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Tuesday, September 9, 2008

The Female Narcissist

This article comes from the website of Dr. Irene Matiatos (article reprinted with the kind permission of the author):

The Female Narcissist
by Irene Matiatos, Ph.D.

February 16, 2002

Abusive behavior in men or women can be a function of many underlying issues. Personality disorders or their milder counterparts (i.e., “traits” or “features”) are one underlying etiology. This article tries to help the reader understand the mindset of the female with NPD or with narcissistic features.

Like her narcissistic male counterpart, this lady harbors deeply held and undisputed irrational underlying beliefs that affect her feelings and behavior. Most of these beliefs are never questioned and are only dimly realized, if they are realized at all. While we all harbor irrational beliefs, those with personality disorders harbor belief systems that are deeply embedded and intertwined.

A Real Charmer

Dana is an extremely pretty 23-year old young lady. A delight on the surface, she has an uncanny knack of presenting herself extremely well to the target audience she wants to impress. She has a corresponding almost magical ability to make people feel verrrry good. She can WOW you! You’ll be gushing (or panting if you’re a guy), and there just isn’t anything you wouldn’t do to please her. She will continue to reward your good behavior as long as she needs you. After all, it is very hard work to be “on” so much of the time.

If she’s accomplished her mission and you are no longer useful, she spends less and less energy being perfectly charming and engaging. In most cases Dana has no real desire to be disrespectful, but as she “relaxes,” becoming more “herself,” she becomes quiet or mildly disrespectful.

A Typical Narcissist

The problem is that the only person Dana cares about is Dana. You are no more than the object who provides her with whatever it is she wants and needs: love, admiration, money, encouragement, support, etc. While she pretends to care, and indeed wants to care, the reality is that she doesn’t care. Her world starts and stops with herself. She hides that fact pretty well from most people; especially those who are consistently meaningful to her (i.e., parents, husband, siblings, boss, etc.). Most of these individuals would be shocked to hear this, and in fact would think you’re crazy!

Dana is typical as pretty female narcissists go. She relies on her beauty and her charm. She feels good about herself as long as she “has it over” anybody she considers “the competition.”

Few Real Friends

Parents are parents and too often love unconditionally, but friends and acquaintances don’t. As a result, while new people Dana meets like her, the more they got to know her, the less interested they are in her company. Except, of course, for the young men, most of whom vie for her attention.

Other than a childhood best friend with virtually non-existent self esteem, there are no friends. There are acquaintances and those who share her environment as well as the many men who surrounded her – all of whom she refers to as “friends,” but there really are no friends.

She explains this deficit by rationalizing that her peers disappoint her in one way or another. This one uses drugs, that one you can’t trust, the other one is jealous of her, etc. There is virtually no recognition that the reason people who are not related to her or have no sexual interest in her do not like her given how she treats them!

I’m The Best!

Dana is not content unless she feels she has it over her peers, especially female peers. She believes she has the prettiest face, the nicest hair, and the best figure – which she flaunts with her form-fitting, sexy, and hip wardrobe. She is always well-dressed, even when lounging around. “Studied cool” describes her style. While giving the impression of having thrown together any old top and pair of jeans, the trained eye can discern the hours and hours spent trying the outfits on, making up to appear not made up, etc.

Every asset she has, she flaunts. One weekend, invited to spend a weekend with some new friends at their family’s home in a poor section of a neighboring town, she found reason to make a 30-mile detour to her parents’ upscale, gorgeous home – to show it off – as though announcing her supremacy. Of course, she would never admit that’s why she came home. Her reasons are always framed in wording that casts her in a positive light such as “It’s my dad’s birthday, or, “I have to pick up something important I forgot.” Never an honest reason like, “I wanted to show off the house to intimidate them.”

Jealousy

Jealousy is a huge issue. Her own envy is as cut off from her consciousness as Wisconsin is cut off from the Atlantic Ocean. While she has no clue regarding her pervasive jealousy, it is sadly evident to the sensitive observer.

One year Dana didn’t get her cousin a Birthday present. While Stephanie routinely bought Dana beautiful and expensive gifts, Dana couldn’t say why she didn’t get Stephanie anything. When pressed, annoyed, she provided a series of senseless answers. “I made a deal with my friends that we were not to exchange gifts.” “Did you made that arrangement with Stephanie?” “No, but I’m not getting any gifts. We’re going to lunch. I’ll pay.” Not only did she not end up paying, Stephanie paid for both Dana as well as for Dana’s boyfriend!

The “problem” was that Stephanie, her peer, had gotten her life together. Also beautiful, she found her calling and was pursing an advanced degree with straight As – a feat Dana couldn’t hope to accomplish. She also had a rich boyfriend who adored her. You get the picture. When asked point-blank if she was jealous of Stephanie, Dana replied too quickly and with an affected laugh, “Jealous of Stephanie? WHAT is there to be jealous about?”

The Price She Pays

Part of the price Dana pays to manipulate others is the exhaustion required to be “on” much of the time. When caught with her vigilant guard down, she is not nice: often impatient, short, arrogant and condescending, reflecting her near chronic bad mood. Shopkeepers, boyfriends who try too hard and all the not-too-important people in her life who will put up with it are the unwitting victims. This is subtle. For example, one day she walked into her compulsively clean mother’s house and saw a leaf on the sparkling floor by her feet. Instead of picking it up, she asked, “What’s that?” Her mother, almost on cue, dropped what she was doing to pick up the leaf by her daughter’s feet.

The Devil in Disguise

The apparent angel is the devil in disguise.

A compulsive liar who needs to mislead to maintain her unblemished facade, Dana is not a mean or cruel person. This young woman really wants to do the right thing. While she derives a measure of immediate satisfaction from her cruelty, when forced to face her behavior, she is not happy she mistreats others. After all, a misbehavior is not in keeping with her perfect image of herself! When reality occasionally hits her and she is confronted with her condescending acts, she becomes upset with herself, often in tears. For a short time. Soon all is forgotten. Time heals or she takes solace in blaming others. When she presents her selectively-presented view, it sounds compelling. Until one realizes nothing ever seems to be her issue. Someone or something else is to blame – or the entire topic is dropped. No matter how much she has vowed to correct these behaviors, she does not. She cannot because she will not.

Why, Why, Why?

She cannot because she chooses not to face the truth about herself. She cannot face that her nature is in fact dark and very imperfect. She cannot face that she is no more special, no more unique, no more perfect than anybody else. Unthinkable! What can she possibly fall back on if she were to simply enjoy her many assets as well as accept and work around the impact of her many deficits?

She believes special rules apply to her, and she is not willing to give these up without a struggle. She’s secretly glad others haven’t figured out how to be as special as she is. Giving up her specialness in unthinkable. It does not feel good.

How, How, How?

Keep in mind that narcissism is a lifelong pattern developing from childhood and believed to have a biological basis. If deception and pretense have provided a lifetime of comforts and esteem supplies, why mess things up? Isn’t it more satisfying to concern herself with gratification in the moment? Why work when you can instead do just enough to get by? Better to spend that energy cultivating one’s external assets and targets. These yield immediate rewards.

After all, the only thing she compromises is herSelf, her integrity, her relationships. All the things she has never known or understood, but thinks she knows well.

Trustworthiness

With all these issues, the narcisstic woman (or man for that matter) cannot be trusted. They are not trustworthy – unless they are expending energy pretending to be trustworthy. So, at best, their trustworthyness is inconsistent. Like the male abuser, her moods are unpredictable. When frustrated, the energy demands of being “on” are too great. Her frustration slips away from her – and spills onto anybody unfortunate enough to be in the way.

In a Nutshell

To feel whole, a woman like Dana needs to be the center of attention, be the prettiest, the most fortunate, the most talented, the bestest. She cultivates others who will be manipulated by her to admire her, adore her, inflate her, love her, and overlook her pretense, lies and half-truths.

If she is questioned, she distances. This simple yet effective technique invariable affects the codependents in her life. On cue, they lay low and let the issue drop or chase her, thinking they must have done something wrong/ worrying that she won’t want to be with them. Should an admirer truly believe in her specialness and try too hard to win her, they are treated with contempt instead of charity. These people represent that which she despises: only the weak and common permit themselves to be demeaned.

The bottom line is that this very beautiful, very charming (and extremely manipulative) young woman has absolutely no concern for others apart from those who are in a position to provide her with narcissistic supplies.

Does anybody know a Dana? Even worse, have any men out there fallen in love with a Diana? (May God help you…)

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Sexual abuse by women of children and teens is a subject most parents and caregivers are not familiar with. Female sexual predators go unreported because of a lack of awareness by the public.

Female Sex Offenders- Sexual assault of children by females


75% of sexual predators are male and 25% are female.

86% of the victims of female sexual predators aren’t believed, so the crimes go unreported and don’t get prosecuted.

Considering these facts,  arrest statistics for child sexual offenders by gender are meaningless.

From “The Sexual Abuse by Women of Children and Teenagers”

UK TV programme – Panorama – BBC1 – 10 pm Monday, October 6th, 1997


Female Perpetration of Child Sexual Abuse: An Overview of the Problem

The American Humane Association which was responsible for gathering data from the yearly reports provided by the 50 U.S. states child protective agencies from 1973 through 1987 on child sexual abuse. They found that approximately 20 percent of substantiated cases of child sexual abuse during that time period had been perpetrated by females. More ..


We bring you this section of our website to increase your awareness of the problem. Hopefully, this increased awareness will protect more boys and girls from male and female sexual predators.

Notice how in some of the articles the term “affair” or “relationship” or “slept with” is used if the perpetrator is female. When the perpetrator is male it is more likely called “sexual assault” or “rape”.


According to David Finkelhor, director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire, U.S.A. and stated in one of the largest newspapers in the U.S.A., the rise in recognition and prosecution of female sexual predators is due at least in part to the increased number of female police officers. Apparently, this results in prosecution of female sexual predators for their crimes without the police being labelled misogynistic.

From the Health Canada report of 1996
The Invisible Boy: Revisioning the Victimization of Male Children and Teens

Female Perpetrators

As recently as 10 years ago, it was a common assumption that females did not or could not sexually abuse children or youth. Even some professionals working in the field believed that women represented only about 1% to 3% of sexual abusers at most. However, mounting research evidence about sexual abuse perpetration at the hands of teen and adult females has begun to challenge our assumptions, though these earlier and dated views still tend to predominate.

The percentage of women and teenage girl perpetrators recorded in case report studies is small and ranges from 3% to 10% (Kendall-Tackett and Simon, 1987; McCarty, 1986; Schultz and Jones, 1983; Wasserman and Kappel, 1985). When the victim is male, female perpetrators account for 1 % to 24% of abusers. When the victim is female, female perpetrators account for 6% to 17% of abusers (American Humane Association, 1981; Finkelhor and Russell, 1984; Finkelhor et al., 1990). In the Ontario Incidence Study, 10% of sexual abuse investigations involved female perpetrators (Trocme, 1994). However, in six studies reviewed by Russell and Finkelhor, female perpetrators accounted for 25% or more of abusers. Ramsay-Klawsnik (1990) found that adult females were abusers of males 37% of the time and female adolescents 19% of the time. Both of these rates are higher than the same study reported for adult and teen male abusers.

Dynamics of Female-Perpetrated Abuse

Some research has reported that female perpetrators commit fewer and less intrusive acts of sexual abuse compared to males. While male perpetrators are more likely to engage in anal intercourse and to have the victim engage in oral-genital contact, females tend to use more foreign objects as part of the abusive act (Kaufman et al., 1995). This study also reported that differences were not found in the- frequency of vaginal intercourse, fondling by the victim or abuser, genital body contact without penetration or oral contact by the abuser.

Females may be more likely to use verbal coercion than physical force. The most commonly reported types of abuse by female perpetrators include vaginal intercourse, oral sex, fondling and group sex (Faller, 1987; Hunter et al., 1993). However, women also engage in mutual masturbation, oral, anal and genital sex acts, show children pornography and play sex games (Johnson, 1989; Knopp and Lackey, 1987). The research suggests that, overall, female and male perpetrators commit many of the same acts and follow many of the same patterns of abuse against their victims. They also do not tend to differ significantly in terms of their relationship to the victim (most are relatives) or the location of the abuse (Allen, 1990; Kaufman et al., 1995).

It is interesting to note in the study by Kaufman et al. (1995) that 8% of the female perpetrators were teachers and 23% were babysitters, compared to male perpetrators who were 0% and 8% respectively. Finkelhor et al. (1988) also report significantly higher rates of sexual abuse of children by females in day-care settings. Of course, Finkelhor’s findings should not surprise us given that women represent the majority of day-care employees.

Research on teen and adult female sexual abuse perpetrators has found that many suffer from low self-esteem, antisocial behaviour, poor social and anger management skills, fear of rejection, passivity, promiscuity, mental health problems, post-traumatic stress disorder and mood disorders (Hunter et al., 1993; Mathews, Matthews and Speltz, 1989). However, as in the case of male perpetrators, research does not substantiate that highly emotionally disturbed or psychotic individuals predominate among the larger population of female sexual abusers (Faller, 1987).

There is some evidence that females are more likely to be involved with co-abusers, typically a male, though studies report a range from 25% to 77% (Faller, 1987; Kaufman et al., 1995; McCarty, 1986). However, Mayer (1992), in a review of data on 17 adolescent female sex offenders, found that only 2 were involved with male co-perpetrators. She also found that the young women in this study knew their victims and that none experienced legal consequences for their actions.

Self-report studies provide a very different view of sexual abuse perpetration and substantially increase the number of female perpetrators. In a retrospective study of male victims, 60% reported being abused by females (Johnson and Shrier, 1987). The same rate was found in a sample of college students (Fritz et al., l 981). In other studies of male university and college students, rates of female perpetration were found at levels as high as 72% to 82% (Fromuth and Burkhart, 1987, 1989; Seidner and Calhoun, 1984). Bell et al. (1981) found that 27% of males were abused by females. In some of these types of studies, females represent as much as 50% of sexual abusers (Risin and Koss, 1987). Knopp and Lackey (1987) found that 51% of victims of female sexual abusers were male. It is evident that case report and self-report studies yield very different types of data about prevalence. These extraordinary differences tell us we need to start questioning all of our assumptions about perpetrators and victims of child maltreatment.

Finally, there is an alarmingly high rate of sexual abuse by females in the backgrounds of rapists, sex offenders and sexually aggressive men – 59% (Petrovich and Templer, 1984), 66% (Groth, 1979) and 80% (Briere and Smiljanich, 1993). A strong case for the need to identify female perpetrators can be found in Table 4, which presents the findings from a study of adolescent sex offenders by O’Brien (1989). Male adolescent sex offenders abused by “females only” chose female victims almost exclusively.

Table 4

Victim Gender Based on Who Previously Abused the Perpetrator

Gender of Perpetrators’ Own Victimizer Gender of Victim Male or Both Female Only
Male only 67.5% 32.5%
Female only 6.7% 93.3%

Berkowitz (1993), in a Winnipeg-based study of sexually abused males in treatment groups, found the following rates of perpetration.

Table 5

Gender of Abusers of Male Victims in Treatment Groups

N %

Gender of Abusers N %
Intrafamilial Abuse (N=54)Male perpetrated 54 100.0
Female perpetrated 39 72.2
Extrafamilial Abuse (N=55)Male adult 50 90.9
Female adult 30 54.5
Male adolescent 39 70.9
Female adolescent 24 43.6

Read the complete report  The Invisible Boy: Revisioning the Victimization of Male Children and Teens – 1996

Video Documentary – Female Sexual Predators

When girls do it: an examination of female sexual predators

The Canadian Children’s Rights Council recommends this video documentary to all law makers, police, child protection workers, educators, school teachers and organizations concerned about recognizing female sexual predators.

This documentary originally aired on CTV in August, 2001

Reporter comments about a female sexual predator:

“In September 1997, she was making her first court appearance and I remember the first time I saw her I was immediately flabbergasted because she looked so innocent. She was so slight, small in her build, and so young, and I thought, ‘she can’t be a sex offender, it’s impossible.'”

– Reporter Cheryl Jahn, speaking about convicted sexual offender Crystal Henricks

From the website of “When Girls Do It” ( website deleted Oct. /04)

“When Girls Do It” is a 45-minute video examining the motivations of female sexual predators, the destructive effects of their actions on their victims, and the reluctance of victims to come forward.

“When Girls Do It” features compelling testimony and powerful interviews with survivors of abuse by female sexual offenders, therapists, and psychologists. The documentary delves into related issues including the long-held misconception that sexual abuse of children is exclusively a male crime.

Vancouver filmmaker Glynis Whiting produced, a hard-hitting investigation of one of the most under-reported crimes in North America. When Girls Do It: The Story of Female Sexual Predators is a provocative and passionate look at the motivations of women who abuse and the devastating effects of their crime on their victims.

“We’re always shocked to hear stories of sexual abuse, but it seems all the more disturbing when the abusers are women,” said Whiting, who wrote and directed the groundbreaking documentary.

Maureen Prentice, who produced When Girls Do It with Whiting, added, “There is a long-held perception in society of women as nurturing mother figures. Victims of female sexual abuse are often reluctant to come forward because they fear not being believed.”

The most common offenders are relatives, with mothers topping the list. But it could be anyone baby-sitters, neighbours or teachers.

Crystal Henricks, a 19-year-old woman convicted of drugging and molesting children, serves as a case study. The one-hour documentary also includes interviews with a female sexual offender, victims who have survived female sexual abuse, and international experts who provide insight and debate into the crime.

Filmed on location in Prince George, Vancouver, Vancouver Island and Dallas, When Girls Do It explores the human reality behind female sexual abuse. It underscores the urgent need for victims to feel secure in identifying female sexual predators in order to prevent countless other children from becoming victims.

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Female Sexual Offenders / Predators in the News

Cornwall Standard-Freeholder

Teacher gets six months

The Standard-Freeholder, Cornwall, ON, By DAVID NESSETH, October 30, 2008

Jennifer Toews - Convicted sex offenderFormer Ingleside teacher Jennifer Dorland was sentenced to six months in jail Tuesday for a sexual relationship with a male student in 2004.

Dorland is in her early 40s; the boy – whose identity is protected by a publication ban – was 13 at the time of the incident at Dorland’s Ingleside home.

Dorland, who is now known as Jennifer Toews, was found guilty of sexual assault, sexual interference and invitation to sexual touching on Dec. 20, 2007. More..


Ottawa Citizen

Female Teacher’s licence revoked following sex convictions

Ottawa Citizen, Andrew Seymour, Wednesday, May 28, 2008

A Cornwall-area teacher convicted of sexually assaulting a 13-year-old student has had her teacher’s licence revoked.

The Ontario College of Teachers withdrew the teaching licence of Jennifer Dorland, 42, earlier this month after finding her guilty of eight counts of professional misconduct under the Ontario College of Teachers Act.

Ms. Dorland, who now goes by the name Jennifer Toews, pleaded no contest to the accusations. She did not attend the May 6 hearing or have a lawyer make arguments on her behalf.

In their decision, the three-member disciplinary panel found that Ms. Dorland’s actions “betrayed the trust of students, parents and the public.” More..


Chronicle Herald logo

Babysitter jailed for sexually assaulting boy

Woman, 40,  handed 2 1/2 years  for multiple sexual encounters

CanadianCRC Editor: Notice the discriminatory wording if the sexual offender is female and the child that was sexually assaulted is male. The use of the words “affair”, “relationship”, “sexual encounter”, “sexual tryst”.  Notice that she didn’t get jail time. The female judge agreed that the offender should get  2 1/2 years in jail and then gave her time “in the community”, effectively no sentence. The female sexual predator also blamed her actions on her ex-husband and the boy victim, a common pattern these days in which female perpetrators of domestic violence are told they are always the victim.

The Chronicle Herald, Halifax, N.S., January 19, 2008, by Jennifer Stewart, Court Reporter

For months Pamela Ruth Collins bonded with the 12-year-old boy she was hired to babysit.

But that’s not all the former Halifax woman was doing.

Ms. Collins, 40, was sentenced Monday to 2½ years in prison for  seducing  the now 15-year-old Halifax boy into  having sex with her  on dozens of occasions between July 1, 2004, and May 20, 2005.  More..


Canadian Press

Quebec woman gets 15 months for having sex with boy when he was 13

Canadian Press, various newspapers and media across Canada, Thursday, March 29, 2007

QUEBEC (CP) – A Quebec woman who  had sex   with a 13-year-old boy has been sentenced to 15 months in prison.

The  relationship  between Julie Dorval, 31, and the boy began after the youth made advances over the Internet. Within about three months they had sex on several occasions. Youth protection services were called after Dorval and the teenager were seen walking hand-in-hand and hugging each other. Dorval pleaded guilty last April to sexual assault.

Prosecutors had been seeking a sentence of at least two years in a federal penitentiary, while the defence suggested a conditional sentence of nine to 12 months.

© The Canadian Press 2007

CanadianCRC editor’s note: Notice how in cases in which the adult sexual predator is a female, the articles use words such as above “having sex” or below “having an affair” and not sexual assault.  If this had been a 31 year old male who sexually assaulted a 13 year old female, the sentence is typically more. In addition, sentencing a male perpetrator to at least 2 years in prison would put the prisoner in federal penitentary.


Claire Lyte

Convicted female sex offender:
Claire Lyte on her way into court.

The Daily Mail UK

‘How I found my 13-year-old daughter having sex with her lesbian tennis coach’

Daily Mail, Liverpool, UK, By JAMES TOZER – 3rd October 2007

The mother of a young tennis star yesterday described the moment she allegedly found the 13-year-old and her female coach naked in bed together.

The woman said she screamed “You are nothing but a paedophile!” at 29-year-old Claire Lyte after stumbling across the pair performing sex acts on each other.

However, she told a court she did not report the incident to police because Lyte’s father begged her not to ruin her coaching career and insisted it would not happen again. More..

The Daily Mail UK

“Wicked” lesbian tennis coach jailed for nearly three years over affair with 13-year-old pupil

Daily Mail, Liverpool, UK,By LIZ HULL, 2nd November 2007

A tennis coach who molested a 13-year-old girl pupil was condemned as “wicked” yesterday as she was jailed for almost three years.

Claire Lyte, 29, was entrusted with helping to develop the next generation of young stars, but instead took advantage of the infatuated teenager.

Her breach of trust was exposed when the girl’s mother discovered them naked in bed together, but such was the hold Lyte had on the youngster that the abuse continued for months afterwards.

Yesterday, a judge told the former Wimbledon player that she corrupted and manipulated the youngster for her own “selfish sexual ends”. More..


Los Angeles Times

Not Only Men Are Molesters

There is just one female violent sexual predator locked up in the state, but experts say rape and child abuse by women is vastly underreported.

The Los Angeles Times, By MAURA DOLAN, Times Staff Writer, August 16, 2002

There are 351 men in California locked up in a state mental hospital as sexually violent predators, prone to attack again and again.

Then there is Charlotte Mae Thrailkill.

The 43-year-old mother of two is California’s only female violent sex offender, confined to a maximum-security state mental hospital after experts decided she was too dangerous for release.

Only a handful of women, including Thrailkill, have ever been confined to mental institutions under state laws that allow for civil commitments of sex criminals after they have served their prison terms.

Charolette Mae Thrailkill - Female Sexual Predator

Charlotte Mae Thrailkill (Department of Corrections)

Women are less likely than men to commit sex offenses, but they also are less likely to be reported and prosecuted. Many experts contend that women commit sex offenses far more often than is generally believed.

“It happens a lot more than gets reported, and I think part of that is due to our culture,” said Steven B. Blum, a consulting psychologist to a sex offender program in Nebraska. “There are a lot of women who have sexual contact with teenage boys, and they don’t get reported.”

Paul Federoff, a forensic psychiatrist in Ottawa, Canada, said one of the female sex offenders he counsels is an exhibitionist. She opens her living room curtains and strips off her clothes when people pass by.

He told her that unless she stopped this illegal activity, she would be arrested.

” ‘Doctor, if someone calls up and says he saw me disrobing in the window, who do you think they are going to arrest? Me or him?’ ” Federoff said she replied.

“And she is absolutely right.” More..


Los Angeles Times

Tracy woman faces charges of kidnapping, raping and killing girl, 8

The Los Angeles Times, By Alexandra Zavis, April 15, 2009

Melissa Huckaby - female sex offender  rapist

Melissa Huckaby, 28, cries during her arraignment in which she’s charged with murder with the special circumstances of kidnapping, rape with a foreign object and lewd or lascivious conduct with a child.

With distraught members of the suspect’s and victim’s families present, a judge continues Melissa Huckaby’s arraignment to April 24. She is being held in the death a neighbor girl, Sandra Cantu. More..


Female Flasher begs to be free

Second time she’s been convicted

The Winnipeg Sun,  SUN MEDIA, by DEAN PRITCHARD, May 29, 2008

A 21-year-old woman convicted for the second time of exposing herself in front of school children begged to be released from jail yesterday, claiming she has learned her lesson.

“I promise I won’t do it again, I mean it this time,” said the woman…

Police arrested the woman May 12 after she exposed her breasts to a passing truck at the intersection of St. John’s Avenue and Charles Street, in plain view of a nine-year-old boy a short distance away.

“I didn’t mean to do that in front of the kid, I didn’t see him,” the woman said.

Court heard the woman “frequently acts impulsively” and lives on her own with the support of around-the-clock social workers.

At the time of her arrest, the woman was bound by a strict probation order in connection with a similar incident two months earlier.

The woman was standing across the street from an elementary school at 8:30 a.m. when she exposed her breasts to three passing school buses and dozens of children walking on the sidewalk, community prosecutor Susan Helenchilde told court. More..


St. Petersburg Times

No jail time for Lafave

The former middle school teacher pleaded guilty to the charges in Hillsborough and Marion counties. She will serve three years of community control.

Ste. Petersburg Times, Tampa, Florida, U.S.A., By CANDACE RONDEAUX, November 22, 2005   More..


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Plea Deal in Teacher-Student Sex Case Garnering National Attention

Salt Lake City, Utah, USA, January 5, 2007

Cameo Patch Sex offender.jpgA Tooele prosecutor is defending his decision to make a plea deal for a substitute teacher accused of having sex with a student. It’s an issue that’s getting national attention.

Sean Hannity: “Another teacher accused of sex with a student.”

In September, a judge ordered the substitute teacher, 29-year-old Cameo Patch, to serve three years of probation, pay a two-thousand dollars fine, undergo psychosexual evaluation and take part in treatment. More..


Newspaper claims confirmation of Homolka baby

National Post, Friday, February 09, 2007

The Toronto Sun is claiming it has confirmation that released sex killer Karla Homolka has given birth to a baby boy.

Citing an anonymous letter sent to the Journal de Montreal, which Ms. Homolka was first admitted to St. Mary’s Hospital with contractions last Tuesday, well before the rumour mill about her possible baby kicked off.

The Sun story claims under the name Leanne Teale, Homolka gave birth to a 7-pound baby boy Saturday at St. Mary’s Hospital in Montreal. More..


MSN-Mainichi Daily News

Woman who cut off her newborn son’s private parts handed 5-year prison term

Mainichi Daily News, Sakai, Osaka, Japan, November 26, 2006

SAKAI, Osaka — A woman accused of cutting off her newborn son’s private parts in 2004 was ordered Monday to spend five years behind bars.

The Sakai branch of the Osaka District Court convicted Shizue Tamura, 27, a resident of Izumi, Osaka Prefecture, of inflicting bodily injury.

“The way she committed the crime was unprecedented, inhumane and cruel,” Presiding Judge Masahiro Hosoi said as he handed down the ruling. Prosecutors had demanded an eight-year prison term. More ..


Female Sex Offenders: Double Standard?

Many Say They Don’t Get Treated As Harshly As Men

CBS,  HAMMONTON, N.J., USA, June 15, 2006

Are all sex offenders treated the same? Does the public take the cases as seriously when the offender or alleged offender is a woman? Many people are asking those questions after several highly-publicized scandals involving female teachers and male students.

As Susan Koeppen observed on The Early Show Thursday, the majority of sex offenders are men, but it’s the women who get a lot of the attention.

When a beautiful teacher seduces a student, some people think, “What’s the harm?”

But Koeppen spoke with one student who says his  “affair”  with a teacher left him devastated.

“I’m still trying to battle back,” Jason Eickmeyer told Koeppen. “This happened in 2003, and it’s 2006, and I still can’t get it out of my mind.” More ..


A History of Sex With Students, Unchallenged

New York Times, U.S.A.,  By DAVID KOCIENIEWSKI, October 10, 2006

BAYONNE, N.J. Many in this gray, insular city are at a loss to explain why Diane Cherchio West was allowed to continue working in the public school system for two decades after she was caught in 1980 kissing and groping a 13-year-old student at an eighth-grade dance.

Why, after her promotion to guidance counselor at Bayonne High School, no one alerted social services, school officials or the police when she became pregnant by an 11th grader she supervised, Steven West, and married him upon his graduation in 1985.

Or why, when that baby, Steven Jr., grew to be a teenager, no one balked as his 15-year-old friend moved in with Ms. West, who then seduced the friend with Scooby-Doo boxer shorts and evening jaunts to sports bars and used her school authority to rearrange his classes around their  secret trysts.

It was not until 2001, when relatives of the boy, Christopher Castlegrande, filed a complaint with the police of statutory rape against Ms. West, that she left her $74,000-a-year job and lost her unfettered access to Bayonne High Schools students. More ..


Female Teacher charged with sexual assault

Media Release – Peel Regional Police Services

MISSISSAUGA, ON, Investigators with the Special Victims Unit have arrested and charged a 36 year-old Mississauga teacher in relation to alleged inappropriate conduct and contact with a student.

It is alleged that the 17 year-old victim, who is a Mississauga resident, was taught by the accused at Streetsville Secondary School. During October of 2006, it was discovered the accused had corresponded on-line with the victim, with e-mails containing sexually explicit content.

It is also alleged that during October 2006, the victim and the accused met in Mississauga, and at that time a sexual assault occurred. More ..


Associated Press logo

Woman who lied about rape gets prison

THE ASSOCIATED PRESS, Thursday, October 12, 2006

COLUMBUS, Ohio — A woman who lied about getting pregnant through date rape and abandoned her newborn in a trash bin was sentenced to prison for the statutory rape of the baby’s father, her 12-year-old cousin.

Twyana Davis, 30, claimed in 1995 that she had been raped at a party, and told her story in a book and on television.

Davis was sentenced Tuesday in Franklin County Common Pleas Court to 10 to 25 years in prison. She had confessed to having a  sexual relationship  with the cousin, leading to her pregnancy.

Judge Michael J. Holbrook labelled her a sexual predator and fined her $10,000. More ..


CBS News

Female Sex Offenders: Double Standard?
Many Say They Don’t Get Treated As Harshly As Men

CBS NEWS USA, The Early Show, HAMMONTON, N.J., June 15, 2006

(CBS) Are all sex offenders treated the same? Does the public take the cases as seriously when the offender or alleged offender is a woman? Many people are asking those questions after several highly-publicized scandals involving female teachers and male students.

As Susan Koeppen observed on The Early Show Thursday, the majority of sex offenders are men, but it’s the women who get a lot of the attention.

When a beautiful teacher  seduces a student , some people think, “What’s the harm?”

But Koeppen spoke with one student who says his “affair” with a teacher left him devastated. More..


North Country Gazette

Woman Seeking Child Support Jailed On Rape Charge

North Country Gazette, New York, U.S.A., October 5, 2006

WARRENSBURG, NY, U.S.A. –A woman who went to Warren County Family Court in an effort to make the father of her child pay child support is in jail, charged with second degree rape and faces up to seven years in prison.

Kimberly A. Baker, 22, of Evergreen Lane, was criminally charged with statutory rape after it was learned that father of her 2-year-old child was only 13 years old when he had sex with her. The child was born on June 14, 2004. More ..


Teacher Sentenced For Sex With Student

Woman Had Faced 66 Months In Prison

NBC Sandiego, U.S.A., September 26, 2006

Danielle Walls, rapist

Danielle Walls, 27, a former Clairemont High School history teacher, was accused by prosecutors of having sex two years ago with a male student in her 10th-grade history class. Deputy District Attorney Dwayne Moring said Walls had sex with the boy 10 to 25 times at four or five hotels around the county.

On Tuesday, Walls was sentenced to one year in jail and will also be on probation for five years. Walls had faced up to five years and six months in prison. She could have been sentenced to as much as 16 years in prison if she had been convicted of all the original charges. More ..


Husband Cooker Loses Appeal

Karen Knight stabbed her common-law husband, 44-year-old Mr Price, 37 times with a butcher’s knife before skinning him and hanging his hide from a meat hook in their lounge room on February 29, 2000.

She then decapitated him and put his head in a pot on the stove, baked flesh from his buttocks and cooked vegetables and gravy as side dishes to serve to Mr Price’s children.  More..


Mother pleads guilty to molesting son for ‘master’

Ottawa Sun, By TONY BLAIS, May 2 , 2006

EDMONTON — A 38-year-old Edmonton woman admitted yesterday she sent sexual pictures of herself and her young son to her Ottawa “master” in an online chat room specializing in bondage.

The woman, who has cerebral palsy and uses a motorized wheelchair, pleaded guilty to one count of sexual interference with a person under 14 and one count of transmitting child pornography. More ..


More women charged in sex cases

By Wendy Koch, USA TODAY, November 30, 2005

In courtrooms nationwide this month, at least seven women four of them teachers have been charged or sentenced for  having sex  with boys, mostly teenagers. One of the women is pregnant.

Tuesday in Georgia, Lisa Lynette Clark, 37, was indicted in the molestation of her son’s 15-year-old friend, who she says is the father of the baby she’s expecting. She was arrested one day after marrying the boy.

No definitive data exists on whether more females are sexually abusing children. Yet the number arrested for sex crimes has risen in five of the past six years as more people consider molestation of boys as heinous as that of girls.

“There’s been a decline in the double standard. That’s why you’re seeing more of these cases,” says David Finkelhor, director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire. As more women enter law enforcement, he says the old attitude that boys are willing, even lucky, participants has changed. More ..


ABC News

Female Teacher Re-Arrested in Alleged Sex Assault Case

ABC News – KVIA-TV, TX, U.S.A. October 5, 2005

EL PASO, TX. [U.S.A.] – An El Paso school teacher faces another criminal complaint in New Mexico, which means she’s now been charged six times. ABC-7 has learned that Las Cruces Police have again arrested 52-year-old Donna McKnight for alleged sexual misconduct with a 14-year-old boy.

Ms. McKnight was previously charged with one count of Criminal Sexual Penetration, one count of Criminal Sexual Contact, and two other related charges in Dona Ana County. She was also charged with one count of Indecency with a Child by exposure in El Paso County. More..


Donna McKnight - Female Sex offender

EP Teacher/Husband Face More Abuse Accusations

KFOX News, TX, USA, August 29, 2005 — by: Elizabeth O’Hara

An El Paso teacher and her husband face new allegations of sexual abuse, this time allegedly involving their children

Las Cruces Police arrested 53 year old Donna McKnight and her husband, Ronald, Monday morning at the Century-21 Motel off North Main Street. Police were alerted to the couple by a family member and say the two were not trying to flee but were allegedly going to see an attorney. Both are being held on $50,000 dollar cash bonds.   More..


Female Teacher’s Sex Trial Begins

NBC5i TV, Dallas-Fortworth, Texas, U.S.A. August 2, 2005

FORT WORTH, Texas — A 13-year-old boy took the witness stand in the Tarrant County Courthouse Tuesday to testify against a teacher at a Catholic school. The boy told jurors that he and the teacher had a  sexual relationship , and that she promised the boy she would leave her husband so she and the boy could get married when he turned 18.

The allegations of sexual contact included episodes of bondage, during which 30-year-old Dawn Reiser is accused of tying up the boy to engage in repeated sexual encounters. The prosecution produced scarves allegedly used by Reiser to bind the boy.

The jury also saw love letters allegedly sent by Reiser to the boy. A DNA expert testified about saliva that sealed the envelopes. More ..


Judge Delivers Sentence In Teacher’s Sex Trial

Dawn Reiser To Serve 8-Year Prison Sentence

NBC5i TV, Dallas-Forthworth, Texas, U.S.A., August 3, 2005

FORT WORTH, Texas — A Fort Worth judge Thursday sentenced a Grapevine teacher for  having sex  with her 13-year-old student.

Judge Wayne Salvent followed the jury’s recommendation and sentenced former seventh-grade teacher Dawn Reiser, 30, to as many as eight years in prison and at least two years of probation.

NBC 5 reported that Reiser was sentenced to 10 years of probation to be served concurrently with her prison term. If she serves the full eight years, she would serve two years of probation. More ..


Is Johnny  sleeping  with his teacher?

Edmonton Sun, By MINDELLE JACOBS, February 2, 2006

Once upon a time, if parents found out their teenage sons were having sex, the most they had to worry about was if the kids were using birth control.

These days, there’s another worry: Is little Johnny  sleeping with his teacher?

When I was in high school three decades ago, I don’t recall reading about a single instance anywhere of a female teacher becoming sexually involved with a male student.

In the past few years, however, the reported incidence of female educators engaging in  sexual hijinks with male students  has been, if not routine, certainly far from a rarity.

The latest case to hit the press is that of a 40-year-old Ontario teacher charged last week with sexually assaulting a 13-year-old male student. More ..


8-Year-Old Boy Charged For Sexual Conduct With 14-Year-old Female Sitter After She Initiates  Sexual Misconduct

KUTV, CBS Broadcasting,  Salt Lake City, U.S.A., July 28, 2005

(KUTV) SALT LAKE CITY, Utah. –  A mother is upset after a 14-year-old babysitter  engaged in sexual conduct  with her eight-year-old boy, and the eight-year-old was charged with lewd conduct.

Prosecutors have since dropped the charges against the boy, but his mother is still concerned.

The  sexual conduct  occurred during a game of “truth or dare” while the boy was being watched by the babysitter.

Prosecutors say that, while the babysitter initiated the contact, the young boy was a willing participant. More ..


Abuse cases face double standard

USA TODAY, By Charisse Jones, U.S.A. national newspaper, February 11, 2005

When a female teacher in Tennessee was charged this week with  having sex  with a 13-year-old male student, the case focused attention on a type of sexual abuse that often goes unreported.

While there is a greater awareness of such crimes, the Tennessee prosecutor pursuing the recent case, along with several psychologists, say such incidents are still viewed less seriously than those involving grown men and girls.

“Unfortunately, they look at it as the ‘Mrs. Robinson syndrome’ and think everything is OK,” says Dale Potter, district attorney for Warren and Van Buren counties in Tennessee. He was referring to the woman in the 1967 film The Graduate who seduces a younger man.

“But it’s my understanding there are some long-term effects for male victims in this kind of situation,” he says. “And from my perspective, a sex-abuse case is a sex-abuse case. We don’t look the other way as to who the victim is and who the suspect is.”

Pamela Turner, 27, an elementary school teacher in McMinnville, Tenn., was charged Monday with having sex with a student at his home and at school. More ..


Female teacher jailed over  affair

Thursday, May 5, 2005

SYDNEY, Australia (Reuters) — An Australian female teacher has been jailed for six months for  having sex  with a teenage student, with a warning from the judge that future offenders could not expect such “lenient” treatment.

Karen Louise Ellis, a 37-year-old physical education teacher, had earlier received a suspended sentence of 22 months after she pleaded guilty to six counts of sexual penetration with a boy aged under 16.

But the Supreme Court of Victoria’s Court of Appeal in Melbourne upheld an appeal by prosecutors against the leniency of that sentence, saying that mother-of-three Ellis should have been sentenced to two years’ jail on each of the counts. More ..

CanadianCRC editor: Notice the words “having sex”  in the article and  in the title “affair”.  This is gender discrimination. You won’t find articles that call it an “affair”  when the sexual offender is a 37 year old male teacher and the victim is a teenage girl under 16 years of age.   Why did the judge consider giving, in the judge’s own words,  a “lenient” sentence?  A 37 year old man would not have initially received a suspended sentence for 6 counts of sexual penetration of girl under 16 years of age.

The Age newspaper logo

Mother faces 22 boy-sex charges

The Age, Australia, By Selma Milovanovic, December 4, 2004

A female integration aide at a Victorian school has been charged with sexual offences against a boy in her care aged under 16.

The woman, 36, an integration aide at a government secondary school on the Mornington Peninsula, worked with the boy, who suffers from language difficulties, three days a week.

The student is not intellectually disabled.

Most of the offences are believed to have happened at the boy’s home. The woman is believed to have lived with the student and his family for some time this year while going through a traumatic separation. The alleged  sexual affair  took place over eight months.

The teenager is believed to have recently confessed the details to his parents. More ..


NewYork  Post

KID-SEX SHOCKER

New York Post, By LEONARD GREENE and DAN MANGAN, November 8, 2004

A 29-year-old Connecticut woman accused of sexually assaulting an 8-year-old boy for months says she considers the little neighbor her “boyfriend” and hopes to marry him someday, authorities said yesterday.

“I don’t want anyone but you!” Tammy Imre allegedly wrote in a letter to the boy, who was a playmate of Imre’s 7-year-old daughter. More ..


Media / Media Bias

Media makes light of sexual assault on 8-year-old boy

Canada Free Press, by Arthur Weinreb, Associate Editor, November 12, 2004

Earlier this week, a 29-year-old Connecticut woman, Tammy Imre was charged with one count each of sexual assault and risk of injury to a minor. The charges stem from sexual assaults committed on an 8-year-old boy, who was a playmate of her 7-year-old daughter. Imre claimed that the little boy was her “boyfriend” whom she planned to marry some day and did not know how many times she had sexually assaulted him. On some occasions these assaults took place in front of the single mothers little girl. More ..


29 Year old female perpetrator of sexual assault on 8 year old boy claims she’s the “victim”

Tammy Imre, 29, a receptionist in Stratford, Conn., was charged with repeatedly  having sex with an 8-year-old boy. Imre’s mother blamed the boy. Its not her . . . she was just too friendly; that’s all, said the mother. He’s the one who needs to be looked at.


ABC News

Picking Up the Pieces

Husband of Teacher Accused of Having Sex With Student Stunned, Confused

Owen Lafave (left) says he still loves his wife, Debra, a teacher, even though she allegedly had sex with one of her students.

ABC NEWS Sept. 16, 2004 The estranged husband of a 23-year-old Tampa teacher accused of  having sex  with her 14-year-old student says he still loves his wife even after filing for divorce last week.  More ..


ABC News

Acceptable Suspects? Why Female Sex Offenders Generate So Much Less Outrage Than Males

Mary Kay Letourneau with Barbara Walters during her exclusive interview with 20/20. (Virginia Sherwood/ABC Photo) By Bryan Robinson

Sept. 30, 2004 Mary Kay Letourneau’s plans to marry the former student she was convicted of sexually assaulting when he was just 12 years old are shocking, but have generated relatively little public outrage.  More..


Mistake for Love – Former High School Teacher Regrets Affair With Her One-Time Student

Heather Ingram says she now regrets having an affair with her former student.

VANCOUVER, British Columbia, Sept. 30 /04 Until Heather Ingram met Dusty Dickeson, she never considered risking her successful teaching career for the attention of a boy, even if he embodied everything she desired during her own high school days.  More..


Associated Press

Rapist of 12 year old gets out of jail today

Notorious teacher seduced preteen student

Associated Press, CNN, various newspapers, U.S.A., Wednesday, August 4, 2004 More..


Study finds girls molest young boys

THE PRESS, NZ, By TIM HUME, July 1, 2004  More..


Associated Press

Focus of Catholic sexual abuse suits now includes nuns

Associated Press, various newspapers U.S.A. and some Canadian newspapers, ELLEN R. STAPLETON, Aug. 2, 2004  More..


Jamaica Gleaner

Hurting the cradle: women  seducing  boys

Jamaica Gleaner, Kingston, Jamaica, by Avia Collinder, Sunday Gleaner Writer, March 4, 2007

Health professionals worry that the reported incidents of women raping young boys are few, the actual occurrence is believed to be higher and is causing long-term psychological damage to victims.

“In terms of the most current statistics on child abuse, this is not reflected as a large problem. But it is my sense that it is even more grossly under-reported and under-recognised than the typical child abuse scenario involving an older male perpetrator and younger female victim,” says Dr. Judith Leiba, head of the Child Guidance Clinic at the Bustamante Hospital for Children in Kingston. “We have seen a few examples where the helper was involved, and in another situation, it was an older female cousin. Usually these boys were in the age group of five to eight years old,” Dr. Leiba reports.  More..


Associated Press

Female Teacher Charged With Sex Assault on Seventh-Grade Boy

Associated Press, Fox News, various newspapers in U.S.A. and Canada, Tuesday, February 25, 2003

MORRISTOWN, N.J. — A 35-year-old seventh-grade teacher was charged with  having sex  with one of her students at least 20 times at the teacher’s home.

Jodi Thorp, 35, surrendered to authorities Monday on charges of aggravated sexual assault, aggravated sexual contact and endangering the welfare of a child. Prosecutors claim she had sex with the boy at her Mendham home between June 2001 and September 2002. The boy is now 15.
The boy, whose name was withheld, had been in Thorp’s seventh-grade social studies class and was one of the first participants in a nonprofit business Thorp ran called HUGS, Helping Underprivileged and Gifted Students, prosecutors said.   More..


Judge upholds teacher’s sex indictment

Details of Mendham Township woman’s behavior toward boy, 14, called relevant

By Peggy Wright, The Daily Record, Morristown NJ, U.S.A. June 25, 2004  More..


Teen killer and sexual mutilator, Karla Homolka, gets out of jail July 5th, 2005, 1 year from today

The Globe and Mail

.. she badly, badly wants to be a mother. More ..


Toronto Sun

PORN VICTIM

Kids of abusive ‘monster’ got life sentence

Toronto Sun, By HIMANI EDIRIWEERA, March 9, 2003

He’s a man in pain, chased by the ghosts of his past. His greatest fear as a child wasn’t the monsters in his closet; his greatest fear was the monster he called “mom.” More..


ABUSING THEIR TRUST.

What Drives Women Like Convicted Paedophile Carolyn Bromily to Hurt the Children They are Supposed to be Caring For?

The Manchester Evening News ( UK ) Page 10. Friday, January 28, 2000

The discovery over the last decade that child abuse was endemic in care homes across England and Wales was a body blow to society. The idea that vulnerable youngsters were taken from perceived danger only to be placed in the hands of evil paedophiles was deeply shocking.

Several men are currently serving significant jail sentences and long- term police inquiries are continuing in Greater Manchester and across the country

The latest appalling case to come to light was that of a care worker who abused boys as young as 12 for 15 sordid years at a residential school in Cheshire. But this was more startling than any of its predecessors, for in this case the predatory paedophiles was a woman.

Carolyn Bromiley, 36, from Warrington,  had sexual intercourse  with boys from 1984 until her arrest last year.  More ..


The Manchester Evening News

Pervert Woman Carer who Preyed on Boys is Jailed

The Manchester Evening News ( UK ) Page 4, Friday January 28th. 2000, BY ANDREW NOTT

A WOMAN preyed on little boys for sex for 15 years while working as a house mother in a care home for troubled youngsters.

Today Carolyn Bromiley was starting a five-year jail term for what the judge said was “the worst case of a woman abusing children in her care any court in the land has had to face.”

The serial paedophiles groomed boys between the ages of 12 and 14 before involving them in intercourse and other sexual activity.

Warrington Crown Court heard she had a warped perception of the boys and referred to her abuse as “relationships.” The 37-year-old mother-of-one believed her virgin victims desired her sexually and after sex she would tell some of them that she loved them.  More ..


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When Ms. Teacher Goes After Male Pupil

FOX News, U.S.A., By Catherine Donaldson-Evans, February 12, 2005

Female teachers accused of sex crimes against underage male students have been grabbing headlines lately. Many of them are young and beautiful, their stories sordid and intriguing.

But to law enforcement, they’re something else criminals who have committed statutory rape against a minor.

This week alone, two cases have hit the news: Cops say one Texas teacher, Kathy Denise White  had sex with a 17-year-old, and Tennessee teacher Pamela Rogers Turner had sex with a 13-year-old boy.

They join at least three other recent cases: Florida teacher Debra LaFave (search), 24, is expected to plead insanity to charges  she had sex with a 14-year-old student , according to her lawyer; California teacher Sarah Bench-Salorio, 28, allegedly molested two boys when they were 12 and 14; and 33-year-old California teacher Rebecca Boicelli was arrested last month on statutory rape and related charges after DNA tests confirmed that a former student fathered her 2-year-old baby when he was 16.  More ..

Women Who Speak Out For Men

Barbara Kay

With Special Guests:

There are many passionate and committed women working hard to improve the lives of men and boys in the arenas of men’s health, fatherhood, boys’ education, domestic violence, divorce and separation, and the many other areas we cover regularly on our program. It is regularly observed in this post-feminist era of political correctness that the voice of a woman can often be worth that of a hundred men. This week on Dads on the Air we interview two North American women who have the courage to speak up on behalf of men and boys. Barbara Kay was a frequent contributor of op/eds, book reviews and humour pieces to the National Post, a Canadian national newspaper based in Toronto. She became a regular Comment page columnist for the newspaper in September, 2003. Her refreshingly direct, brave and honest columns have regularly covered issues of concern to men and boys. Often shunning the political correctness adopted by many of her media colleagues, Kay’s articles have been widely circulated amongst the international men’s and fathers’ movement for being genuinely sympathetic to the lived experience of so many males in the West. Some examples of her writing include

Here’s a short passage from The plight of divorced dads:

“Of the myriad forms of discrimination men cite, one looms over the rest: The egregious treatment meted out to fathers in the throes of contested child custody following the “no-fault” divorces most of them did not initiate or desire. My files bulge with stories of disenfranchised fathers ripped from their children’s arms and lives. They have lost their homes, their careers, fortunes, friends and reputations, often on the basis of false allegations of abuse (for which their female accusers are virtually never punished). I wouldn’t mention such anecdotal evidence, if the anguish in these testimonials didn’t jibe with objective data confirming the shameful gender bias that dominates the family law system.

“About half of all marriages end in divorce. Women are twice as likely to initiate a divorce as men, largely because they can be fairly sure they’ll end up with control of the children. Where shared parenting is the default template, divorce rates plummet. Men are six times as likely as women to commit suicide within the first two years after a separation: That they kill themselves from despair rather than their ex-wives for revenge is, ironically, a tragically eloquent rebuttal to the feminist credo that men are inherently dangerous to women. Although 25% of women make more money than their spouses, 97% of support payers are men (even in cases of shared parenting). Mobility decisions favour women: The psychological comfort to a Vancouver mother of moving near her Toronto-based family will be privileged over the psychological devastation the virtual loss of his children causes the Vancouver-bound father.

“Misandry in family law begins with an ideology that views children as the property of women, even though many peer-reviewed studies show children want and need both parents, and no studies show sole parenting by a mother serves children’s best interests. This ideology is instilled in judges during training sessions featuring feminism-driven materials, and subsequently often plays out as unaccountable kangaroo courts. The result is that an adversarial mother who initiates a divorce against the will of the father – however indifferent her parenting skills, however superb his and even if the children spend their days with nannies or day care workers – pretty well has a lock on sole custody of the children. If she denies rightful access to the father, she will never be punished at all. Conversely, if he withholds money, he will be criminalized: His picture as a “deadbeat dad” may appear on government-sanctioned Internet sites, and if he goes to jail, as is likely, he will serve a longer sentence than cocaine dealers.”

The US Boys and Schools program is dedicated to improving the lives and futures of boys. Their outreach efforts focus on raising public awareness regarding issues related to boys’ health and achievement. They offer tools and resources that can help make a change in boys’ lives. The Boys and Schools program is a project of the Men’s Health Network, a non-profit educational organization committed to improving the health and well-being of men and boys. Malia Blom is the director of the Boys and Schools program, who lives and works in Alexandria, Virginia, with her husband James, and her two sons, Andy and Magnus. Blom gave an excellent presentation at last year’s Boys and the Boy Crisis conference in Washington DC, and it will be a pleasure to have her on Dads on the Air to talk about the crisis facing boys and young men in the US education system, and the excellent strategies being supported by Boys and Schools. Some of the examples of the strategies supported by the Boys and Schools program include:

  • More research regarding boys’ developmental needs and learning styles, and greater public awareness of these differences
  • Early intervention as a means to develop literacy skills and a positive attitude about school
  • Mentoring, and greater parental and community involvement.
  • More flexibility for educators in trying different techniques to reach boys
  • Better efforts to meet the mental health needs of boys
  • Educating policy makers about the need for specialized programs to boost boys’ educational outcomes
  • Creating a culture of support for boys.

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Iowa Woman, Kourtney Babcock, Charged With Sexually Abusing 12-Year-Old Boys

September 25th 2009

A 19-year-old woman from southeast Iowa faces sexual abuse charges in a case involving two boys.

The Des Moines County sheriff’s office says Kourtney Babcock, (pictured left) of rural Yarmouth, was arrested on Wednesday on three counts of third-degree sexual abuse. She’s accused of having sexual contact with two 12-year-old boys at a house in Mediapolis.

The investigation began in July.

Babcock was in the Des Moines County jail in Burlington on Friday on bond of $30,000. Jail officials didn’t know if she had an attorney.

http://www.kcrg.com/news/local/61452732.html

http://www.whotv.com/news/sns-ap-ia–iowasexualabuse,0,2715867.story

http://www.kcci.com/news/21113345/detail.html

To Catch A Female Predator: Iowa Woman, Kourtney Babcock, Charged With Sexually Abusing 12-Year-Old Boys.

Court: NY Mom Who Kidnapped Son is the ‘Perpetrator of Domestic Violence’

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

By Robert Franklin, Esq.

For the better part of a decade, a Queens woman portrayed herself — in the news, on her blog and in court — as the long-suffering victim of domestic violence and a devoted mother forced to kidnap her son to save him from abuse!!

In fact, it was the woman herself, Jing Kelly, who was the “perpetrator of domestic violence,” who repeatedly lied on the stand and who had “a history of neglecting the child,” according to a Manhattan Family Court decision that an appellate court unanimously upheld last week.

The lengthy, very public legal battle that Kelly waged for years — in which she claimed her then-husband raped her, threatened her at gunpoint and used prostitutes has ended with her permanently losing custody of their now 9-year-old son, Tristram.

That’s the latest on a custody battle that has raged in a Manhattan Family Court for the better part of a decade. (Read about it here (New York Post, 9/14/09).) In addition to Jing’s repeated and very public false claims of rape and other forms of abuse, she fled to China with Tristram for 18 months. She was returned to this country in 2003 and jailed for kidnapping. Jing’s husband and Tristram’s father, Craig Kelly, died of stomach cancer shortly after she kidnapped the child. His brother Doug, Tristram’s uncle, has permanent custody of the boy who is now nine years old.

In order to put this case in some perspective, go back to this article in August of 2005 (New York Post, 8/27/05). By that time Craig Kelly was long dead. Notice that Jing Kelly, who has kidnapped Tristram, fled to China, returned to Canada and been imprisoned is now “Surrounded by Chinese-American leaders and women’s rights advocates…” And notice further how respectful they are of the dead when one refers to Craig Kelly as “an abusive bastard of a husband.”

Nice. I wonder what these people have to say now. I even wonder why they said what they said then given that there were photos of Craig Kelly with massive bite marks on his neck and his head entirely wrapped in a gauze bandage from being struck by Jing with a lamp.

Glenn’s written before about claims of DV or sexual violence made by women in the middle of divorce cases. Very frequently “women’s rights advocates” are there front and center with their ready-made support for the “victim,” regardless of facts.

Will Mr. John Liu, NY City Councilman, or the women’s rights advocates who were so quick to libel the good name of Craig Kelly come forward now and apologize for their shameful wrongdoing? Or will they do as they’ve done in every similar case – either not say a word or claim that in some way, the court is wrong and they are right, despite all the evidence?

Court: NY Mom Who Kidnapped Son is the ‘Perpetrator of Domestic Violence’ | Glenn Sacks on MND.

Long Term Effects of Sexual Abuse by a Female

In a recent case in Texas a defense attorney, according to the media, made the following statement (the victim was 13):

Winfield told jurors that if given probation, Cosgrove would not be a risk, and that the boy enjoyed the attentions of an older woman and was not traumatized.

“It’s different with boys and girls,” she said. “I don’t believe he’s going to be scarred for life.” – Read the entire article here

Comments like that are all to common in cases like that. In another case an attorney said “In my opinion he’s an advanced 14-year-old,”. Comments like these and others are simply wrong and offensive. Because I am seeing more and more reported comments like this I wanted to look at parts of a study that talked about the long term effects of sexual abuse by females. It has some interesting points that I would like to highlight (note all emphasis is mine):

The Long-Term Effects of Child Sexual Abuse by Female Perpetrators: A Qualitative Study of Male and Female Victims
Myriam S. Denov
Journal of Interpersonal Violence, Oct 2004; vol. 19: pp. 1137 – 1156

Despite the minimal research dedicated to addressing the long-term effects of female sexual abuse on victims, emerging studies have revealed that the general public and professionals working in the area of child welfare perceive sexual abuse by women as relatively harmless as compared to sexual abuse by men. Broussard, Wagner, and Kazelskis (1991) asked 180 female and 180 male undergraduates their perceptions of the effects of child sexual abuse on the victim. Participants tended to view the interaction of a male victim with a female perpetrator as less representative of child sexual abuse. They also believed that male victims of female offenders would experience less harm than if the victim was a woman or girl and the offender was a man. Similarly, Finkelhor (1984) found that his survey participants tended to view the sexual offenses of women as relatively insignificant. When he asked 521 parents about the seriousness of different types of sexual abuse, they rated adult female perpetrators’ actions with male and female victims as less abusive than those of adult male perpetrators with male or female victims.

Now this might be expected of the lay person but professionals who work in the area of child welfare should know better. But then again think of how many of these professionals have the mother present when they are asking questions about sexual abuse to a child. How many of them even think to ask if the child has been sexually abused by a woman?

Research on professional attitudes to different types of sexual abuse reveals comparable perceptions to those of the general public. For example,Hetherton and Beardsall (1998) identified gender biases in the decisions of socialworkers and police working in child protection. The authors presented police officers and social workers with identical case vignettes of sexual abuse involving either a male or female perpetrator. Both professional groups considered that social service involvement and investigation were less warranted when the perpetrator was a woman. Case registration and imprisonmentof the male perpetrator was considered more important by both professional groups. Denov’s (2001) research explored psychiatrists’ and police perspectives on female sex offending. The study found that both professional groups viewed sexual abuse by women as less harmful than sexual abuse by men. Moreover, efforts were made by psychiatrists and police officers, either consciously or unconsciously, to transform the female sex offender and her offense, realigning them with more culturally acceptable notions of female behavior. This ultimately led to a denial of the problem.
And this group of professionals should know better also. Because of this many people who do mention they have been sexually abused by a woman are disbelieved or are told they are mistaken.

If you want to see how this denial plays out just look at one label that is used for some female sexual offenders. They are called Teacher/Lover. Yet there is no corresponding label for male offenders. Is it not offensive to call someone who sexually assaulted a child a “lover”? I do not think it would go over well if they tried to put that label on some male offenders.

This next piece is very important:

The professional assumption that sexual abuse by women is less harmful than similar abuse by men has potentially dangerous implications for victims of sexual abuse by women and their offenders. If professionals fail to recognize sexual abuse by women as potentially serious and harmful, child protection plans will not be made. Consequently, children in the care of or in contact with a female sex offender may be at risk and remain outside of the realm of professional attention and statutory intervention. In addition, such professional belief systems may work to diminish the level of harm inflicted on the victim. As a result, the experiences of victims who come forward to disclose sexual abuse by women may be trivialized, leading to delayed referral to social services, or failing to provide victims with the care and the necessary support services that they require (Hunter, 1990; Denov, 2004). Moreover, professional minimization or disbelief of victims’ allegations of female perpetrated sexual abuse may actually exacerbate the negative effects of the sexual abuse, ultimately inciting secondary victimization (Denov, 2003b). In a similar vein, female sex offenders who are perceived by professionals as largely innocuous will not be held accountable for their actions and may be allowed to drop out of the child welfare and/or criminal justice system without warrant. In such circumstances, female abusers will not gain insight into their behavior and may continue to pose a risk to children.
This next part looked at some of the data from the study:
The average age of onset of the female sexual abuse was age 5 and ended, on average, at age 12, with the average duration being 6 years. 36% reported being sexually abused more than once per week, 21% reported being abused once per week; 29% reported being abused once per month. 14% reported a single incident of abuse.

In total, 64% reported severe sexual abuse, while 71% reported moderate sexual abuse. 100% reported experiencing mild sexual abuse.

93% reported that the sexual abuse was highly damaging and difficult to recover from:

However, all of the victims who reported sexual abuse by men and women declared that the sexual abuse by women was more harmful and more damaging than the sexual abuse by men.

For example, one female participant, whose father attempted sexual intercourse with her at age 5 and had intercourse and oral sex with her until the age of 11, reported that her father’s actions were the least invasive of all the sexual abuse that she had experienced. To her, the sexual abuse by her mother and her grandmother was far more traumatic:

The [sexual abuse] done by my father was the least invasive. . . . The abuse by the females had far more of an effect on me than he did. . . . When looking at the big picture and the layers of hurt . . . out of all that happened to me, what my mother did was the absolute worst . . . far worse than what my father had done.

There is a deeper sense of betrayal [with a female perpetrator]. It’s like there’s no safe place. How can a woman face a world that belittles and condemns us because we’re women . . . and still turn her hand against her own sex? That’s a bitter betrayal.

100% reported a strong mistrust of women as a result of the sexual abuse experience.

29% reported having sexually abused children at some point in their lives. The men were charged and convicted. The sexual abuse by the women was never reported.

What about when MOM is the abuser?: Long Term Effects of Sexual Abuse by a Female.

Mothers in Heat: Genise Schu

Genise Schu


Genise Schu, 47-year-old married mother has been arrested for sexual misconduct with a 13-year-old boy, her son’s friend.

Schu faces counts of showing pornography to a minor, oral copulation of a minor under the age of 14, lewd act with a child under 14, sexual intercourse with a person under 18 years old, and oral copulation of a minor under the age of 18.
The relationship began when the alleged victim was 13 years old and would spend the night at the home of one of his classmates, her son. At some point, allegedly, she showed him pornography while others were sleeping, and eventually orally copulated the boy and had sexual intercourse at least twice.

Since then the two have allegedly had consensual sex hundreds of times during the relationship, according to a declaration from Santa Barbara police officer Corina Terrence.
According to Officer Terrence, Schu confessed to the sexual relationship.

Mothers in Heat: Genise Schu.


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