esteem, sense of security, and trust levels with others. A 13 year old boy will seldom grow up thinking how cool that was to have sex with his teacher, especially as they begin to understand terms such as sexual assault and child rape. Sexual violation of a child is traumatic regardless of who commits the act”. The truth is that female predators are not limited to the famous story of Mary Kay LeTourneau, the teacher that seduced her student and gave birth to his kids. Female predators could be a close friend of the family, one of his Little friend’s mothers, could be just anyone! These women are usually emotionally immature and seeking for a relationship. Some of them might have been sexually abused on their early years and are not capable to develop a normal relationship with a man their age. According to studies, 95% of predators are males and female predators are more likely to cease on his predatorial seek after being released from prison. 25 years ago, women who would had sexual relations with a minor were considered mentally sick and were sent for physiquiatric treatment only. Today, a female predator will go to prison and spend as much as a male predator depending on her crime. And how does a female predator looks like? Unfortunately, they look just like anyone of us! They are young and old, any race, and the majority or them are good looking which is a plus for them attracting young boys who, at first feel flattered because “a woman like that” is flirting with them. They will bragg with their friends and go on secret dates which will become more and more demanding by the female predator. These women want to be sexually satisfied and will treat their victims as a mature man seeking for protection and love. They will be jealous of their friends and even other teenage girls that could approach their prey. These females will do anything to keep their victims! From threatening with suicide if they leave them, to bribe them with all kind of gifts and even money. They are like a spider guarding their prey. Of course the parents of the victim are their worse enemy and the female predator will do anything on her power to turn the young boy against them to the point to make him run away from home and go to live with her. FIRST SIGNS – Look for unexplained mood changes whenever he comes back from school, don’t be afraid to ask your child even if he gets even moodier. – Establish an honest and rulesless channel of communication with your kids, predators hate that! – Meet his teachers and make sure you know all his friends and parents, don’t hesitate to ask for references. – Be aware of long periods of time chating on the Internet, your are the parent and you have the right to check on his conversations. – Place the computer in the living room or any other place where he, she won’t have much privacy. The video conversations today are full of predators chating with their victims inviting them to expose themselves in front of the camera. – If you have a gut feeling about someone approaching your son with too much interest, whatch out! Just remember this that it is not normal for an adult to want to spend all her or his free time with someone else’s child. – Check on his cellular phone conversations, you pay the bill right? Well you check it regularly and find out what numbers appear on that statment and who these numbers belong to. You will be amazed! – Check the predator’s list in your area! Although most of female predators have not yet been discovered, some of them already appear at the FDLE web sight http://www.fdle.state.fl.us/static.index.html. Another useful web sight is the http://www.familywatchdog.us/ where you can log in and even request to be warned via e-mail when a sexual predator or sex offender moves too close to your neighborhood. Awarness and prevention are usually the most effective weapons against these criminals: use them! It is always better than deal with a traumatized child for the rest of your life.

Female Predators..They live among us! | Jacksonville.com.

Sexual abuse by women of children and teens is a subject most parents and caregivers are not familiar with. Female sexual predators go unreported because of a lack of awareness by the public.

Female Sex Offenders- Sexual assault of children by females


75% of sexual predators are male and 25% are female.

86% of the victims of female sexual predators aren’t believed, so the crimes go unreported and don’t get prosecuted.

Considering these facts,  arrest statistics for child sexual offenders by gender are meaningless.

From “The Sexual Abuse by Women of Children and Teenagers”

UK TV programme – Panorama – BBC1 – 10 pm Monday, October 6th, 1997


Female Perpetration of Child Sexual Abuse: An Overview of the Problem

The American Humane Association which was responsible for gathering data from the yearly reports provided by the 50 U.S. states child protective agencies from 1973 through 1987 on child sexual abuse. They found that approximately 20 percent of substantiated cases of child sexual abuse during that time period had been perpetrated by females. More ..


We bring you this section of our website to increase your awareness of the problem. Hopefully, this increased awareness will protect more boys and girls from male and female sexual predators.

Notice how in some of the articles the term “affair” or “relationship” or “slept with” is used if the perpetrator is female. When the perpetrator is male it is more likely called “sexual assault” or “rape”.


According to David Finkelhor, director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire, U.S.A. and stated in one of the largest newspapers in the U.S.A., the rise in recognition and prosecution of female sexual predators is due at least in part to the increased number of female police officers. Apparently, this results in prosecution of female sexual predators for their crimes without the police being labelled misogynistic.

From the Health Canada report of 1996
The Invisible Boy: Revisioning the Victimization of Male Children and Teens

Female Perpetrators

As recently as 10 years ago, it was a common assumption that females did not or could not sexually abuse children or youth. Even some professionals working in the field believed that women represented only about 1% to 3% of sexual abusers at most. However, mounting research evidence about sexual abuse perpetration at the hands of teen and adult females has begun to challenge our assumptions, though these earlier and dated views still tend to predominate.

The percentage of women and teenage girl perpetrators recorded in case report studies is small and ranges from 3% to 10% (Kendall-Tackett and Simon, 1987; McCarty, 1986; Schultz and Jones, 1983; Wasserman and Kappel, 1985). When the victim is male, female perpetrators account for 1 % to 24% of abusers. When the victim is female, female perpetrators account for 6% to 17% of abusers (American Humane Association, 1981; Finkelhor and Russell, 1984; Finkelhor et al., 1990). In the Ontario Incidence Study, 10% of sexual abuse investigations involved female perpetrators (Trocme, 1994). However, in six studies reviewed by Russell and Finkelhor, female perpetrators accounted for 25% or more of abusers. Ramsay-Klawsnik (1990) found that adult females were abusers of males 37% of the time and female adolescents 19% of the time. Both of these rates are higher than the same study reported for adult and teen male abusers.

Dynamics of Female-Perpetrated Abuse

Some research has reported that female perpetrators commit fewer and less intrusive acts of sexual abuse compared to males. While male perpetrators are more likely to engage in anal intercourse and to have the victim engage in oral-genital contact, females tend to use more foreign objects as part of the abusive act (Kaufman et al., 1995). This study also reported that differences were not found in the- frequency of vaginal intercourse, fondling by the victim or abuser, genital body contact without penetration or oral contact by the abuser.

Females may be more likely to use verbal coercion than physical force. The most commonly reported types of abuse by female perpetrators include vaginal intercourse, oral sex, fondling and group sex (Faller, 1987; Hunter et al., 1993). However, women also engage in mutual masturbation, oral, anal and genital sex acts, show children pornography and play sex games (Johnson, 1989; Knopp and Lackey, 1987). The research suggests that, overall, female and male perpetrators commit many of the same acts and follow many of the same patterns of abuse against their victims. They also do not tend to differ significantly in terms of their relationship to the victim (most are relatives) or the location of the abuse (Allen, 1990; Kaufman et al., 1995).

It is interesting to note in the study by Kaufman et al. (1995) that 8% of the female perpetrators were teachers and 23% were babysitters, compared to male perpetrators who were 0% and 8% respectively. Finkelhor et al. (1988) also report significantly higher rates of sexual abuse of children by females in day-care settings. Of course, Finkelhor’s findings should not surprise us given that women represent the majority of day-care employees.

Research on teen and adult female sexual abuse perpetrators has found that many suffer from low self-esteem, antisocial behaviour, poor social and anger management skills, fear of rejection, passivity, promiscuity, mental health problems, post-traumatic stress disorder and mood disorders (Hunter et al., 1993; Mathews, Matthews and Speltz, 1989). However, as in the case of male perpetrators, research does not substantiate that highly emotionally disturbed or psychotic individuals predominate among the larger population of female sexual abusers (Faller, 1987).

There is some evidence that females are more likely to be involved with co-abusers, typically a male, though studies report a range from 25% to 77% (Faller, 1987; Kaufman et al., 1995; McCarty, 1986). However, Mayer (1992), in a review of data on 17 adolescent female sex offenders, found that only 2 were involved with male co-perpetrators. She also found that the young women in this study knew their victims and that none experienced legal consequences for their actions.

Self-report studies provide a very different view of sexual abuse perpetration and substantially increase the number of female perpetrators. In a retrospective study of male victims, 60% reported being abused by females (Johnson and Shrier, 1987). The same rate was found in a sample of college students (Fritz et al., l 981). In other studies of male university and college students, rates of female perpetration were found at levels as high as 72% to 82% (Fromuth and Burkhart, 1987, 1989; Seidner and Calhoun, 1984). Bell et al. (1981) found that 27% of males were abused by females. In some of these types of studies, females represent as much as 50% of sexual abusers (Risin and Koss, 1987). Knopp and Lackey (1987) found that 51% of victims of female sexual abusers were male. It is evident that case report and self-report studies yield very different types of data about prevalence. These extraordinary differences tell us we need to start questioning all of our assumptions about perpetrators and victims of child maltreatment.

Finally, there is an alarmingly high rate of sexual abuse by females in the backgrounds of rapists, sex offenders and sexually aggressive men – 59% (Petrovich and Templer, 1984), 66% (Groth, 1979) and 80% (Briere and Smiljanich, 1993). A strong case for the need to identify female perpetrators can be found in Table 4, which presents the findings from a study of adolescent sex offenders by O’Brien (1989). Male adolescent sex offenders abused by “females only” chose female victims almost exclusively.

Table 4

Victim Gender Based on Who Previously Abused the Perpetrator

Gender of Perpetrators’ Own Victimizer Gender of Victim Male or Both Female Only
Male only 67.5% 32.5%
Female only 6.7% 93.3%

Berkowitz (1993), in a Winnipeg-based study of sexually abused males in treatment groups, found the following rates of perpetration.

Table 5

Gender of Abusers of Male Victims in Treatment Groups

N %

Gender of Abusers N %
Intrafamilial Abuse (N=54)Male perpetrated 54 100.0
Female perpetrated 39 72.2
Extrafamilial Abuse (N=55)Male adult 50 90.9
Female adult 30 54.5
Male adolescent 39 70.9
Female adolescent 24 43.6

Read the complete report  The Invisible Boy: Revisioning the Victimization of Male Children and Teens – 1996

Video Documentary – Female Sexual Predators

When girls do it: an examination of female sexual predators

The Canadian Children’s Rights Council recommends this video documentary to all law makers, police, child protection workers, educators, school teachers and organizations concerned about recognizing female sexual predators.

This documentary originally aired on CTV in August, 2001

Reporter comments about a female sexual predator:

“In September 1997, she was making her first court appearance and I remember the first time I saw her I was immediately flabbergasted because she looked so innocent. She was so slight, small in her build, and so young, and I thought, ‘she can’t be a sex offender, it’s impossible.'”

– Reporter Cheryl Jahn, speaking about convicted sexual offender Crystal Henricks

From the website of “When Girls Do It” ( website deleted Oct. /04)

“When Girls Do It” is a 45-minute video examining the motivations of female sexual predators, the destructive effects of their actions on their victims, and the reluctance of victims to come forward.

“When Girls Do It” features compelling testimony and powerful interviews with survivors of abuse by female sexual offenders, therapists, and psychologists. The documentary delves into related issues including the long-held misconception that sexual abuse of children is exclusively a male crime.

Vancouver filmmaker Glynis Whiting produced, a hard-hitting investigation of one of the most under-reported crimes in North America. When Girls Do It: The Story of Female Sexual Predators is a provocative and passionate look at the motivations of women who abuse and the devastating effects of their crime on their victims.

“We’re always shocked to hear stories of sexual abuse, but it seems all the more disturbing when the abusers are women,” said Whiting, who wrote and directed the groundbreaking documentary.

Maureen Prentice, who produced When Girls Do It with Whiting, added, “There is a long-held perception in society of women as nurturing mother figures. Victims of female sexual abuse are often reluctant to come forward because they fear not being believed.”

The most common offenders are relatives, with mothers topping the list. But it could be anyone baby-sitters, neighbours or teachers.

Crystal Henricks, a 19-year-old woman convicted of drugging and molesting children, serves as a case study. The one-hour documentary also includes interviews with a female sexual offender, victims who have survived female sexual abuse, and international experts who provide insight and debate into the crime.

Filmed on location in Prince George, Vancouver, Vancouver Island and Dallas, When Girls Do It explores the human reality behind female sexual abuse. It underscores the urgent need for victims to feel secure in identifying female sexual predators in order to prevent countless other children from becoming victims.

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Female Sexual Offenders / Predators in the News

Cornwall Standard-Freeholder

Teacher gets six months

The Standard-Freeholder, Cornwall, ON, By DAVID NESSETH, October 30, 2008

Jennifer Toews - Convicted sex offenderFormer Ingleside teacher Jennifer Dorland was sentenced to six months in jail Tuesday for a sexual relationship with a male student in 2004.

Dorland is in her early 40s; the boy – whose identity is protected by a publication ban – was 13 at the time of the incident at Dorland’s Ingleside home.

Dorland, who is now known as Jennifer Toews, was found guilty of sexual assault, sexual interference and invitation to sexual touching on Dec. 20, 2007. More..


Ottawa Citizen

Female Teacher’s licence revoked following sex convictions

Ottawa Citizen, Andrew Seymour, Wednesday, May 28, 2008

A Cornwall-area teacher convicted of sexually assaulting a 13-year-old student has had her teacher’s licence revoked.

The Ontario College of Teachers withdrew the teaching licence of Jennifer Dorland, 42, earlier this month after finding her guilty of eight counts of professional misconduct under the Ontario College of Teachers Act.

Ms. Dorland, who now goes by the name Jennifer Toews, pleaded no contest to the accusations. She did not attend the May 6 hearing or have a lawyer make arguments on her behalf.

In their decision, the three-member disciplinary panel found that Ms. Dorland’s actions “betrayed the trust of students, parents and the public.” More..


Chronicle Herald logo

Babysitter jailed for sexually assaulting boy

Woman, 40,  handed 2 1/2 years  for multiple sexual encounters

CanadianCRC Editor: Notice the discriminatory wording if the sexual offender is female and the child that was sexually assaulted is male. The use of the words “affair”, “relationship”, “sexual encounter”, “sexual tryst”.  Notice that she didn’t get jail time. The female judge agreed that the offender should get  2 1/2 years in jail and then gave her time “in the community”, effectively no sentence. The female sexual predator also blamed her actions on her ex-husband and the boy victim, a common pattern these days in which female perpetrators of domestic violence are told they are always the victim.

The Chronicle Herald, Halifax, N.S., January 19, 2008, by Jennifer Stewart, Court Reporter

For months Pamela Ruth Collins bonded with the 12-year-old boy she was hired to babysit.

But that’s not all the former Halifax woman was doing.

Ms. Collins, 40, was sentenced Monday to 2½ years in prison for  seducing  the now 15-year-old Halifax boy into  having sex with her  on dozens of occasions between July 1, 2004, and May 20, 2005.  More..


Canadian Press

Quebec woman gets 15 months for having sex with boy when he was 13

Canadian Press, various newspapers and media across Canada, Thursday, March 29, 2007

QUEBEC (CP) – A Quebec woman who  had sex   with a 13-year-old boy has been sentenced to 15 months in prison.

The  relationship  between Julie Dorval, 31, and the boy began after the youth made advances over the Internet. Within about three months they had sex on several occasions. Youth protection services were called after Dorval and the teenager were seen walking hand-in-hand and hugging each other. Dorval pleaded guilty last April to sexual assault.

Prosecutors had been seeking a sentence of at least two years in a federal penitentiary, while the defence suggested a conditional sentence of nine to 12 months.

© The Canadian Press 2007

CanadianCRC editor’s note: Notice how in cases in which the adult sexual predator is a female, the articles use words such as above “having sex” or below “having an affair” and not sexual assault.  If this had been a 31 year old male who sexually assaulted a 13 year old female, the sentence is typically more. In addition, sentencing a male perpetrator to at least 2 years in prison would put the prisoner in federal penitentary.


Claire Lyte

Convicted female sex offender:
Claire Lyte on her way into court.

The Daily Mail UK

‘How I found my 13-year-old daughter having sex with her lesbian tennis coach’

Daily Mail, Liverpool, UK, By JAMES TOZER – 3rd October 2007

The mother of a young tennis star yesterday described the moment she allegedly found the 13-year-old and her female coach naked in bed together.

The woman said she screamed “You are nothing but a paedophile!” at 29-year-old Claire Lyte after stumbling across the pair performing sex acts on each other.

However, she told a court she did not report the incident to police because Lyte’s father begged her not to ruin her coaching career and insisted it would not happen again. More..

The Daily Mail UK

“Wicked” lesbian tennis coach jailed for nearly three years over affair with 13-year-old pupil

Daily Mail, Liverpool, UK,By LIZ HULL, 2nd November 2007

A tennis coach who molested a 13-year-old girl pupil was condemned as “wicked” yesterday as she was jailed for almost three years.

Claire Lyte, 29, was entrusted with helping to develop the next generation of young stars, but instead took advantage of the infatuated teenager.

Her breach of trust was exposed when the girl’s mother discovered them naked in bed together, but such was the hold Lyte had on the youngster that the abuse continued for months afterwards.

Yesterday, a judge told the former Wimbledon player that she corrupted and manipulated the youngster for her own “selfish sexual ends”. More..


Los Angeles Times

Not Only Men Are Molesters

There is just one female violent sexual predator locked up in the state, but experts say rape and child abuse by women is vastly underreported.

The Los Angeles Times, By MAURA DOLAN, Times Staff Writer, August 16, 2002

There are 351 men in California locked up in a state mental hospital as sexually violent predators, prone to attack again and again.

Then there is Charlotte Mae Thrailkill.

The 43-year-old mother of two is California’s only female violent sex offender, confined to a maximum-security state mental hospital after experts decided she was too dangerous for release.

Only a handful of women, including Thrailkill, have ever been confined to mental institutions under state laws that allow for civil commitments of sex criminals after they have served their prison terms.

Charolette Mae Thrailkill - Female Sexual Predator

Charlotte Mae Thrailkill (Department of Corrections)

Women are less likely than men to commit sex offenses, but they also are less likely to be reported and prosecuted. Many experts contend that women commit sex offenses far more often than is generally believed.

“It happens a lot more than gets reported, and I think part of that is due to our culture,” said Steven B. Blum, a consulting psychologist to a sex offender program in Nebraska. “There are a lot of women who have sexual contact with teenage boys, and they don’t get reported.”

Paul Federoff, a forensic psychiatrist in Ottawa, Canada, said one of the female sex offenders he counsels is an exhibitionist. She opens her living room curtains and strips off her clothes when people pass by.

He told her that unless she stopped this illegal activity, she would be arrested.

” ‘Doctor, if someone calls up and says he saw me disrobing in the window, who do you think they are going to arrest? Me or him?’ ” Federoff said she replied.

“And she is absolutely right.” More..


Los Angeles Times

Tracy woman faces charges of kidnapping, raping and killing girl, 8

The Los Angeles Times, By Alexandra Zavis, April 15, 2009

Melissa Huckaby - female sex offender  rapist

Melissa Huckaby, 28, cries during her arraignment in which she’s charged with murder with the special circumstances of kidnapping, rape with a foreign object and lewd or lascivious conduct with a child.

With distraught members of the suspect’s and victim’s families present, a judge continues Melissa Huckaby’s arraignment to April 24. She is being held in the death a neighbor girl, Sandra Cantu. More..


Female Flasher begs to be free

Second time she’s been convicted

The Winnipeg Sun,  SUN MEDIA, by DEAN PRITCHARD, May 29, 2008

A 21-year-old woman convicted for the second time of exposing herself in front of school children begged to be released from jail yesterday, claiming she has learned her lesson.

“I promise I won’t do it again, I mean it this time,” said the woman…

Police arrested the woman May 12 after she exposed her breasts to a passing truck at the intersection of St. John’s Avenue and Charles Street, in plain view of a nine-year-old boy a short distance away.

“I didn’t mean to do that in front of the kid, I didn’t see him,” the woman said.

Court heard the woman “frequently acts impulsively” and lives on her own with the support of around-the-clock social workers.

At the time of her arrest, the woman was bound by a strict probation order in connection with a similar incident two months earlier.

The woman was standing across the street from an elementary school at 8:30 a.m. when she exposed her breasts to three passing school buses and dozens of children walking on the sidewalk, community prosecutor Susan Helenchilde told court. More..


St. Petersburg Times

No jail time for Lafave

The former middle school teacher pleaded guilty to the charges in Hillsborough and Marion counties. She will serve three years of community control.

Ste. Petersburg Times, Tampa, Florida, U.S.A., By CANDACE RONDEAUX, November 22, 2005   More..


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Plea Deal in Teacher-Student Sex Case Garnering National Attention

Salt Lake City, Utah, USA, January 5, 2007

Cameo Patch Sex offender.jpgA Tooele prosecutor is defending his decision to make a plea deal for a substitute teacher accused of having sex with a student. It’s an issue that’s getting national attention.

Sean Hannity: “Another teacher accused of sex with a student.”

In September, a judge ordered the substitute teacher, 29-year-old Cameo Patch, to serve three years of probation, pay a two-thousand dollars fine, undergo psychosexual evaluation and take part in treatment. More..


Newspaper claims confirmation of Homolka baby

National Post, Friday, February 09, 2007

The Toronto Sun is claiming it has confirmation that released sex killer Karla Homolka has given birth to a baby boy.

Citing an anonymous letter sent to the Journal de Montreal, which Ms. Homolka was first admitted to St. Mary’s Hospital with contractions last Tuesday, well before the rumour mill about her possible baby kicked off.

The Sun story claims under the name Leanne Teale, Homolka gave birth to a 7-pound baby boy Saturday at St. Mary’s Hospital in Montreal. More..


MSN-Mainichi Daily News

Woman who cut off her newborn son’s private parts handed 5-year prison term

Mainichi Daily News, Sakai, Osaka, Japan, November 26, 2006

SAKAI, Osaka — A woman accused of cutting off her newborn son’s private parts in 2004 was ordered Monday to spend five years behind bars.

The Sakai branch of the Osaka District Court convicted Shizue Tamura, 27, a resident of Izumi, Osaka Prefecture, of inflicting bodily injury.

“The way she committed the crime was unprecedented, inhumane and cruel,” Presiding Judge Masahiro Hosoi said as he handed down the ruling. Prosecutors had demanded an eight-year prison term. More ..


Female Sex Offenders: Double Standard?

Many Say They Don’t Get Treated As Harshly As Men

CBS,  HAMMONTON, N.J., USA, June 15, 2006

Are all sex offenders treated the same? Does the public take the cases as seriously when the offender or alleged offender is a woman? Many people are asking those questions after several highly-publicized scandals involving female teachers and male students.

As Susan Koeppen observed on The Early Show Thursday, the majority of sex offenders are men, but it’s the women who get a lot of the attention.

When a beautiful teacher seduces a student, some people think, “What’s the harm?”

But Koeppen spoke with one student who says his  “affair”  with a teacher left him devastated.

“I’m still trying to battle back,” Jason Eickmeyer told Koeppen. “This happened in 2003, and it’s 2006, and I still can’t get it out of my mind.” More ..


A History of Sex With Students, Unchallenged

New York Times, U.S.A.,  By DAVID KOCIENIEWSKI, October 10, 2006

BAYONNE, N.J. Many in this gray, insular city are at a loss to explain why Diane Cherchio West was allowed to continue working in the public school system for two decades after she was caught in 1980 kissing and groping a 13-year-old student at an eighth-grade dance.

Why, after her promotion to guidance counselor at Bayonne High School, no one alerted social services, school officials or the police when she became pregnant by an 11th grader she supervised, Steven West, and married him upon his graduation in 1985.

Or why, when that baby, Steven Jr., grew to be a teenager, no one balked as his 15-year-old friend moved in with Ms. West, who then seduced the friend with Scooby-Doo boxer shorts and evening jaunts to sports bars and used her school authority to rearrange his classes around their  secret trysts.

It was not until 2001, when relatives of the boy, Christopher Castlegrande, filed a complaint with the police of statutory rape against Ms. West, that she left her $74,000-a-year job and lost her unfettered access to Bayonne High Schools students. More ..


Female Teacher charged with sexual assault

Media Release – Peel Regional Police Services

MISSISSAUGA, ON, Investigators with the Special Victims Unit have arrested and charged a 36 year-old Mississauga teacher in relation to alleged inappropriate conduct and contact with a student.

It is alleged that the 17 year-old victim, who is a Mississauga resident, was taught by the accused at Streetsville Secondary School. During October of 2006, it was discovered the accused had corresponded on-line with the victim, with e-mails containing sexually explicit content.

It is also alleged that during October 2006, the victim and the accused met in Mississauga, and at that time a sexual assault occurred. More ..


Associated Press logo

Woman who lied about rape gets prison

THE ASSOCIATED PRESS, Thursday, October 12, 2006

COLUMBUS, Ohio — A woman who lied about getting pregnant through date rape and abandoned her newborn in a trash bin was sentenced to prison for the statutory rape of the baby’s father, her 12-year-old cousin.

Twyana Davis, 30, claimed in 1995 that she had been raped at a party, and told her story in a book and on television.

Davis was sentenced Tuesday in Franklin County Common Pleas Court to 10 to 25 years in prison. She had confessed to having a  sexual relationship  with the cousin, leading to her pregnancy.

Judge Michael J. Holbrook labelled her a sexual predator and fined her $10,000. More ..


CBS News

Female Sex Offenders: Double Standard?
Many Say They Don’t Get Treated As Harshly As Men

CBS NEWS USA, The Early Show, HAMMONTON, N.J., June 15, 2006

(CBS) Are all sex offenders treated the same? Does the public take the cases as seriously when the offender or alleged offender is a woman? Many people are asking those questions after several highly-publicized scandals involving female teachers and male students.

As Susan Koeppen observed on The Early Show Thursday, the majority of sex offenders are men, but it’s the women who get a lot of the attention.

When a beautiful teacher  seduces a student , some people think, “What’s the harm?”

But Koeppen spoke with one student who says his “affair” with a teacher left him devastated. More..


North Country Gazette

Woman Seeking Child Support Jailed On Rape Charge

North Country Gazette, New York, U.S.A., October 5, 2006

WARRENSBURG, NY, U.S.A. –A woman who went to Warren County Family Court in an effort to make the father of her child pay child support is in jail, charged with second degree rape and faces up to seven years in prison.

Kimberly A. Baker, 22, of Evergreen Lane, was criminally charged with statutory rape after it was learned that father of her 2-year-old child was only 13 years old when he had sex with her. The child was born on June 14, 2004. More ..


Teacher Sentenced For Sex With Student

Woman Had Faced 66 Months In Prison

NBC Sandiego, U.S.A., September 26, 2006

Danielle Walls, rapist

Danielle Walls, 27, a former Clairemont High School history teacher, was accused by prosecutors of having sex two years ago with a male student in her 10th-grade history class. Deputy District Attorney Dwayne Moring said Walls had sex with the boy 10 to 25 times at four or five hotels around the county.

On Tuesday, Walls was sentenced to one year in jail and will also be on probation for five years. Walls had faced up to five years and six months in prison. She could have been sentenced to as much as 16 years in prison if she had been convicted of all the original charges. More ..


Husband Cooker Loses Appeal

Karen Knight stabbed her common-law husband, 44-year-old Mr Price, 37 times with a butcher’s knife before skinning him and hanging his hide from a meat hook in their lounge room on February 29, 2000.

She then decapitated him and put his head in a pot on the stove, baked flesh from his buttocks and cooked vegetables and gravy as side dishes to serve to Mr Price’s children.  More..


Mother pleads guilty to molesting son for ‘master’

Ottawa Sun, By TONY BLAIS, May 2 , 2006

EDMONTON — A 38-year-old Edmonton woman admitted yesterday she sent sexual pictures of herself and her young son to her Ottawa “master” in an online chat room specializing in bondage.

The woman, who has cerebral palsy and uses a motorized wheelchair, pleaded guilty to one count of sexual interference with a person under 14 and one count of transmitting child pornography. More ..


More women charged in sex cases

By Wendy Koch, USA TODAY, November 30, 2005

In courtrooms nationwide this month, at least seven women four of them teachers have been charged or sentenced for  having sex  with boys, mostly teenagers. One of the women is pregnant.

Tuesday in Georgia, Lisa Lynette Clark, 37, was indicted in the molestation of her son’s 15-year-old friend, who she says is the father of the baby she’s expecting. She was arrested one day after marrying the boy.

No definitive data exists on whether more females are sexually abusing children. Yet the number arrested for sex crimes has risen in five of the past six years as more people consider molestation of boys as heinous as that of girls.

“There’s been a decline in the double standard. That’s why you’re seeing more of these cases,” says David Finkelhor, director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire. As more women enter law enforcement, he says the old attitude that boys are willing, even lucky, participants has changed. More ..


ABC News

Female Teacher Re-Arrested in Alleged Sex Assault Case

ABC News – KVIA-TV, TX, U.S.A. October 5, 2005

EL PASO, TX. [U.S.A.] – An El Paso school teacher faces another criminal complaint in New Mexico, which means she’s now been charged six times. ABC-7 has learned that Las Cruces Police have again arrested 52-year-old Donna McKnight for alleged sexual misconduct with a 14-year-old boy.

Ms. McKnight was previously charged with one count of Criminal Sexual Penetration, one count of Criminal Sexual Contact, and two other related charges in Dona Ana County. She was also charged with one count of Indecency with a Child by exposure in El Paso County. More..


Donna McKnight - Female Sex offender

EP Teacher/Husband Face More Abuse Accusations

KFOX News, TX, USA, August 29, 2005 — by: Elizabeth O’Hara

An El Paso teacher and her husband face new allegations of sexual abuse, this time allegedly involving their children

Las Cruces Police arrested 53 year old Donna McKnight and her husband, Ronald, Monday morning at the Century-21 Motel off North Main Street. Police were alerted to the couple by a family member and say the two were not trying to flee but were allegedly going to see an attorney. Both are being held on $50,000 dollar cash bonds.   More..


Female Teacher’s Sex Trial Begins

NBC5i TV, Dallas-Fortworth, Texas, U.S.A. August 2, 2005

FORT WORTH, Texas — A 13-year-old boy took the witness stand in the Tarrant County Courthouse Tuesday to testify against a teacher at a Catholic school. The boy told jurors that he and the teacher had a  sexual relationship , and that she promised the boy she would leave her husband so she and the boy could get married when he turned 18.

The allegations of sexual contact included episodes of bondage, during which 30-year-old Dawn Reiser is accused of tying up the boy to engage in repeated sexual encounters. The prosecution produced scarves allegedly used by Reiser to bind the boy.

The jury also saw love letters allegedly sent by Reiser to the boy. A DNA expert testified about saliva that sealed the envelopes. More ..


Judge Delivers Sentence In Teacher’s Sex Trial

Dawn Reiser To Serve 8-Year Prison Sentence

NBC5i TV, Dallas-Forthworth, Texas, U.S.A., August 3, 2005

FORT WORTH, Texas — A Fort Worth judge Thursday sentenced a Grapevine teacher for  having sex  with her 13-year-old student.

Judge Wayne Salvent followed the jury’s recommendation and sentenced former seventh-grade teacher Dawn Reiser, 30, to as many as eight years in prison and at least two years of probation.

NBC 5 reported that Reiser was sentenced to 10 years of probation to be served concurrently with her prison term. If she serves the full eight years, she would serve two years of probation. More ..


Is Johnny  sleeping  with his teacher?

Edmonton Sun, By MINDELLE JACOBS, February 2, 2006

Once upon a time, if parents found out their teenage sons were having sex, the most they had to worry about was if the kids were using birth control.

These days, there’s another worry: Is little Johnny  sleeping with his teacher?

When I was in high school three decades ago, I don’t recall reading about a single instance anywhere of a female teacher becoming sexually involved with a male student.

In the past few years, however, the reported incidence of female educators engaging in  sexual hijinks with male students  has been, if not routine, certainly far from a rarity.

The latest case to hit the press is that of a 40-year-old Ontario teacher charged last week with sexually assaulting a 13-year-old male student. More ..


8-Year-Old Boy Charged For Sexual Conduct With 14-Year-old Female Sitter After She Initiates  Sexual Misconduct

KUTV, CBS Broadcasting,  Salt Lake City, U.S.A., July 28, 2005

(KUTV) SALT LAKE CITY, Utah. –  A mother is upset after a 14-year-old babysitter  engaged in sexual conduct  with her eight-year-old boy, and the eight-year-old was charged with lewd conduct.

Prosecutors have since dropped the charges against the boy, but his mother is still concerned.

The  sexual conduct  occurred during a game of “truth or dare” while the boy was being watched by the babysitter.

Prosecutors say that, while the babysitter initiated the contact, the young boy was a willing participant. More ..


Abuse cases face double standard

USA TODAY, By Charisse Jones, U.S.A. national newspaper, February 11, 2005

When a female teacher in Tennessee was charged this week with  having sex  with a 13-year-old male student, the case focused attention on a type of sexual abuse that often goes unreported.

While there is a greater awareness of such crimes, the Tennessee prosecutor pursuing the recent case, along with several psychologists, say such incidents are still viewed less seriously than those involving grown men and girls.

“Unfortunately, they look at it as the ‘Mrs. Robinson syndrome’ and think everything is OK,” says Dale Potter, district attorney for Warren and Van Buren counties in Tennessee. He was referring to the woman in the 1967 film The Graduate who seduces a younger man.

“But it’s my understanding there are some long-term effects for male victims in this kind of situation,” he says. “And from my perspective, a sex-abuse case is a sex-abuse case. We don’t look the other way as to who the victim is and who the suspect is.”

Pamela Turner, 27, an elementary school teacher in McMinnville, Tenn., was charged Monday with having sex with a student at his home and at school. More ..


Female teacher jailed over  affair

Thursday, May 5, 2005

SYDNEY, Australia (Reuters) — An Australian female teacher has been jailed for six months for  having sex  with a teenage student, with a warning from the judge that future offenders could not expect such “lenient” treatment.

Karen Louise Ellis, a 37-year-old physical education teacher, had earlier received a suspended sentence of 22 months after she pleaded guilty to six counts of sexual penetration with a boy aged under 16.

But the Supreme Court of Victoria’s Court of Appeal in Melbourne upheld an appeal by prosecutors against the leniency of that sentence, saying that mother-of-three Ellis should have been sentenced to two years’ jail on each of the counts. More ..

CanadianCRC editor: Notice the words “having sex”  in the article and  in the title “affair”.  This is gender discrimination. You won’t find articles that call it an “affair”  when the sexual offender is a 37 year old male teacher and the victim is a teenage girl under 16 years of age.   Why did the judge consider giving, in the judge’s own words,  a “lenient” sentence?  A 37 year old man would not have initially received a suspended sentence for 6 counts of sexual penetration of girl under 16 years of age.

The Age newspaper logo

Mother faces 22 boy-sex charges

The Age, Australia, By Selma Milovanovic, December 4, 2004

A female integration aide at a Victorian school has been charged with sexual offences against a boy in her care aged under 16.

The woman, 36, an integration aide at a government secondary school on the Mornington Peninsula, worked with the boy, who suffers from language difficulties, three days a week.

The student is not intellectually disabled.

Most of the offences are believed to have happened at the boy’s home. The woman is believed to have lived with the student and his family for some time this year while going through a traumatic separation. The alleged  sexual affair  took place over eight months.

The teenager is believed to have recently confessed the details to his parents. More ..


NewYork  Post

KID-SEX SHOCKER

New York Post, By LEONARD GREENE and DAN MANGAN, November 8, 2004

A 29-year-old Connecticut woman accused of sexually assaulting an 8-year-old boy for months says she considers the little neighbor her “boyfriend” and hopes to marry him someday, authorities said yesterday.

“I don’t want anyone but you!” Tammy Imre allegedly wrote in a letter to the boy, who was a playmate of Imre’s 7-year-old daughter. More ..


Media / Media Bias

Media makes light of sexual assault on 8-year-old boy

Canada Free Press, by Arthur Weinreb, Associate Editor, November 12, 2004

Earlier this week, a 29-year-old Connecticut woman, Tammy Imre was charged with one count each of sexual assault and risk of injury to a minor. The charges stem from sexual assaults committed on an 8-year-old boy, who was a playmate of her 7-year-old daughter. Imre claimed that the little boy was her “boyfriend” whom she planned to marry some day and did not know how many times she had sexually assaulted him. On some occasions these assaults took place in front of the single mothers little girl. More ..


29 Year old female perpetrator of sexual assault on 8 year old boy claims she’s the “victim”

Tammy Imre, 29, a receptionist in Stratford, Conn., was charged with repeatedly  having sex with an 8-year-old boy. Imre’s mother blamed the boy. Its not her . . . she was just too friendly; that’s all, said the mother. He’s the one who needs to be looked at.


ABC News

Picking Up the Pieces

Husband of Teacher Accused of Having Sex With Student Stunned, Confused

Owen Lafave (left) says he still loves his wife, Debra, a teacher, even though she allegedly had sex with one of her students.

ABC NEWS Sept. 16, 2004 The estranged husband of a 23-year-old Tampa teacher accused of  having sex  with her 14-year-old student says he still loves his wife even after filing for divorce last week.  More ..


ABC News

Acceptable Suspects? Why Female Sex Offenders Generate So Much Less Outrage Than Males

Mary Kay Letourneau with Barbara Walters during her exclusive interview with 20/20. (Virginia Sherwood/ABC Photo) By Bryan Robinson

Sept. 30, 2004 Mary Kay Letourneau’s plans to marry the former student she was convicted of sexually assaulting when he was just 12 years old are shocking, but have generated relatively little public outrage.  More..


Mistake for Love – Former High School Teacher Regrets Affair With Her One-Time Student

Heather Ingram says she now regrets having an affair with her former student.

VANCOUVER, British Columbia, Sept. 30 /04 Until Heather Ingram met Dusty Dickeson, she never considered risking her successful teaching career for the attention of a boy, even if he embodied everything she desired during her own high school days.  More..


Associated Press

Rapist of 12 year old gets out of jail today

Notorious teacher seduced preteen student

Associated Press, CNN, various newspapers, U.S.A., Wednesday, August 4, 2004 More..


Study finds girls molest young boys

THE PRESS, NZ, By TIM HUME, July 1, 2004  More..


Associated Press

Focus of Catholic sexual abuse suits now includes nuns

Associated Press, various newspapers U.S.A. and some Canadian newspapers, ELLEN R. STAPLETON, Aug. 2, 2004  More..


Jamaica Gleaner

Hurting the cradle: women  seducing  boys

Jamaica Gleaner, Kingston, Jamaica, by Avia Collinder, Sunday Gleaner Writer, March 4, 2007

Health professionals worry that the reported incidents of women raping young boys are few, the actual occurrence is believed to be higher and is causing long-term psychological damage to victims.

“In terms of the most current statistics on child abuse, this is not reflected as a large problem. But it is my sense that it is even more grossly under-reported and under-recognised than the typical child abuse scenario involving an older male perpetrator and younger female victim,” says Dr. Judith Leiba, head of the Child Guidance Clinic at the Bustamante Hospital for Children in Kingston. “We have seen a few examples where the helper was involved, and in another situation, it was an older female cousin. Usually these boys were in the age group of five to eight years old,” Dr. Leiba reports.  More..


Associated Press

Female Teacher Charged With Sex Assault on Seventh-Grade Boy

Associated Press, Fox News, various newspapers in U.S.A. and Canada, Tuesday, February 25, 2003

MORRISTOWN, N.J. — A 35-year-old seventh-grade teacher was charged with  having sex  with one of her students at least 20 times at the teacher’s home.

Jodi Thorp, 35, surrendered to authorities Monday on charges of aggravated sexual assault, aggravated sexual contact and endangering the welfare of a child. Prosecutors claim she had sex with the boy at her Mendham home between June 2001 and September 2002. The boy is now 15.
The boy, whose name was withheld, had been in Thorp’s seventh-grade social studies class and was one of the first participants in a nonprofit business Thorp ran called HUGS, Helping Underprivileged and Gifted Students, prosecutors said.   More..


Judge upholds teacher’s sex indictment

Details of Mendham Township woman’s behavior toward boy, 14, called relevant

By Peggy Wright, The Daily Record, Morristown NJ, U.S.A. June 25, 2004  More..


Teen killer and sexual mutilator, Karla Homolka, gets out of jail July 5th, 2005, 1 year from today

The Globe and Mail

.. she badly, badly wants to be a mother. More ..


Toronto Sun

PORN VICTIM

Kids of abusive ‘monster’ got life sentence

Toronto Sun, By HIMANI EDIRIWEERA, March 9, 2003

He’s a man in pain, chased by the ghosts of his past. His greatest fear as a child wasn’t the monsters in his closet; his greatest fear was the monster he called “mom.” More..


ABUSING THEIR TRUST.

What Drives Women Like Convicted Paedophile Carolyn Bromily to Hurt the Children They are Supposed to be Caring For?

The Manchester Evening News ( UK ) Page 10. Friday, January 28, 2000

The discovery over the last decade that child abuse was endemic in care homes across England and Wales was a body blow to society. The idea that vulnerable youngsters were taken from perceived danger only to be placed in the hands of evil paedophiles was deeply shocking.

Several men are currently serving significant jail sentences and long- term police inquiries are continuing in Greater Manchester and across the country

The latest appalling case to come to light was that of a care worker who abused boys as young as 12 for 15 sordid years at a residential school in Cheshire. But this was more startling than any of its predecessors, for in this case the predatory paedophiles was a woman.

Carolyn Bromiley, 36, from Warrington,  had sexual intercourse  with boys from 1984 until her arrest last year.  More ..


The Manchester Evening News

Pervert Woman Carer who Preyed on Boys is Jailed

The Manchester Evening News ( UK ) Page 4, Friday January 28th. 2000, BY ANDREW NOTT

A WOMAN preyed on little boys for sex for 15 years while working as a house mother in a care home for troubled youngsters.

Today Carolyn Bromiley was starting a five-year jail term for what the judge said was “the worst case of a woman abusing children in her care any court in the land has had to face.”

The serial paedophiles groomed boys between the ages of 12 and 14 before involving them in intercourse and other sexual activity.

Warrington Crown Court heard she had a warped perception of the boys and referred to her abuse as “relationships.” The 37-year-old mother-of-one believed her virgin victims desired her sexually and after sex she would tell some of them that she loved them.  More ..


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When Ms. Teacher Goes After Male Pupil

FOX News, U.S.A., By Catherine Donaldson-Evans, February 12, 2005

Female teachers accused of sex crimes against underage male students have been grabbing headlines lately. Many of them are young and beautiful, their stories sordid and intriguing.

But to law enforcement, they’re something else criminals who have committed statutory rape against a minor.

This week alone, two cases have hit the news: Cops say one Texas teacher, Kathy Denise White  had sex with a 17-year-old, and Tennessee teacher Pamela Rogers Turner had sex with a 13-year-old boy.

They join at least three other recent cases: Florida teacher Debra LaFave (search), 24, is expected to plead insanity to charges  she had sex with a 14-year-old student , according to her lawyer; California teacher Sarah Bench-Salorio, 28, allegedly molested two boys when they were 12 and 14; and 33-year-old California teacher Rebecca Boicelli was arrested last month on statutory rape and related charges after DNA tests confirmed that a former student fathered her 2-year-old baby when he was 16.  More ..

Women Who Speak Out For Men

Barbara Kay

With Special Guests:

There are many passionate and committed women working hard to improve the lives of men and boys in the arenas of men’s health, fatherhood, boys’ education, domestic violence, divorce and separation, and the many other areas we cover regularly on our program. It is regularly observed in this post-feminist era of political correctness that the voice of a woman can often be worth that of a hundred men. This week on Dads on the Air we interview two North American women who have the courage to speak up on behalf of men and boys. Barbara Kay was a frequent contributor of op/eds, book reviews and humour pieces to the National Post, a Canadian national newspaper based in Toronto. She became a regular Comment page columnist for the newspaper in September, 2003. Her refreshingly direct, brave and honest columns have regularly covered issues of concern to men and boys. Often shunning the political correctness adopted by many of her media colleagues, Kay’s articles have been widely circulated amongst the international men’s and fathers’ movement for being genuinely sympathetic to the lived experience of so many males in the West. Some examples of her writing include

Here’s a short passage from The plight of divorced dads:

“Of the myriad forms of discrimination men cite, one looms over the rest: The egregious treatment meted out to fathers in the throes of contested child custody following the “no-fault” divorces most of them did not initiate or desire. My files bulge with stories of disenfranchised fathers ripped from their children’s arms and lives. They have lost their homes, their careers, fortunes, friends and reputations, often on the basis of false allegations of abuse (for which their female accusers are virtually never punished). I wouldn’t mention such anecdotal evidence, if the anguish in these testimonials didn’t jibe with objective data confirming the shameful gender bias that dominates the family law system.

“About half of all marriages end in divorce. Women are twice as likely to initiate a divorce as men, largely because they can be fairly sure they’ll end up with control of the children. Where shared parenting is the default template, divorce rates plummet. Men are six times as likely as women to commit suicide within the first two years after a separation: That they kill themselves from despair rather than their ex-wives for revenge is, ironically, a tragically eloquent rebuttal to the feminist credo that men are inherently dangerous to women. Although 25% of women make more money than their spouses, 97% of support payers are men (even in cases of shared parenting). Mobility decisions favour women: The psychological comfort to a Vancouver mother of moving near her Toronto-based family will be privileged over the psychological devastation the virtual loss of his children causes the Vancouver-bound father.

“Misandry in family law begins with an ideology that views children as the property of women, even though many peer-reviewed studies show children want and need both parents, and no studies show sole parenting by a mother serves children’s best interests. This ideology is instilled in judges during training sessions featuring feminism-driven materials, and subsequently often plays out as unaccountable kangaroo courts. The result is that an adversarial mother who initiates a divorce against the will of the father – however indifferent her parenting skills, however superb his and even if the children spend their days with nannies or day care workers – pretty well has a lock on sole custody of the children. If she denies rightful access to the father, she will never be punished at all. Conversely, if he withholds money, he will be criminalized: His picture as a “deadbeat dad” may appear on government-sanctioned Internet sites, and if he goes to jail, as is likely, he will serve a longer sentence than cocaine dealers.”

The US Boys and Schools program is dedicated to improving the lives and futures of boys. Their outreach efforts focus on raising public awareness regarding issues related to boys’ health and achievement. They offer tools and resources that can help make a change in boys’ lives. The Boys and Schools program is a project of the Men’s Health Network, a non-profit educational organization committed to improving the health and well-being of men and boys. Malia Blom is the director of the Boys and Schools program, who lives and works in Alexandria, Virginia, with her husband James, and her two sons, Andy and Magnus. Blom gave an excellent presentation at last year’s Boys and the Boy Crisis conference in Washington DC, and it will be a pleasure to have her on Dads on the Air to talk about the crisis facing boys and young men in the US education system, and the excellent strategies being supported by Boys and Schools. Some of the examples of the strategies supported by the Boys and Schools program include:

  • More research regarding boys’ developmental needs and learning styles, and greater public awareness of these differences
  • Early intervention as a means to develop literacy skills and a positive attitude about school
  • Mentoring, and greater parental and community involvement.
  • More flexibility for educators in trying different techniques to reach boys
  • Better efforts to meet the mental health needs of boys
  • Educating policy makers about the need for specialized programs to boost boys’ educational outcomes
  • Creating a culture of support for boys.

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